I started university today, and went to one of the freshers events. After a while I left because I got bored and couldn't really find anyone I knew. I've never really been a fan of drinking/clubbing etc, to be honest it just bores me, and kind of makes me a little depressed. Will this effect my experience at university if I don't want to go out and get drunk etc?
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worldview wrote:
I started university today, and went to one of the freshers events. After a while I left because I got bored and couldn't really find anyone I knew. I've never really been a fan of drinking/clubbing etc, to be honest it just bores me, and kind of makes me a little depressed. Will this effect my experience at university if I don't want to go out and get drunk etc?
Hmmm... let's see. The effects of not getting drunk in college. Well, you will get better grades, probably end up with better long term career prospects, experience a guaranteed 100% less face-to-face encounters with a toilet bowl, most likely have fewer regrets... any of this sounding like an incentive yet?
I think the alleged "college experience' is overrated. My boyfriend and I both don't drink, and I don't think we are missing out on a single thing that college has to offer. You don't NEED to get drunk to find friends at school, and I guarantee that you aren't the only person who isn't into it. -
I'm in the same boat as you, I guess.
So far, in one week of being here, I haven't met one person who wasn't either talking about all-night partying or nursing hangovers at 5 AM.
I've not met any friends so far because I have nothing in common with just about anyone. It does make it a lot harder, but I'm certainly hoping it's doable.
Of course its only been one week, but still...
It feels like an eternity.
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Jenna wrote:
Hmmm... let's see. The effects of not getting drunk in college. Well, you will get better grades, probably end up with better long term career prospects, experience a guaranteed 100% less face-to-face encounters with a toilet bowl, most likely have fewer regrets... any of this sounding like an incentive yet?
I think the alleged "college experience' is overrated. My boyfriend and I both don't drink, and I don't think we are missing out on a single thing that college has to offer. You don't NEED to get drunk to find friends at school, and I guarantee that you aren't the only person who isn't into it.
Being the stereotypical bad kid I am, I feel the need to point out that you'll also have less memories and funny stories, probably a boring life, you might lose touch with your inner child and end up with a depressing job, depressing life, and the realization that you didn't even have fun up to the point that your life went to shit. That's more for living the non-party, book smart life, not necessarily for not drinking. I just hate when people are afraid to be in a little danger or live in the moment, especially if it's for a stupid reason like "long term career prospects"
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during my school days i used to drink but i always made sure that im not DRUNK enough to lose control of myself. so were my friends as we all had to go back home and we all lived with our parents.
now as im in the uni, and in a different country from home, i am still trying to keep myself not getting drunk at all times but my friends here will keep on drinking till they drop. and its being a pain in my ass because its not an easy thing nor its fun to take care of a couple of DRUNK half-mad people.
idk how i'd deal with this :@ may be i too should drink till i drop and lets see what they do to me. -
^ Ok, don't listen to that :p Edit: This bit was directed at dusk's post, I was just to slow in posting
I'm in second year in uni, and I don't drink. Not a big fan of clubs either. I'd still go out with people to them for certain occassions just because the people themselves make it fun :p But I wouldn't go a lot. And I certainly haven't lost my inner child I'm a bloody animation student, I make cartoons for a living :p And I'm one of quite a few people in the course who don't drink. I don't think there's any problem with it. You still get the fun times, the funny stories, only you're the one who remembers them clearly :p
You just need to get yourself settled in, find some friends, and do whatever makes you happy. Don't go doing anything you're not comfortable with just because you think it will make people like you better, or that other people have more fun doing it that way. Because if you don't want to do it, it wont make it more fun for you.[CENTER][SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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I think it is funnier to be the one telling the funny stories because you remember them than to be the one that was in the funny stories but is now nursing a hangover and can't remember crap.
Dude you can live in the moment without drinking and being in danger for the sake of being in danger is stupid. However being in danger for the sake of doing something that's worth it isn't.
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dusk wrote:
Being the stereotypical bad kid I am, I feel the need to point out that you'll also have less memories and funny stories, probably a boring life, you might lose touch with your inner child and end up with a depressing job, depressing life, and the realization that you didn't even have fun up to the point that your life went to shit. That's more for living the non-party, book smart life, not necessarily for not drinking. I just hate when people are afraid to be in a little danger or live in the moment, especially if it's for a stupid reason like "long term career prospects"
It's really all about being true to yourself whatever you do though... just do what makes you happy.
