Well, considering it's this Friday, please don't get your hopes up. There's a really good chance that she already has a date. I don't really know about the note, some girls would find it cute and like the idea of a guy that is too shy to come straight out and ask them, some girls prefer someone who is more outgoing.

From the information you've provided, though, it's kind of hard to tell. Is there any kind of established friendship with her at all? Or is she basically just an acquaintance who you happen to have a crush on. That's a pretty serious question, and it has a lot of bearing on what to do next. If she's a friend, you have something more to work with, you can talk to her and try to get a little insight into the kind of things she likes, and doesn't like. Remember, every little bit you talk to her is going to make asking her out that much easier.

I think you might be a little late for homecoming, but that DOESN'T AT ALL mean you should give up. Consider setting your sights on a more long-term goal. Think about just finding ways for right now to talk to her, to bridge that gap from acquaintance to friend.

Hey bro I feel you man.. I'm somewhat in the same situation...

Be strong and brave.
Girls like courageous men.

Seriously, just being the slightest bit confident and real will get you a long way. Even if you're shy.

Well, then that gives you pretty good incentive to make your move quick, doesn't it?

well i know how you feel, i too have severe anxiety when approaching girls, and stutter alot, although not as bad as i used to be, i would suggest that you just ask her, like next time you are finished class together just ask her if she has a date and if not would maybe like to go together, you wont know until you try, if she does have a date however maybe try and become better friends with her incase ye get separated in class, that way you can always maintain conversation and perhaps pursue something more than just a friendship. at least its only the first dance of the year, and if she does have a date there will be other chances to ask her out, soo dont fret if she says no this time. to try and get over your anxiety, a method i used was somewhat of an outer body experience, just forget that you are talking to her and let it flow naturally, because it is over thinking the situation which will be your greatest enemy here, just be yourself have a small bit of confidence and she will respect you for it, it takes guts to ask anyone out soo hopefully she will see and pick up on this and respond in a positive way.
i hope it goes well man. best of luck man

so bring homecomin up next time you see her and ask her if she already has a date. Play it smooth, and if she say she doesn't, ask her if she wants to go with you.

Actually. I think the checkbox thing is pretty neat

You are going to be freaking out the whole time, but try to be confident when you do it though. Smile at her. Attempt to project that this is just you being you, and not something you are doing because you are embarrassed to come straight out and ask her.

I think the checkbox thing is too elementary. That's what we used to do when we were in elementary school. grow a pair to ask someone straight out. it shows confidence. girls like confidence

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on that note. what grade are you in?

Just ask her haha

Sorry to hear it. I was thinking about you today, hoping it would go well. Oh well, just start psyching yourself up for monday.

Man, you need to make sure you cross in the hallway or something... hesitation is almost never good

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Man, you need to make sure you cross in the hallway or something... hesitation is almost never good

And by meeting in the hallways, that means even if you have to engineer an 'accidental' meeting in the hallways There's nothing at all wrong or stalkerish about that.