I dont know if this is just me and my family, or all families in general. Someone help me out. So in my family, i only consider it as me and parent's. I do have aunt's, uncle's, cousin's.. etc.. etc... But the main thing is, how they arent really 'family'. Yes all my uncle and aunts are blood related to mom on her side of the family, and to my dad on his side. But what kills is me is how all my aunt's, my uncles, and my parents all gossip about each other and constantly talk behind each other's bacc.
Its like on some day's i see my mom gossiping on the phone about one of my aunt's, just to hang up..then call the aunt she was just gossiping about and talk shit about the one she was just on the phone with.(I know its confusing, but read it over and try to bare with me.)
I also know all my aunts and uncles in addition to gossiping and talking behind each other's bacc's.. they also gossip and talk behind my parents bacc's with each other. The worst part is how they smile and look friendly and put on a nice act just after they finished gossiping about the same person.
Its like whenever i do something wrong, if i get fired from a job, get arrested, get suspended from school etc.. etc.. Its like my parents first course of action is making sure the rest of the family doesnt find out.
Most of the time, my uncles and aunts will call our house bragging about their kids. its usually about how their kids get great grades, or how they got a scholorship, sometimes about sport's. My parents either have to lie or change the subject. Afterward's they yell at me and compare me to every cousin i have, then worst of all compare me to my sisters.
The real part that kills me though, is how this isnt a family. Its just a group of blood related people who have family gatherings just so they can gossip about each other. They act very nice and friendly to each other, but the second the door shuts they are always talking about somebody.
Im starting to think the reason im kind amessed up is because of this shitty family and how none of my extended family ever gave me support, or how i could never go to them for love, or help or advice...because they would just pretend to listen and tell someone the second i leave....
Its like on some day's i see my mom gossiping on the phone about one of my aunt's, just to hang up..then call the aunt she was just gossiping about and talk shit about the one she was just on the phone with.(I know its confusing, but read it over and try to bare with me.)
I also know all my aunts and uncles in addition to gossiping and talking behind each other's bacc's.. they also gossip and talk behind my parents bacc's with each other. The worst part is how they smile and look friendly and put on a nice act just after they finished gossiping about the same person.
Its like whenever i do something wrong, if i get fired from a job, get arrested, get suspended from school etc.. etc.. Its like my parents first course of action is making sure the rest of the family doesnt find out.
Most of the time, my uncles and aunts will call our house bragging about their kids. its usually about how their kids get great grades, or how they got a scholorship, sometimes about sport's. My parents either have to lie or change the subject. Afterward's they yell at me and compare me to every cousin i have, then worst of all compare me to my sisters.
The real part that kills me though, is how this isnt a family. Its just a group of blood related people who have family gatherings just so they can gossip about each other. They act very nice and friendly to each other, but the second the door shuts they are always talking about somebody.
Im starting to think the reason im kind amessed up is because of this shitty family and how none of my extended family ever gave me support, or how i could never go to them for love, or help or advice...because they would just pretend to listen and tell someone the second i leave....