Ok, so I got a bit of a story to tell, I understand if you don't want to read it all, in which case, just scroll down, I have a mini summary there at the bottom.
So I'm currently 17 and a half, I have my license, go to a very small private school and get decent grades (A's and B's with the exception of AP calculus, which I am getting a D in right now, but my grade is slowly going up.). I have always been a little shy until middle of last year when I got to be friends with most the seniors at my school and attended a party or two. My parents are not the type to just let me go over another person's house without first practically interrogating their parents and making sure their parents are home when I'll be there. Thus going to a party for me is quite difficult. Either way, now I'm much more out going and quite popular in my school. The thing is, about 6 months ago (a few weeks after the start of the school year) my mother, with no warning of any kind, waited until I was out of the house and completely tossed my room. She found a small stash of weed I had, along with a home made bong and hand carved pipe. I had started smoking on occasion at the end of last school year and continued through the summer. This meant no more privileges of any kind for me. my parents took away my license, notified my school, notified my scout troop (I'm a boy scout of 11 years and am almost an eagle), did not allow me to close my door, or be anywhere alone at all for that matter.
I have now been clean for approximately 6 months, which my parents know for a fact, for they have given me roughly bi-weekly urine tests since they found it. As a senior, I had privileges to go off campus at my school with parental permission during lunch and free periods. That is no longer true since my parents revoked the permission. I am allowed to still work towards my eagle with scouts, but my scoutmaster (a good friend) says I'm lucky that they're letting me do that.
Having it been 6 months since I was caught, and being a senior in high school nearing the end of the year, I'm obviously eager for some freedom. My parents are still the same way, I never go out with friends by ourselves, for my parents don't allow it, I am now allowed to drive, but only with one of my parents in the car, as if I only had my permit. I am now allowed to close my door, but they've taken the TV and computer (both of which I personally bought with money I earned from working last summer) which were in my room, so I have no real reason to be in there anymore.
My main issue right now, is I want to borrow the car. my parents originally said when they found my weed that I wasn't going to be able to drive by myself with their car for one year (a little harsh, considering a year from that time I'll be well into my first semester at college...). I asked today, for the first time since the punishment, in a polite, calm manner, and my mom's instant reaction was "I don't think so! your year isn't up!". All I want is to occasionally go out with a friend and be able to do it on my time, when I want and not have to rely on my mother or father to drive me and pick me up. you know, feel some sort of freedom and be able to do something on my own. Its truly upsetting, in fact, this should probably be in the venting section, but I don't know. I just can't wait to get away. many days I would gladly stay at school longer and not have to go home. Its not that my parents do anything to really hurt me or are rude to me, I just can't stand to be around them, and I feel like a jerk for it.
So way up before this, I said I'd have a summary, so here it is:
My parents caught me with weed 6 months ago and gave me many punishments that include but are not limited to : 1 year no driving by myself, informing my school of the issue, informing my scout troop of the issue, no closed doors in the house, no being alone at all at home to this day. What I want, is to be able to borrow the car, and go to the movies, or go to a friends house, or anything really, and drive by myself. I'm 17 and a half.
I guess anything really would be nice...
thanks all.
So I'm currently 17 and a half, I have my license, go to a very small private school and get decent grades (A's and B's with the exception of AP calculus, which I am getting a D in right now, but my grade is slowly going up.). I have always been a little shy until middle of last year when I got to be friends with most the seniors at my school and attended a party or two. My parents are not the type to just let me go over another person's house without first practically interrogating their parents and making sure their parents are home when I'll be there. Thus going to a party for me is quite difficult. Either way, now I'm much more out going and quite popular in my school. The thing is, about 6 months ago (a few weeks after the start of the school year) my mother, with no warning of any kind, waited until I was out of the house and completely tossed my room. She found a small stash of weed I had, along with a home made bong and hand carved pipe. I had started smoking on occasion at the end of last school year and continued through the summer. This meant no more privileges of any kind for me. my parents took away my license, notified my school, notified my scout troop (I'm a boy scout of 11 years and am almost an eagle), did not allow me to close my door, or be anywhere alone at all for that matter.
I have now been clean for approximately 6 months, which my parents know for a fact, for they have given me roughly bi-weekly urine tests since they found it. As a senior, I had privileges to go off campus at my school with parental permission during lunch and free periods. That is no longer true since my parents revoked the permission. I am allowed to still work towards my eagle with scouts, but my scoutmaster (a good friend) says I'm lucky that they're letting me do that.
Having it been 6 months since I was caught, and being a senior in high school nearing the end of the year, I'm obviously eager for some freedom. My parents are still the same way, I never go out with friends by ourselves, for my parents don't allow it, I am now allowed to drive, but only with one of my parents in the car, as if I only had my permit. I am now allowed to close my door, but they've taken the TV and computer (both of which I personally bought with money I earned from working last summer) which were in my room, so I have no real reason to be in there anymore.
My main issue right now, is I want to borrow the car. my parents originally said when they found my weed that I wasn't going to be able to drive by myself with their car for one year (a little harsh, considering a year from that time I'll be well into my first semester at college...). I asked today, for the first time since the punishment, in a polite, calm manner, and my mom's instant reaction was "I don't think so! your year isn't up!". All I want is to occasionally go out with a friend and be able to do it on my time, when I want and not have to rely on my mother or father to drive me and pick me up. you know, feel some sort of freedom and be able to do something on my own. Its truly upsetting, in fact, this should probably be in the venting section, but I don't know. I just can't wait to get away. many days I would gladly stay at school longer and not have to go home. Its not that my parents do anything to really hurt me or are rude to me, I just can't stand to be around them, and I feel like a jerk for it.
So way up before this, I said I'd have a summary, so here it is:
My parents caught me with weed 6 months ago and gave me many punishments that include but are not limited to : 1 year no driving by myself, informing my school of the issue, informing my scout troop of the issue, no closed doors in the house, no being alone at all at home to this day. What I want, is to be able to borrow the car, and go to the movies, or go to a friends house, or anything really, and drive by myself. I'm 17 and a half.
I guess anything really would be nice...
thanks all.