I'm an Asian. In our culture, hitting a child isn't exactly enough to be reported as child abuse. My "parent", when he/she gets annoyed and we end up having a small spat over the trivial things would always hit me once or twice on the head. I've grown so accustomed to it that it becomes automatic for me guard myself using my left hand in order to avoid him/her from hitting my face/head. My "parent" becomes to controlling sometimes that speaking against him/her is considered an act of rebellion and warrants an extra hit for punishment. Truthfully, that parent just hit me a while back for talking back. I understand that as a teenager our views contradict each other, but is it really necessary to scold and hit a person for something so trivial? I'm feel like that person has become a dictator in my life rather than loving guiding figure. Please help.:nono:
my parent hits me sometimes
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How hard is the hit? Does it actually hurt?
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saemi wrote:
I'm an Asian. In our culture, hitting a child isn't exactly enough to be reported as child abuse. My "parent", when he/she gets annoyed and we end up having a small spat over the trivial things would always hit me once or twice on the head. I've grown so accustomed to it that it becomes automatic for me guard myself using my left hand in order to avoid him/her from hitting my face/head. My "parent" becomes to controlling sometimes that speaking against him/her is considered an act of rebellion and warrants an extra hit for punishment. Truthfully, that parent just hit me a while back for talking back. I understand that as a teenager our views contradict each other, but is it really necessary to scold and hit a person for something so trivial? I'm feel like that person has become a dictator in my life rather than loving guiding figure. Please help.:nono:
First, don't let the fact you're Asian justify that. I'm Korean and my Korean side of the family would never touch me. Have you tried asking the parent not to strike you and explain the fact it causes you pain?[CENTER][SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
Yoboseyo?
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Does your mother hit you aswell as your father? Is she alright with this?
If it was me, I would have told my school already and got services involved - what they're doing is ILLEGAL. -
LauraJane wrote:
If it was me, I would have told my school already and got services involved - what they're doing is ILLEGAL.
Dont do that, itll make the problem waaaaayyy bigger.
@OP: Sit down with them and talk about it. btw, how old r u? -
oh ho, been there done that.
Apparently logic is not impelemented in strict asian culture, so while it is hard to accept, as an Asian, i would just follow. I've had too many arguments with my parents explaining why asian culture can be wrong, but that's not how your parents see it. They grew up like this, this is how they understand everything. Simply, what they know to be beneficial is what they are attempting to show you. I think for something really trivial like in your case, it's to maintain a sense of respect for elders. I think it is hard to see issues the way your parents do, but they are there to help you after all. Try appreciating it. -
Depending how hard they hit u i would diffintely tell someone
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@SilentStriker:
But if you make the problem way bigger, it's more public - hence then you have to deal with the problem, not let it continue..
and btw, i was abused as a young child - i know that involving others in the best thing to do.. my dad hit my grandmother at my sports day down the sidegate, and we got EVERYONE involved that we could so he had no escape or excuse. -
nthdelusion wrote:
oh ho, been there done that.
Apparently logic is not impelemented in strict asian culture, so while it is hard to accept, as an Asian, i would just follow. I've had too many arguments with my parents explaining why asian culture can be wrong, but that's not how your parents see it. They grew up like this, this is how they understand everything. Simply, what they know to be beneficial is what they are attempting to show you. I think for something really trivial like in your case, it's to maintain a sense of respect for elders. I think it is hard to see issues the way your parents do, but they are there to help you after all. Try appreciating it.
People need to stop throwing child abuse into Asian culture, because its not.[CENTER][SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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Silentstrike wrote:
Dont do that, itll make the problem waaaaayyy bigger.
This, he wants his parents to stop hitting him, he doesn't want to be taken away from them and live in a home. -
amando96 wrote:
This, he wants his parents to stop hitting him, he doesn't want to be taken away from them and live in a home.
first of all, it's a she
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Hi Saemi ,
My advice is to use Sentimental side . I’d like always to say that this is the most effective weapon that sons and daughters have toward their parents . try to go in your parent’s heart and make him\her feel this part of life . Show them that you love them quite , I know you love them and they love you , but make them feel this .
You will gain their trust and you will be able to discuss whatever you like freely and more effectively .
I believe that this works .[FONT="][/FONT][SIZE=2]Mercury is the closest planet to Sun but it is not the hottest , because Venus is . In the contrary Mercury has one of the coldest areas in the solar system.
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Silentstrike wrote:
Dont do that, itll make the problem waaaaayyy bigger.
@OP: Sit down with them and talk about it. btw, how old r u?
Because these parents sound totally rational, right?
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Divinity wrote:
Because these parents sound totally rational, right?
/endsarcasm
Yes, this. If they were the type who could be negotiated with, they probably wouldn't be doing it to begin with. -
talk to yur parent about the hitting situations . this may help but if it doesn't , just say yur sorry first after yu notice yur about to be hit . try not to talk back & do the things yu usually do to get hit .
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Sammie, hi
Obviously for privacy reasons you don't state which country you're in. But you must contact your town services and report your parent. No child should be treated so badly by their parent, even though obviously you're not a "child".
You could contact Childline. State which country you're in, what's happened, how frightened you are, because they might be able to give you a contact URL nearer to home.
ChildLine
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Put your hands up when they are looking to hit you. Block the hits.
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Divinity wrote:
Because these parents sound totally rational, right?
/endsarcasm
just because they hit a child sometimes, doesnt mean u cant talk to them.
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Wow, you guys are overreacting. The services aren't going to come and get him for smacks upside the head, that kind of violence isn't bad enough. For the person who said to tell the patents that it hurts, thats the point of them hitting you. It's not supposed to feel like rainbows and unicorns. You all must realize is that he is simply being chastised for his behavior. Growing up I used to get whoopings with a belt and not once did i complain, because whatever I got whooped for, i didn't do it again, and that's the purpose of hitting children. If you don't instill fear, then they have no incentive as to why they shouldn't misbehave again.[CENTER][SIZE=3]ZYXWVUTSRQPONMLKJIHGFEDCBA[/SIZE][/CENTER]
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