Okay. So the story is...
I'm sixteen, I'm a virgin, and I have an eighteen-year-old boyfriend. Both honor roll students. He has had one serious relationship prior to ours, and I've had two. We've been dating for six months. We've been discussing sex for awhile now. I would be perfectly comfortable with having sex with him and vice versa. We would use protection, of course.
His parents are only concerned with making sure that he has safe sex, and we've got that covered. My parents on the other hand disapprove of having sex before marriage entirely. They are both Catholic. I'm agnostic, if anything, so we tend to disagree on a lot of things. Like this.
I believe that I'm responsible enough to make my own decisions as a young adult. I know what I'm going into. I would be doing this soberly. The problem is that my parents are both so pigheaded that I can barely mention sex to them without getting some terrible lecture. They are both strongly for "saving yourself" for marriage, whereas I believe that if you are responsible, use protection, and are doing it with someone that you think you truly love, then it's fine.
The age of consent in my state is sixteen, so everything is legal, but I know that my parents would sue my boyfriend for statutory rape if they found out. My father would quite literally kill him. If that didn't happen, my parents would never let me see him again.
I hate to keep things from my parents, and I don't want to be sneaky about having sex. I'm also a terrible liar (even thought I don't want to lie to them). I just want my family to respect the decision that I'm making as a calm, level-headed young adult. It's not like we'd be going at it like rabbits everyday. On occasion. We've already done other things (third base, as crude as it sounds) with each other, and we both feel that we're ready for this commitment.
I just really need some advice. My parents will not listen to me. Please help.
I'm sixteen, I'm a virgin, and I have an eighteen-year-old boyfriend. Both honor roll students. He has had one serious relationship prior to ours, and I've had two. We've been dating for six months. We've been discussing sex for awhile now. I would be perfectly comfortable with having sex with him and vice versa. We would use protection, of course.
His parents are only concerned with making sure that he has safe sex, and we've got that covered. My parents on the other hand disapprove of having sex before marriage entirely. They are both Catholic. I'm agnostic, if anything, so we tend to disagree on a lot of things. Like this.
I believe that I'm responsible enough to make my own decisions as a young adult. I know what I'm going into. I would be doing this soberly. The problem is that my parents are both so pigheaded that I can barely mention sex to them without getting some terrible lecture. They are both strongly for "saving yourself" for marriage, whereas I believe that if you are responsible, use protection, and are doing it with someone that you think you truly love, then it's fine.
The age of consent in my state is sixteen, so everything is legal, but I know that my parents would sue my boyfriend for statutory rape if they found out. My father would quite literally kill him. If that didn't happen, my parents would never let me see him again.
I hate to keep things from my parents, and I don't want to be sneaky about having sex. I'm also a terrible liar (even thought I don't want to lie to them). I just want my family to respect the decision that I'm making as a calm, level-headed young adult. It's not like we'd be going at it like rabbits everyday. On occasion. We've already done other things (third base, as crude as it sounds) with each other, and we both feel that we're ready for this commitment.
I just really need some advice. My parents will not listen to me. Please help.