ok so here is my situation.......
for about two and a half years or so i dated a guy (lets just call him drummerboy) of and on. numerous nights i found myself crying myself to sleep because he broke up with me for yet another seemingly bogus reason. he would tell me that he was having family problems or that his parents were making him end things with me. i believed him and gave him chance after chance even when my friends told me it was a bad idea. something in my gut just told me he was telling the truth and made me not want to get over him. so then the more recent time he broke up with me was because he found out i was moving away for college and didn't think we would make it even though i told him numerous times that i loved him and he was the guy for me. finally he got it through his head and decided he didn't want to loose me. i told him that the only way i would get back together with him was if he promised to me that he wouldn't leave me and break my heart and put me through the hell i went through ever again. he promised that to me. then one day after i had moved he asked if i had been talking to one of my exes (who i dumped for drummerboy) and i was honest and straight forward with him and said yes i had and that him and i were friends and that i was not going to ruin a relationship with a friend just because he didn't like them. he flipped and the end product was us ending it.
so now that you know the background here's the problem:
after our breakup a friend (we'll call him militaryman) i had met in my new "neighborhood" expressed to me that he liked me. i had never met someone i had so much in common with and had never met someone who i hit it off with so well. so of course my immediate response when he asked me out was yes. we have been dating for almost 3 weeks and now my ex came back to me and wants to work things out and change his ways. he says he loves me and wants to marry me and that i am the only girl for him. he wants me to end it with militaryman. i told him i loved him too and that i would dump militaryman for him...........but now i'm not so sure i want to do that. i really like militaryman and like i said we have such an amazing time together and we hit it off the first day we met. i really love to talk to him and spend time with him and i find myself thinking of him and missing him when he is gone.
so my question is what do i do? what would you do? is this thing with militaryman just a fling? i would really love some peoples' thoughts on this. it has totally consumed my mind and my life. i really need help. :confused:
thanks in advance for any advice
superfly_sammie :cool:
for about two and a half years or so i dated a guy (lets just call him drummerboy) of and on. numerous nights i found myself crying myself to sleep because he broke up with me for yet another seemingly bogus reason. he would tell me that he was having family problems or that his parents were making him end things with me. i believed him and gave him chance after chance even when my friends told me it was a bad idea. something in my gut just told me he was telling the truth and made me not want to get over him. so then the more recent time he broke up with me was because he found out i was moving away for college and didn't think we would make it even though i told him numerous times that i loved him and he was the guy for me. finally he got it through his head and decided he didn't want to loose me. i told him that the only way i would get back together with him was if he promised to me that he wouldn't leave me and break my heart and put me through the hell i went through ever again. he promised that to me. then one day after i had moved he asked if i had been talking to one of my exes (who i dumped for drummerboy) and i was honest and straight forward with him and said yes i had and that him and i were friends and that i was not going to ruin a relationship with a friend just because he didn't like them. he flipped and the end product was us ending it.
so now that you know the background here's the problem:
after our breakup a friend (we'll call him militaryman) i had met in my new "neighborhood" expressed to me that he liked me. i had never met someone i had so much in common with and had never met someone who i hit it off with so well. so of course my immediate response when he asked me out was yes. we have been dating for almost 3 weeks and now my ex came back to me and wants to work things out and change his ways. he says he loves me and wants to marry me and that i am the only girl for him. he wants me to end it with militaryman. i told him i loved him too and that i would dump militaryman for him...........but now i'm not so sure i want to do that. i really like militaryman and like i said we have such an amazing time together and we hit it off the first day we met. i really love to talk to him and spend time with him and i find myself thinking of him and missing him when he is gone.
so my question is what do i do? what would you do? is this thing with militaryman just a fling? i would really love some peoples' thoughts on this. it has totally consumed my mind and my life. i really need help. :confused:
thanks in advance for any advice
superfly_sammie :cool: