How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

    • How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      I don't want to totally blank him, but letting him know I don't like him in that way would be nice -.-

      He talks forever about nothing on MSN, but in person he's really quiet and doesn't talk much but I'm almost 100% sure he likes me. (As is everyone else ><)

      If I don't put *hug* when he signs off he's all "Where's my hug?!" and similar things to that, so he's making it rather difficult for me to let him know I don't like him like that. He's mistaken me being nice and friendly, for me being interested in him.

      Does anyone have a way, short of having him see my relationship status change on facebook (which could very well happen soon and that'd be a slap in the face for him ><), to let him know I am NOT interested?

      Thanks :)
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    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      And I thought all girls mastered in the art of turning down a man in the nicest way possible... Guess I was wrong. As a guy, I'd suggest to be direct in saying whats inside you, but that would probably be the last thing you'd do. Woman.....hmm....try something like this : -

      Talk to him less on msn? Act busy even if you're not? If he asks for a hug or acts so clingy, tell him that you dont really feel like hugging right now, if he acts like in love, be straight and give him hints that you're not.The best thing is dont start a conversation with him yourself? And if he always starts the conversation, then try to ignore him at times, talk less and act as if you're busy. Slowly he should start to lose some interest and as he finds you're not single anymore, he'll either stop talking to you completely or he will have a go and fight(immatured people do this when they're butthurt).

      Or just leave it for all and go on with your life, if he is hurt, well he will be nevertheless, you cant stop it. The day he finds you're not single, he'll be very very hurt, provided he does like you as you describe. Even if you turn him down in the nicest way possible, it will still hurt him, if not as much as a direct turn down, but still very close to that.

    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      Mayank wrote:

      And I thought all girls mastered in the art of turning down a man in the nicest way possible... Guess I was wrong. As a guy, I'd suggest to be direct in saying whats inside you, but that would probably be the last thing you'd do. Woman.....hmm....try something like this : -

      Talk to him less on msn? Act busy even if you're not? If he asks for a hug or acts so clingy, tell him that you dont really feel like hugging right now, if he acts like in love, be straight and give him hints that you're not.The best thing is dont start a conversation with him yourself? And if he always starts the conversation, then try to ignore him at times, talk less and act as if you're busy. Slowly he should start to lose some interest and as he finds you're not single anymore, he'll either stop talking to you completely or he will have a go and fight(immatured people do this when they're butthurt).

      Or just leave it for all and go on with your life, if he is hurt, well he will be nevertheless, you cant stop it. The day he finds you're not single, he'll be very very hurt, provided he does like you as you describe. Even if you turn him down in the nicest way possible, it will still hurt him, if not as much as a direct turn down, but still very close to that.


      I never start conversations with him, and I have been gradually talking less and less, but he still will not take a hint D; He's been like this for about 2 months. I'm rubbish in these situations, so thank you very much for the advice!
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    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      Hmm weird, very weird. If you never start the conversation first, why the hell he cannot understand that you are not interested. Hmm, no wonder you dont have any feelings for him :lol:

      The last option with you is to say it directly, but if he is that clingy, it can burst him into a big emotional depression.....

    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      i like to be more of a straight shooter, i don't like playing games & trying to make the guy get the hint. because truth is, sometimes guys just don't get the hints. let him know straight up that you don't like him that way. maybe ask him if he's interested in anyone, and i'm sure he'll want to know if you're interested in someone, then just let him know you don't like anyone.

    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      I think you should just be straightforward with him. It's the easiest way, because regardless of how you do it, he's probably going to be a little hurt. The more time it takes him to get these 'hints', the more time his feelings have to possibly grow. Guys don't always catch the subtleties. Sometimes you need to be straightforward and just tell him exactly how it is. He'll be hurt, but he will get over it. The sooner you tell him, the sooner you can both just get on with your lives.
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    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      Kaitlin wrote:

      i like to be more of a straight shooter, i don't like playing games & trying to make the guy get the hint. because truth is, sometimes guys just don't get the hints. let him know straight up that you don't like him that way. maybe ask him if he's interested in anyone, and i'm sure he'll want to know if you're interested in someone, then just let him know you don't like anyone.


      But I DO like someone, wouldn't letting him know that be really harsh? D:

      Mayank wrote:

      Hmm weird, very weird. If you never start the conversation first, why the hell he cannot understand that you are not interested. Hmm, no wonder you dont have any feelings for him :lol:

      The last option with you is to say it directly, but if he is that clingy, it can burst him into a big emotional depression.....


      I don't even know why he doesn't get it D;

      trixsta wrote:

      or say "im glad i have you as a friend" or something similar lol


      Knowing him he'll take that as a flirtatious comment instead of an "I don't like you like that" comment -.-

      Jasmine wrote:

      I think you should just be straightforward with him. It's the easiest way, because regardless of how you do it, he's probably going to be a little hurt. The more time it takes him to get these 'hints', the more time his feelings have to possibly grow. Guys don't always catch the subtleties. Sometimes you need to be straightforward and just tell him exactly how it is. He'll be hurt, but he will get over it. The sooner you tell him, the sooner you can both just get on with your lives.


      Looks like I'll have to go for the straightforward way then ><

      Ashique wrote:

      how old r u? :s


      I'm 15, why?

      Thanks guyssss :)
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    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      Ohhhhhh you girls know how to turn down a man, you dont need any advice!:p
      Well ok, you can ignore him for a while or maybe talk about other boys with him(ohhh that bad, you'd better not do that...:devil:)...
      OK here is my real advice.Tell a friend of his how you feel , make it clear that you are not interested and ask politely to lie to him saying that you are very interested in another guy he havent ever met or something like that...
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    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      Tell him you like someone. And then if he's still not stopping give him all these details about why you love the other guy, and say something like " thanks for being such a good FRIEND and listening to me". Should definitely get him to stop :p
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    • Re: How do I let someone know I'm not interested.

      just start talking about some "other" guy, like "OMG, i've met the coolest guys ever today, he was so sweet and nice and think he liked me as well." xD

      or just "sry, gtg now" every time he starts a convo, wait a min or so and then go afk. Or just don't answer to his messages and pretend to be afk ^^