Hi.
My sister has been in an abusive relationship for a little over a year now and I don't know what to do to help her get out of it. Every time he hits her she tells me that she loves him and she'll never let it happen again but it always does. I think part of why she's with him is because she's really afraid of being alone and she's been having some financial troubles so he helps her out with that. I'm really scared because they have a baby together and I'm afraid one of these days he's going to come barreling through the house and knock the baby over and kill her or he'll accidently hit my sister in the temple or something and then she'll be just gone. I hate the boyfriend so much and he knows it, and it makes my sister mad that I won't talk to him. Anytime I babysit he has to go sit in the car while I go into the house because I want nothing to do with him. The last time he hit her, she promised me she'd tell me right away if it happened again which it did, but she never said anything to me and she's been covering for him and now neither of us can look each other in the eye. I really love my sister, but she really loves him, and I'm really scared for her. There seems to be nothing I can say to her to make her realize how fabulous she is and how much she doesn't need this, and she gets angry if I even mention it. She called the cops on him the first time he hit her and got an order of protection but she dropped it and took him back. My family won't ever say anything to them and it frustrates me that they just welcome the boyfriend into our family like nothing ever happened. I don't want anyone to alienate my sister because then if something happens and she gets hurt she'll have no one to call, but I don't want him to not have any reprecussions for what he does because he'll just keep doing it (Also, a little humility is good for the soul. :D). He's ruined my whole summer, my whole life, he's made me a nervous wreck, he's totally changed my sister and I feel so alone I want to cry. I just want him to leave. What should I do?
My sister has been in an abusive relationship for a little over a year now and I don't know what to do to help her get out of it. Every time he hits her she tells me that she loves him and she'll never let it happen again but it always does. I think part of why she's with him is because she's really afraid of being alone and she's been having some financial troubles so he helps her out with that. I'm really scared because they have a baby together and I'm afraid one of these days he's going to come barreling through the house and knock the baby over and kill her or he'll accidently hit my sister in the temple or something and then she'll be just gone. I hate the boyfriend so much and he knows it, and it makes my sister mad that I won't talk to him. Anytime I babysit he has to go sit in the car while I go into the house because I want nothing to do with him. The last time he hit her, she promised me she'd tell me right away if it happened again which it did, but she never said anything to me and she's been covering for him and now neither of us can look each other in the eye. I really love my sister, but she really loves him, and I'm really scared for her. There seems to be nothing I can say to her to make her realize how fabulous she is and how much she doesn't need this, and she gets angry if I even mention it. She called the cops on him the first time he hit her and got an order of protection but she dropped it and took him back. My family won't ever say anything to them and it frustrates me that they just welcome the boyfriend into our family like nothing ever happened. I don't want anyone to alienate my sister because then if something happens and she gets hurt she'll have no one to call, but I don't want him to not have any reprecussions for what he does because he'll just keep doing it (Also, a little humility is good for the soul. :D). He's ruined my whole summer, my whole life, he's made me a nervous wreck, he's totally changed my sister and I feel so alone I want to cry. I just want him to leave. What should I do?