Okay, so the girl I've fancied for several months finally broke up with her dick of a (now ex-)boyfriend and admitted she liked me too. The long of the short of it is that we're going to the movies soon, but there's one problem: I've never done anything with a girl before. I'm not so much afraid of screwing up the relationship long term as I am afraid of looking like an idiot short term, but still the fear's there. Any tips for (first) first dates and first (first) kisses?
FIRST first date nerves
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Is she aware that this is your first date? Does she know that you haven't kissed before? if she does know you can use this to your advantage. I'm sure she won't be very upset.[FONT="System"][SIZE="4"]I find it funny that thing that built me up,
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Yes she knows both of those things. She's told me not to worry about it but still there's a lot of nerves. Damn you, hormones.
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dont worry at all, if she knows then she will help you, and most of it is instinct anyway, it will just come naturally to you, just try not to be nervous and be yourself and it will go brilliant.
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Yeah just don't big it up. Rely on her and as Kevin was saying..instinct will take its place. The benefit of this situation is you *probably* wont have to make the first move.
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Arnaria, never thought of it that way! I guess there is a silver lining
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Haha glad I made something of it for you. It's not a guarantee though, just a probability.
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I would not be expecting a kiss on the first date. And in the event of one, don't worry, it'll come naturally, so just go with it. That goes for the whole date, just let things come as they do, worrying about it now will just stress you out. Especially since it's a movie date, you won't really be talking to her so you don't have to worry about saying something stupid. Also, her knowing that it's a first for you in both regards will mean that she will probably help you out by taking more of the initiatives. Go with the flow! I'm sure everything will go fine.
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supersonic, she's out right asked about it and she seemed pretty hopeful. But bingo on the movie date rationale, that's exactly why we chose it. She's more nervous about saying something stupid than I am sooo a movie seemed like a good call.
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well, that brings another point out then. a good one actually, communication. you two haven't even gone on your date yet and you're already able to talk about things already. both of you are nervous about saying something stupid, which means she's just as nervous as you are. i don't think you have a thing to worry about, it would seem that she's got basically the same worries as you.
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Oh, I probably should've mentioned that we talk a LOT and we know a LOT about each other, I've sorta "known" she's liked me for the past 3 months just bad timing kept us apart. That's why I'm not afraid of screwing things up long term so much as I'm afraid of looking like a dork :p
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oh, well that makes a difference too. if you've been friends for quite a while now, then i'm sure she'll excuse a dorky comment or two :p. just laugh and take it humorously, sometimes the dorky comments can actually be a good thing once in a while, it gives you something to laugh about. being able to laugh about yourself is a good thing, we all make mistakes and I'm sure one stupid comment or two isn't going to ruin anything. well, as long as it isn't completely outrageous, but then again, I don't know you or the girl. I know that one of my friends has said something waaaaay out of line to his gf before and she just laughed about it.
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Actually this girl's number 1 flaw is probably she puts up with way too much shit. Her ex had to cheat on her then bitch her out for getting mad before she dumped him
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well, then if you can see past that then you're good. being able to see past someone's flaw, especially when getting involved with that person as more than a friend is important if you want to make the relationship last.
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I guess what I'm actually worried about is not meeting her expectations because she's really into the physical aspects of a relationship (she's admitted she's worried we'll end up going all the way too soon because she wants it that bad), and I'm just afraid of not meeting some sort of standard she holds me up to.
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StanleyTree wrote:
Okay, so the girl I've fancied for several months finally broke up with her dick of a (now ex-)boyfriend and admitted she liked me too. The long of the short of it is that we're going to the movies soon, but there's one problem: I've never done anything with a girl before. I'm not so much afraid of screwing up the relationship long term as I am afraid of looking like an idiot short term, but still the fear's there. Any tips for (first) first dates and first (first) kisses?
Just try to relax and let the night play itself out. As already stated, it's a lot about instinct. Just go with what feels right. Don't stress yourself about the date and the kiss. Try to go with the flow and just use your best judgment as the night goes on. The more you over think it, the more you're going to second guess yourself.
The important thing is to be yourself. Clearly she likes you, so you don't have to change who you are to meet any expectations you think she may have. She knows you, she knows the type of person you are and she likes it. You both seem to have pretty open communication, which is great, so if you do have any concerns, talk to her about it. I'm sure things will be fine. As things progress, use your best judgment to decide how to handle it. If she doesn't want to move too fast, talk about taking things slow for a while. You'll figure everything out as it comes along. Don't put so much pressure on yourself.
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Think of her as your best friend. Keep talking and having a good time and you'll feel more comfortable. Let her know it's your first date if you want to. It's usually fine to tell a girl you're nervous too. A good girl will go at an easy pace for you
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Mr.Scarazzini wrote:
Think of her as your best friend. Keep talking and having a good time and you'll feel more comfortable. Let her know it's your first date if you want to. It's usually fine to tell a girl you're nervous too. A good girl will go at an easy pace for you
Oh but it's the bad one's we like.[SIZE=3]Dropping the ball is what we do[/SIZE].
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Aha I'd classify her as a bad girl...
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