My boyfriend and i are long distance. We are 45 minutes away. It might not be long, but for 2 people with no travel dependency, its hard.

We see eachother from once a month to possibily once a fortnight. When we met, i decided to take it slow and be friends for a while. We started dating a month and a half later.. and had sex 3 weeks in. It didnt affect us at all, but if you dont see him often as we do it might be harder if something between you happens.

omg this is like the exact same story as mine, i met my gf when both of us were on holidays last year, and we stated talking on msn on the phone etc, for about 8 months, and then she came over to see me for a week it would have only been our 2nd time seeing each other, we were basically going out for the 2 months before she arrived and we had sex, and we are still long distance, and it is sooo hard, but in our case we both were ready, we both loved each other, and we have absolutely no regrets, i think you will know when you see him if you are 100% ready, but if you are not please dont rush into things, if he cares about you, he will wait, soo many people rush into sex without thinking and especially if it is the persons first time, soo many people end up regretting it, we cant really answer this for you, you will know in your heart.
i hope this helped a bit, i hope everything goes ok and this has a good end to the the story, best of luck.

I think sex can bring a couple closer together haha, but that's just my opinion.

If I were in the situation I would probably hold off on sex, MAYBE do other things, but I'm not sure. Even though you guys talk a lot. It would probably be best if you wait til you start hanging out with him more in person.

But then again you have been talking to him for some time now, i just get unsure when it comes to this type of thing, because of him only wanting one thing you know?

do what you feel is right!

It completely depends on if you're ready. If you are, I don't see anything wrong with it. Some people have sex when they don't know each other at all, so 8 months is definitely sufficient if you feel it is.

Personally, I'd probably spend more time with him first, if you've only seen him once there's a lot more you can get to know about each other in person. I wouldn't make the decision until you're with him and you'll better be able to judge how you feel about it. It doesn't have to be planned, it can be spontaneous!

how big of a drive is it?

I think its all up to you, if you feel ready then go for it, have you cybered or done stuff on webcam before?

If you feel ready and you really want to have sex with him, go for it, make it fun, take your time to teach eachother all the things you love, dont rush it

You guys are in a perfect situation to make this relationship last a loooong time. In my opinion, try to drag the physical stuff on for as long as possible. That makes the next time you see each other even more exciting since you might be trying something new.

wow lol um get him to fly up thats for sure hhahahaha, way way cheaper than driving, be like 14 hours to drive from christchurch to auckland MINUS the time it takes to take the fary, yeah I love auckland, im in north shore city, best place ever

That is still pretty early. Personally, I would get to know him more as a person can be completely different in person, rather than using texting/talking on telephone.

I don't think they work out. I tried a couple times but people don't really have that much trust for other people. The only problem is the whole trust issue. If you really like this person, then maybe you should have the long distance relationship.

Depends, have you had sex before? If so, I'd say go for it. If not, then I'd say no. There is A LOT you don't know about him and I'm sure you've never felt purely on the fact that you don't spend physical time with him. A person can be anyone they want on the internet, fix their mistakes before they happen, or keep things from you they don't want you to know. If you still have your virginity I wouldn't give it up to someone you don't know, because that's basically what you'd be doing.