How do guys find other gay/bi guys around them? I've been looking forever and can't find anyone around me that is bi or gay. Half the problem is that I'm not out to anyone yet, and I'd like to keep it that way. Any tips?
How do you do it?
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i kinda feel the same way
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haha same heeeeere!
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All I could think of really is gay bars and clubs, as well as maybe your local LGBTQ center. It definitely depends on where you are located in the world, but there are resources that exists.[CENTER]You bitches are beautiful. :hugs:[/CENTER]
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Suicide Season wrote:
How do guys find other gay/bi guys around them? I've been looking forever and can't find anyone around me that is bi or gay. Half the problem is that I'm not out to anyone yet, and I'd like to keep it that way. Any tips?
Use the Internet.
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There are lots more around than you might think. It's just a matter of knowing what to look for. A good bi-dar helps.
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armyforthebroken wrote:
All I could think of really is gay bars and clubs, as well as maybe your local LGBTQ center. It definitely depends on where you are located in the world, but there are resources that exists.
We don't have gay bars or LGBTQ centers/groups where I live lol. And I think I would be too young for a gay bar anyways O_o -
Suicide Season wrote:
We don't have gay bars or LGBTQ centers/groups where I live lol. And I think I would be too young for a gay bar anyways O_o
Well, you could always use the internet like RMG said. I would imagine that you'd be young for a gay bar anyways, lol. There are always resources![CENTER]You bitches are beautiful. :hugs:[/CENTER] -
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Rockefeller wrote:
There are lots more around than you might think. It's just a matter of knowing what to look for. A good bi-dar helps.
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JCpatriots wrote:
I've always wondered this myself, especially since I'm not out to anyone except online friends and my mom. I also have a really hard time socialising with people as it is (damn Aspergers), never mind trying to find other gays or bisexuals. I suppose really the only thing is gay bars, LGBT clubs, being out to more people, stuff like that. I dunno, sorry I can't be much more of a help.
A good bi-dar? Where can one purchase such a device? :o
No but seriously, how do you have a good bi-dar? I can understand gaydar, if someone lacks total interest in the opposite sex, is always checking out the same sex, etc. But with bisexual people, they can like either sex, so if all you see is them crushing over the opposite sex but you don't see them checking out the same sex (which it seems like a decent amount of bi people do, say they are straight when they are dating the opposite sex, or gay when they're dating the same sex because of biphobia) how can you even tell they are bi? :confused:
Like I can usually get a good idea if someone is either straight or gay if I know them, talk to them long enough, look for some signs, etc. When you do that, you normally either assume they're gay or straight, not bi (at least I do), right?
(I hope that I'm making sense here.)
It's just sort of an innate skill I guess? Really good intuition that is always right?
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Rockefeller wrote:
Pretty friggin handy tool. Dems be lurkin everywheres!
Yep. :drool:
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JCpatriots wrote:
No but seriously, how do you have a good bi-dar? I can understand gaydar, if someone lacks total interest in the opposite sex, is always checking out the same sex, etc. But with bisexual people, they can like either sex, so if all you see is them crushing over the opposite sex but you don't see them checking out the same sex (which it seems like a decent amount of bi people do, say they are straight when they are dating the opposite sex, or gay when they're dating the same sex because of biphobia) how can you even tell they are bi? :confused:
Well, all bi guys I've known do put out at least some vibe, be it ever so slight, that I can pick up on. Some of my techniques I've used in the past involve telling a "gay joke" or "acting gay" within a group of friends to see who freaks out and who laughs. In one case, a guy I knew who had a girlfriend seemed to "stick out" from the rest because he was *really* easy-going and thought my gayness was funny. Turned out, he was bi.
Sometimes they can be a bit more closeted, and you have to be high on the list of people you trust or they'll never reveal it. -
JCpatriots wrote:
A good bi-dar? Where can one purchase such a device? :o
I wish it was this easy,
Whatever I still get them boyz when I want :cool:The post was edited 2 times, last by xyzdragoncanon ().
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Use the interwebs.
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Suicide Season wrote:
I use some internet sites, but for most you have to be 18 or over. Do you know of any that are for all ages?
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the whole point is 18 and up its illeagal under that
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morgan.holt wrote:
the whole point is 18 and up its illeagal under that
This.
You'll have to distract yourself with more important stuff. Like school. It's not as if there's a hurry anyways, when it happens it happens. -
Well, if you know at least one person who is gay/bi, then it's a lot more easier to find other. I have one gay friend, and each he is talking to me,, it's like gay are falling from the sky like rain. We also have a really nice gay bar down town, that can helps.
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