Hi, I'm facing a problem that I could really use some help with.
About an hour ago, I found out that my best friend and my ex-girlfriend are going out together. The entire situation is, I suppose a bit complicted, but here are the basics:
I stopped going out with my girlfriend on 15th April this year, but we are still close friends. My best friend knows (and previously agreed with me) that I wouldn't really be happy with it. They both live very closeby and we all see each other a lot, so you can hopefully imagine how it would hurt me.
My best friend broke up with his other girlfriend last Sunday and seemed pretty bothered by this, which was odd since he didn't mind cheating on her with my ex-girlfriend while he was going out with her. Also, he can't be that put out by it since he's now going out with my ex...
Anyway, since discovering this, my ex insisted on ringing me to talk about it, so I told her I was extremely disappointed in both of them. I feel lied to, since my ex once said that she would never go out with my best friend if it would hurt me and my best friend once said that he saw me as a brother and could never do something like that to me. He also said that even if he did, it was still a bit soon after she and I went out, since we were going out for over a year and were very close.
I really don't know exactly how to react. I am very disappointed in both of them for many reasons. My ex was telling my on Tuesday how much she hated my best friend and was unlikely to go out with him and my best friend was telling me how annoying he found my ex too. I haven't exploded (as they thought I would), but I have said how disappointed I am. The thing is, I've known my best friend for 7 years now and I really don't want to lose him as a friend, even though he's recently done some seriously out-of-order things.
I just need other people's opinions on what to think. I think I have every right to be annoyed and frankly it's going to be hard getting along with either of them for a while, but I don't want to lose them completely, particularly my best friend. Or am I being too naive? I'm really confused
About an hour ago, I found out that my best friend and my ex-girlfriend are going out together. The entire situation is, I suppose a bit complicted, but here are the basics:
I stopped going out with my girlfriend on 15th April this year, but we are still close friends. My best friend knows (and previously agreed with me) that I wouldn't really be happy with it. They both live very closeby and we all see each other a lot, so you can hopefully imagine how it would hurt me.
My best friend broke up with his other girlfriend last Sunday and seemed pretty bothered by this, which was odd since he didn't mind cheating on her with my ex-girlfriend while he was going out with her. Also, he can't be that put out by it since he's now going out with my ex...
Anyway, since discovering this, my ex insisted on ringing me to talk about it, so I told her I was extremely disappointed in both of them. I feel lied to, since my ex once said that she would never go out with my best friend if it would hurt me and my best friend once said that he saw me as a brother and could never do something like that to me. He also said that even if he did, it was still a bit soon after she and I went out, since we were going out for over a year and were very close.
I really don't know exactly how to react. I am very disappointed in both of them for many reasons. My ex was telling my on Tuesday how much she hated my best friend and was unlikely to go out with him and my best friend was telling me how annoying he found my ex too. I haven't exploded (as they thought I would), but I have said how disappointed I am. The thing is, I've known my best friend for 7 years now and I really don't want to lose him as a friend, even though he's recently done some seriously out-of-order things.
I just need other people's opinions on what to think. I think I have every right to be annoyed and frankly it's going to be hard getting along with either of them for a while, but I don't want to lose them completely, particularly my best friend. Or am I being too naive? I'm really confused