Just like Lisa said above, I don't drink and my inner child is alive and well. I have great memories and a whole hell of a lot of funny stories. People who think that college is about partying might really want to reassess what their goals in life actually are because "having a blast and living in the moment" is great when you are 18 or 19, but it's a little pathetic when you are like my 34 year old loser cousin who lives in his parents basement after dropping out of college when the partying seemed more important than studying. -
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Just like Lisa said above, I don't drink and my inner child is alive and well. I have great memories and a whole hell of a lot of funny stories. People who think that college is about partying might really want to reassess what their goals in life actually are because "having a blast and living in the moment" is great when you are 18 or 19, but it's a little pathetic when you are like my 34 year old loser cousin who lives in his parents basement after dropping out of college when the partying seemed more important than studying.
I totally agree with you, I just meant to point out that going after a good job or wtfe isn't the key to happiness. It's almost disturbing how many unhappy people you see, who make a shitload of money. My post was directed at the awkward half and half types who are book smart, get good grades, have a plan, but really wish they could be something else, but they hold themselves back so that they can get a job or whatever, and then realize it doesn't matter at all and they didn't even use the best bit of their life to have fun.
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dusk wrote:
I totally agree with you, I just meant to point out that going after a good job or wtfe isn't the key to happiness. It's almost disturbing how many unhappy people you see, who make a shitload of money. My post was directed at the awkward half and half types who are book smart, get good grades, have a plan, but really wish they could be something else, but they hold themselves back so that they can get a job or whatever, and then realize it doesn't matter at all and they didn't even use the best bit of their life to have fun.
Like I said before though, it really just depends on where you want to see yourself in life, what makes you happy.
Depends on what your idea of "a good job" is. For me, a good job would be one I enjoy, not where I make a lot of money. So it would add to my happiness, not make me miserable.[CENTER][SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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worldview wrote:
I started university today, and went to one of the freshers events. After a while I left because I got bored and couldn't really find anyone I knew. I've never really been a fan of drinking/clubbing etc, to be honest it just bores me, and kind of makes me a little depressed. Will this effect my experience at university if I don't want to go out and get drunk etc?
well let me put it to you this way, last year i went out and got drunk, went clubbing pretty much every week, and i ended up failing 7 out of my 10 exams, i had to repeat them over the summer which really put a downer on things because i had to study during my summer, and i ended up failing 3 of those 7, because they were soo hard because i was never in class due to hangovers or laziness etc, soo now i have to repeat that year in college. soo if i didnt drink, well i probably wouldnt be in the mess i am in now, basically you dont need to drink to socialise, infact alot of people cant see the line, and drink in excess and often cant handle their alcohol, there were a few guys in my course that didnt drink at all, or very little and was still able to have a good college experience (also he didnt fail any exams).
do what makes you feel comfortable man, no one will really care if you dont drink.People think the Irish are a bunch of drunks and brawlers, and that makes us soo mad sometimes that we just want to get drunk and punch somebody. -
I don't drink or go clubbing but I'd like to think I have a lot of fun stories and that I do still keep my "inner child" tucked away in my back pocket for easy access.
Yeah I'm awkward and yeah sometimes I do wish I were someone else but drinking and being dangerous and partying hard for "fun" isn't the quick fix to everything.
Fun is subjective to every single person so I don't do any of that but I can still enjoy life as it is.
None of the people I met care if I do or don't anyway, and even if they did, you wouldn't really want to be friends with someone who does.[CENTER] [SIZE=1]If that's what you are into.
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You don't have to abstain from drinking to do well in college, and you won't do bad just because you drink. It's not even about not getting shitfaced drunk, it's more about when to do it. If you are smart, mature, and so forth you can get smashed every weekend and still make the Dean's List, you just have to bust your ass during the week so you earn that reprieve on the weekends.
Let me put it this way, your college years are the highlight of your life, and while people may tell you they don't need to drink to have a good time (and may even think that is true), used responsibly alcohol has the potential to make your experience much better. You should go out and party, you should make bad decisions, and so forth because it's a learning experience in and out of the classroom. Of course there's a line that needs to be observed carefully, but I'd rather slip up and cross that line at times and deal with the consequences than realize too late in life that I wasted my time here.
You only get to live once. Alcohol will not ruin your college experience, only you can do that.[CENTER]"Young King, pay me in gold."
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You don't have to abstain from drinking to do well in college, and you won't do bad just because you drink. It's not even about not getting shitfaced drunk, it's more about when to do it. If you are smart, mature, and so forth you can get smashed every weekend and still make the Dean's List, you just have to bust your ass during the week so you earn that reprieve on the weekends.
Let me put it this way, your college years are the highlight of your life, and while people may tell you they don't need to drink to have a good time (and may even think that is true), used responsibly alcohol has the potential to make your experience much better. You should go out and party, you should make bad decisions, and so forth because it's a learning experience in and out of the classroom. Of course there's a line that needs to be observed carefully, but I'd rather slip up and cross that line at times and deal with the consequences than realize too late in life that I wasted my time here.
You only get to live once. Alcohol will not ruin your college experience, only you can do that.
