What are the advantages and the bad things about being the youngest of the familly ?
I am, and most people say that when you're the youngest of the familly your parents take more care about you, they give you what you want and the older kids often are jaleous of that...Well it's not my case, contrary to that, at home my older sister take advantage of the situation and my parents say that i have to respect them because they're older. The oldest of my sisters is 20 and she'll leave the house soon to go live in England (she's leaving on september 18th) and she was, like the only one who still...kind of cared about how i felt so sometimes she defended me when i was arguing with my other sister (who's 15), but now when she's gonna leave i'm really fearing to be alone with her.
My 15 yrs old sister is the kind of very girly teenage girls who reads celebrity & gossip magazines, who likes to break the rules, have bf's behind the parents back and who thinks she's old enough to care about herself and goes angry at anyone who doesn't let her do what she wants. So when the parents prohibit her something she gets mad, throws things on the floor, yells and destroys everything she sees, but since she knows i' m younger she, uses me as her slave and living punching ball everytime she gets angry. She's always commending me, telling me what to do like she actually knew everything,if i just dare to say my opinion or not do what she wants she throws the nearest object at me some examples are :
- she threw scissors to my face the last time, i used my hands to protect my face and it cut half of my finger it was like bleeding madly and i thought i'd loose it. Now i'm like fearing the day we'll start arguing in the ketchen with all the knifes nearby :(.
- When i'm on the computer and she's wanting to go, i have to leave immediatly and let her take my place if i don't want her to go crazy, scream or/and fight me, but when she is on the computer and i'm wanting to go on the computer to, i have to wait hours before i can or sometimes she says " i'll let u go on the computer tomorrow!!".
- When we are arguing she insults me and feels free to yell whatever she wants to me. One day when we argueing about some stupid thing, she called me a b*tch and i replied by calling her stupid, she got all crazy, locked the room, took all my schoolstuff out of my backpack and threw it all over the room & destroyed my personal stuff (like some of my birthday presents, some of my books,..) - we unfortunally share the same room - and she went out with her friends like nothing happened right after, i didn't take any revange and just put my stuff back where they're supposed to be (not because i'm afraid of her, but because when i take revange i always end up regretting it, i already did and i felt guilty right after even though i really hate her...). So she actually thinks she has the right to insult me and call me whatever she wants , but if I just dare to reply she gets angry.
- Like i already said, we share the same room, but she prohibits me to put posters of chibi mangas or disneys like because she says it's immature, it doesn't look "teenagerish", and she doesn't want to be ridiculized when her girl friends enter the room, so the walls of our room is full of posters of celebrities, parfumes and "super hot boys" (like she calls em), i don't feel right in such a room - all these boys on the posters are really ugly btw - but i still don't have anything to say about it because she immediatly takes off all the anime posters i put anyway.
- She went to a school trip in Switzerland for one week. I was quite hesitant about it, but when she came back from the school trip i bought her a lil present - i don't even know why i do this, but when i have some money i always buy presents to the people i know just because i like how it feels like to give it to them and see them smile, therefore, despite the fact she's not the person i like the most (my sister) i buy things everytimes she comes back from a school trip. 2 years later i come back from that same school trip and i didn't get anything. It's not that i'm always hoping to get something back from the person but i buy her a little thing everytime i can with the few money i have everytime she comes back from the schooltrip, she's doesn't lack money at all, but she's never wanting to buy me anything and all the little presents i buy her, i find them broken, hidden in some dark corner of the house btw -_-.
But for some reason, she totally respects all other members of the family who are older and doesn't dare to talk back to them at all, but when it's me, it's like i was insignifiant and the parents say that she doesn't have the right to do all that, they talk talks and talks again but don't really do nothing about it...
It sounds childish i know, but Those are just a few examples because if i start talking too much nobody will read the post.
What can i actually do to make her understand that i'm not meant to be treated like a slave just because i'm not older than she is ? Does anyone know why she's being so agressive ?
For all the people who are the youngest of the family, do you actually enjoy this or are there more bad things about it ?
I honestly don't know whay everybody says that being the youngest is always better, you get the smallest room, parents wanna know everything you do, you get the old used and crappy clothes of ur bro & sisters, everybody think they're superior to you, you always get blamed for everything, older people think that, because you're younger, you need to be overprotected, that u have no experience and that u have to learn from them and not by urself, olders get everything before u do and if you want to have the same they call you a 'copycat', you get judged through the behaviour of your older brother of ur sister and/or get copared to them, they don't do their share of the household chores, but get angry at you if u don't do it etc...
