I don't really know a good starting point for a summary, so I'll just list some stuff.
For a basis on everything, I am a junior, she's a sophomore, and we've been dating for just over 11 months.
Overall I'd say that I have liked the relationship, but it has gotten worse in the last 2-3 months. She has a condition called PMDD which is pretty much just extreme PMS. I think that's the main reason I'm considering breaking up with her because it gets pretty tiring because it lasts for about 2 of the 4 weeks in the cycle. I have just dealt with it for this long because I know everybody has some sort of problem, so this is hers, and it isn't there the entire time, only about half the time. She has tried to get it treated, but nothing has worked so far.
Unrelated to that, I think I may be getting tired of having a girlfriend, because I've considered what it might be like dating her, versus being single, and I'm starting to lean towards being single.
On a different side, I've thought about how breaking up with her will effect her, and me. I know that I shouldn't base the breaking up or not with how she will be effected, but I'm a very caring person, and I don't want to hurt her. I know that it would make her sad (understandable), lonely, and less trusting (I've told her before when she said she was scared of me leaving her [when our relationship was a bit rocky] that I wouldn't leave her).
It would be hard on me because she would likely be in the same area at lunch, which is where all of my friends are (most of our friends are the same), so it would be awkward.
So my main question is, should I break up with her, or should I just continue enduring her while she's experiencing the PMDD so I can still have the non-PMDD time which is really good?
PS. I prefer not to get some simple answer such as "Yes break up with her" or "No, stay with her", I'd rather have one of those with a short (or long) explanation to why you think that.
PPS. I will not be back to check on this for around 14 or so hours due to sleep then school.
For a basis on everything, I am a junior, she's a sophomore, and we've been dating for just over 11 months.
Overall I'd say that I have liked the relationship, but it has gotten worse in the last 2-3 months. She has a condition called PMDD which is pretty much just extreme PMS. I think that's the main reason I'm considering breaking up with her because it gets pretty tiring because it lasts for about 2 of the 4 weeks in the cycle. I have just dealt with it for this long because I know everybody has some sort of problem, so this is hers, and it isn't there the entire time, only about half the time. She has tried to get it treated, but nothing has worked so far.
Unrelated to that, I think I may be getting tired of having a girlfriend, because I've considered what it might be like dating her, versus being single, and I'm starting to lean towards being single.
On a different side, I've thought about how breaking up with her will effect her, and me. I know that I shouldn't base the breaking up or not with how she will be effected, but I'm a very caring person, and I don't want to hurt her. I know that it would make her sad (understandable), lonely, and less trusting (I've told her before when she said she was scared of me leaving her [when our relationship was a bit rocky] that I wouldn't leave her).
It would be hard on me because she would likely be in the same area at lunch, which is where all of my friends are (most of our friends are the same), so it would be awkward.
So my main question is, should I break up with her, or should I just continue enduring her while she's experiencing the PMDD so I can still have the non-PMDD time which is really good?
PS. I prefer not to get some simple answer such as "Yes break up with her" or "No, stay with her", I'd rather have one of those with a short (or long) explanation to why you think that.
PPS. I will not be back to check on this for around 14 or so hours due to sleep then school.
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