See that's exactly the thing. What's the difference between "responsible" drinking and not drinking at all if you're implying there's no difference in perception as long as you drink responsibly?
Then partying with drinking would be the same as partying without drinking, just without the lapse of motor skills.
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I think alcohol doesn't make things better so to speak, well actually if you think logically about how alcohol affects the brain it kind of does in a way. Alcohol actually does a variety of things to the brain. Firstly it stimulates the dopamine gland causing it to release excess amounts of dopamine which as we all know induces a sense of happiness and well being.
Alcohol also numbs neurological receptors which takes away inhibitions to an extent. So people are more open, they are more social and are less shy to interact with other people, something good if you are lumped with a load of new people such as freshers week.
I think alcohol also makes the brain produce excess serotonin, but I am not sure. Obviously it would not produce the same amount as an ecstasy pill does, but I think it can induce a very mild state of euphoria.''there is no way to peace, peace is the way'' -
Farfetch'd wrote:
What's the difference between "responsible" drinking and not drinking at all if you're implying there's no difference in perception as long as you drink responsibly?
I didn't say/imply there's no difference in perception, far from it. Alcohol will most definitely change your mood and actions, but that isn't to say that you can't consume any amount of alcohol without there being negative consequences. Responsible drinking is making sure that you don't fuck up horribly while drunk, that's all. It doesn't mean not getting drunk, it doesn't mean no hangovers, or anything like that. Not every decision I've made while drunk was a winning one, but I've been hammered a number of times and it's not like every time I do get really drunk I make a terrible mistake. The worst thing that's happened to me whilst drunk is I lost my phone; not exactly life-ruining stuff.
Then partying with drinking would be the same as partying without drinking, just without the lapse of motor skills.
Have you had alcohol? That's not all it does. Don't think people are so easily amused that some beverage that simply makes it harder to walk would be as popular as alcohol. People would just play dizzy bats at parties for much cheaper if that was the case.
Alcohol is a psychoactive, and a relatively strong one at that. It changes the way you feel, more often than not for the better. Every song is the "best song ever", you will readily approach attractive girls and chat them up, etc. I'm not saying if you drink, you will automatically become a badass, but while you are drunk it will sure feel that way. It's not a coincidence that one of the most popular drinks in the world gets you drunk. For instance, light beer tastes like water, the entire industry is supported by people whose only goal in drinking it is to get drunk.[CENTER]"Young King, pay me in gold."
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Have you had alcohol? That's not all it does. Don't think people are so easily amused that some beverage that simply makes it harder to walk would be as popular as alcohol. People would just play dizzy bats at parties for much cheaper if that was the case.
Alcohol is a psychoactive, and a relatively strong one at that. It changes the way you feel, more often than not for the better. Every song is the "best song ever", you will readily approach attractive girls and chat them up, etc. I'm not saying if you drink, you will automatically become a badass, but while you are drunk it will sure feel that way. It's not a coincidence that one of the most popular drinks in the world gets you drunk. For instance, light beer tastes like water, the entire industry is supported by people whose only goal in drinking it is to get drunk.
No, I haven't, and I was simply being sarcastic.
Everyone is different, alcohol affects people differently. Just like how taking weed or amphetamines affects people differently, same with alcohol.
It makes some people happy and confident, it makes others cocky and extremely violent.
"More often than not for the better" in reality is more like 50/50.
I'm not saying DON'T EVER DRINK, EVER, LOL. I'm just saying you don't need to drink in order to have a good time.
People can be happy and confident without alcohol too, you know.
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Farfetch'd wrote:
No, I haven't, and I was simply being sarcastic.
Everyone is different, alcohol affects people differently. Just like how taking weed or amphetamines affects people differently, same with alcohol.
It makes some people happy and confident, it makes others cocky and extremely violent.
"More often than not for the better" in reality is more like 50/50.
I'm not saying DON'T EVER DRINK, EVER, LOL. I'm just saying you don't need to drink in order to have a good time.
People can be happy and confident without alcohol too, you know.
If someone NEEDS alcohol to feel that to the level of dependence, then that's actually bordering on addiction than a harmless self-booster, IMO.
I'm not trying to fuck with you, except really I am. If you haven't been drunk at least 10 times, how can you say it's a 50/50 shot at being "for the better". Coming from someone who drinks entirely too much, I've NEVER been sad while drinking. That's coming from hundreds of nights getting wasted, as opposed to none.[CENTER][SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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I'm in my second year at uni and I didn't go out once last year. I live at home and go up the pub and have a few drinks with my friend's at home but I don't go out at uni, don't worry I still made friend's at uni. Just do what u want to do, not what u think you should do[LEFT][SIZE=3]x Amber x[/SIZE][/LEFT]
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