how seriuos is the relationship? and I understand how he feels, he doesn't want another mother using his kid for money ect.
I think its important for you both to want to bring another innocent being into the world.

Even if you feel like you're mean tot be a mother, that doesn't mean you have to be a mother RIGHT now.

I would talk to him. tell him that you cant wait to have a baby, but that you want to have one with HIM. and when HES ready so he will be an amazing father with you.

then listen to what he thinks and what hes afraid of and try to help him through it.
Also, ask him whether he wants to spend more time with his child, and if he does, help him fight for it even if it comes to court. (I know it seems unlikely that the FATHER will win in such cases, but more and more courts are changing to make sure the child is in the best situation it can be in, and be able to be in contact with both parents)

And maybe its just not your time yet. you WILL have a child one day just maybe not RIGHT NOW. :] it'll work out.

if it makes you feel better, i cannot WAIIIITTTTTT to have a baby and im only 16. i have such a long way to go before i can be a mother, but i want to be one so badly.

Are you sure there aren't underlying reasons why she won't let your boyfriend see his kid?

What is preventing you from waiting longer?

Before you even consider it, you need to be around children as much as you possibly can. Get your hands on any babysitting jobs you see, work in a kid's camp if possible. Offer to take care of your relative's children when they go on vacation, etc. Being around children is almost always different from what we think it will be like. Have you ever had a pet, preferably more than one and something that doesn't live in a cage or tank? Have you even thought about the money you'll need, and what you want to do about your career/education? Why not wait until you get married?

I think you need more pets, Definitely.

Oi, okay first you aren't stupid it's not stupid to want to be a mom. However this seems like a really stressful point in your boyfriends life and with trying to fight for custody for his first daughter I can completely understand why he wouldn't want one... now.

Ask yourself a couple of questions.. haha and be honest with yourself.
Is any part of you wanting a baby right now a part of wanting to 'secure' your relationship. When a significant other has a baby with someone else it can make you feel insecure or like he has a greater connection with the other person because of it. So make sure that is not a reason

Another I understand that you are bipolar, are you medicated? Most of the meds used to treat this are not good for infants. Along with the bipolar thing and I'm generalizing this may or may not apply to you which is why I'm telling you to ask yourself. While the research isn't completely conclusive on this bi polar is something they think is hereditary like schizophrenia is passed down. Is yours under control and do you want to risk passing it. Also when you get lows do you feel like you need an infant more? Do you see this as a cure? Something really important too, I know a lot of people with mood disorders want babies for what I consider, the wrong things. Mood disorders make you crave affection and an infant is an infinite source of unconditional love. But you are the parent and while you can love her loving you it should not be placed on a baby to provide 'filler' for you.

Some of these are generalizations just think about them. Just make sure you want a baby for the correct reasons. And I would still wait a while til things are smoothed out with his other chid and til you have a place with furniture Cute pic sitting on the floor... I've been there.

Hi, You'll get your chance to be a mother one day but, you can't honestly say that I want to be a mom because I love my boyfriend. How do you know if he's going to stay throughout the whole pregnancy? I've seen it plently of times to know there some cases were men bail out. You have to think you think a lot of levels of having a baby. First if finances. You need to be at least stable for a year or 2 before even thinking about having a baby; I have friends who got pregnant on accident and they're struggling to make it. Either their boyfriends or themsleves have to work 2 jobs to pay the pills to keep things balanced in the house. Second you need to make sure that you are emotionally ready. A baby can bring all kinds of emotions out of you, even after birth. You need to be ready to take on all those emotions at once. Lastly, I'm not going to ramble anymore, you need to respect your boyfriend's decision to not want another baby right now. Let him come around to it. You're not stupid for wanting a baby but you need to take everything, that everyone's had said into play.

Your boyfriend needs to seek a laywer about getting some type of custody, and if she doesn't go by what the court says she can lose her custody rights.

How old are you?
Aren't you supposed to at least marry someone before thinking about having kids?...

You've been dating for 6 months, I was talking about forever at that point as well. You don't want a baby right now. You may think you're in the greatest relationship ever, but be open minded, know that things could happen and wait a little while until you're sure you want one right now and with your current boyfriend.

I understand exacty what your going through. Alot of my friends are in the same position. But the idea of having a baby around and actually having a baby around are two completly different ideas. You think about all the cuddles and how cute they are. You dont necessaril think about waking up every 2 hours for feed or buying all the nappes and wipes. Its really hard. You give up everything for them. I know i wouldnt change it for the world, but to give up your childhood is a really hard thing. You wont be able to go out and enjoy yourself for months. Maybe you should do temprorary babysitting just to ease your temptations and to be around children until your partner is ready for the responsibility of another child?

Oh my gosh, how old are you????????
I wanted a baby at 13, and it was just like this huge mistake after I had it... had to dump the damn thing in the dumpster......... lol JK!!! haha you actually believed I dumped a baby in the dumpster! FOOLSSSSS!
But, anyway, baby Mercedes is sitting right next to me, 5 years old....... and she's just too damn cute worth every second of treachorous screaming