I am, and most people say that when you're the youngest of the familly your parents take more care about you, they give you what you want and the older kids often are jaleous of that...Well it's not my case, contrary to that, at home my older sister take advantage of the situation and my parents say that i have to respect them because they're older. The oldest of my sisters is 20 and she'll leave the house soon to go live in England (she's leaving on september 18th) and she was, like the only one who still...kind of cared about how i felt so sometimes she defended me when i was arguing with my other sister (who's 15), but now when she's gonna leave i'm really fearing to be alone with her.
My 15 yrs old sister is the kind of very girly teenage girls who reads celebrity & gossip magazines, who likes to break the rules, have bf's behind the parents back and who thinks she's old enough to care about herself and goes angry at anyone who doesn't let her do what she wants. So when the parents prohibit her something she gets mad, throws things on the floor, yells and destroys everything she sees, but since she knows i' m younger she, uses me as her slave and living punching ball everytime she gets angry. She's always commending me, telling me what to do like she actually knew everything,if i just dare to say my opinion or not do what she wants she throws the nearest object at me some examples are :
- she threw scissors to my face the last time, i used my hands to protect my face and it cut half of my finger it was like bleeding madly and i thought i'd loose it. Now i'm like fearing the day we'll start arguing in the ketchen with all the knifes nearby :(.
- When i'm on the computer and she's wanting to go, i have to leave immediatly and let her take my place if i don't want her to go crazy, scream or/and fight me, but when she is on the computer and i'm wanting to go on the computer to, i have to wait hours before i can or sometimes she says " i'll let u go on the computer tomorrow!!".
- When we are arguing she insults me and feels free to yell whatever she wants to me. One day when we argueing about some stupid thing, she called me a b*tch and i replied by calling her stupid, she got all crazy, locked the room, took all my schoolstuff out of my backpack and threw it all over the room & destroyed my personal stuff (like some of my birthday presents, some of my books,..) - we unfortunally share the same room - and she went out with her friends like nothing happened right after, i didn't take any revange and just put my stuff back where they're supposed to be (not because i'm afraid of her, but because when i take revange i always end up regretting it, i already did and i felt guilty right after even though i really hate her...). So she actually thinks she has the right to insult me and call me whatever she wants , but if I just dare to reply she gets angry.
- Like i already said, we share the same room, but she prohibits me to put posters of chibi mangas or disneys like because she says it's immature, it doesn't look "teenagerish", and she doesn't want to be ridiculized when her girl friends enter the room, so the walls of our room is full of posters of celebrities, parfumes and "super hot boys" (like she calls em), i don't feel right in such a room - all these boys on the posters are really ugly btw - but i still don't have anything to say about it because she immediatly takes off all the anime posters i put anyway.
- She went to a school trip in Switzerland for one week. I was quite hesitant about it, but when she came back from the school trip i bought her a lil present - i don't even know why i do this, but when i have some money i always buy presents to the people i know just because i like how it feels like to give it to them and see them smile, therefore, despite the fact she's not the person i like the most (my sister) i buy things everytimes she comes back from a school trip. 2 years later i come back from that same school trip and i didn't get anything. It's not that i'm always hoping to get something back from the person but i buy her a little thing everytime i can with the few money i have everytime she comes back from the schooltrip, she's doesn't lack money at all, but she's never wanting to buy me anything and all the little presents i buy her, i find them broken, hidden in some dark corner of the house btw -_-.
But for some reason, she totally respects all other members of the family who are older and doesn't dare to talk back to them at all, but when it's me, it's like i was insignifiant and the parents say that she doesn't have the right to do all that, they talk talks and talks again but don't really do nothing about it...
It sounds childish i know, but Those are just a few examples because if i start talking too much nobody will read the post.
What can i actually do to make her understand that i'm not meant to be treated like a slave just because i'm not older than she is ? Does anyone know why she's being so agressive ?
For all the people who are the youngest of the family, do you actually enjoy this or are there more bad things about it ?
I honestly don't know whay everybody says that being the youngest is always better, you get the smallest room, parents wanna know everything you do, you get the old used and crappy clothes of ur bro & sisters, everybody think they're superior to you, you always get blamed for everything, older people think that, because you're younger, you need to be overprotected, that u have no experience and that u have to learn from them and not by urself, olders get everything before u do and if you want to have the same they call you a 'copycat', you get judged through the behaviour of your older brother of ur sister and/or get copared to them, they don't do their share of the household chores, but get angry at you if u don't do it etc...
