i wouldn't mind, but then again im not homophobic

I'm not a dude, I'm not straight, but this is my opinion: Even people who like you when they think you're straight, might think very differently of you when you come out. I know, it happened to me. I don't regret coming out, I lost a lot of friends though. So be careful who you come out to.
Honestly, I'd say wait until after high school. People are sometimes more accepting, and when you're in high school, so people think it's a "phase".

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It was hard, but eh, I'm over it.
Good luck. VM me if you wanna talk.

I would treat them as I would treat any other person.... It is quite simple is it not

I respect people like you. I guess that's everyone who doesn't take sexuality into consideration when judging someone. =)

If you do tell them, please tell us what your hazing is like! A bunch of horny jocks may just have a use for you.

aww....i'm sure scottie was just joking...

I've played football with a gay guy on the team .. it was a non issue really, the guy was a great player. In the locker rooms .. meh, he was just one of the guys really, I never felt weird cos really I knew he had no interest any way. It always seems weird when guys assume that just because they're around a gay guy means they'll be looking at them and wanting them. I think if you dropped a guy into any female locker room there would be plenty of girls you wouldn't want to look at either.

beat his ass down. lol joke if hes a good player, then its all good. if he sucks then I wouldn't talk to him. Moral of the story being - Always judge people by sporting ability xD

Poogle wrote:

I'm not a dude, I'm not straight, but this is my opinion: Even people who like you when they think you're straight, might think very differently of you when you come out. I know, it happened to me. I don't regret coming out, I lost a lot of friends though. So be careful who you come out to.
Honestly, I'd say wait until after high school. People are sometimes more accepting, and when you're in high school, so people think it's a "phase".

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Take heed of this womans advice. Definately the best. I would not do it. You think she had it tough? She's a girl people are much more accepting of lesbians than they are of gays. I'm not going to include my personal thoughts on this because you wouldn't be to happy with them however I think you should hear them(PM me if you think you can handle my story) but let me say there are guys out there who would hurt you to not be on a team. I'm not saying it would happen to you or threatening you by any means, but it is a slim but nonetheless danger of "coming out of the closet".

However I will say that the world seems to be much more accepting of gay these days, in fact of everything generally. America is a very welcoming country these days whether your gay, black, hispanic, latino, arab, trans, whatever you are.

But I still wouldn't do it.

Good luck.

Oh and after re-reading your post (sorry I have a bad case of the "skims") I can guarantee you that you will lose your friends and all respect of all if not almost all of your friends if they are truly homophobic, which most high school males are. And statistically speaking most gay men are weaker then straight men so if you want to come out of the closet realize that and dont deny it.

Again, my advice is to not do it

Do the right thing!

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This is something like I said is a possibility. What I'm saying is if your going to come out of the closet be ready for a possible confrontation(s) and if you choose to come out and are cornered fight like your life depends on it!

With that said, if I was on a football team or any team and had a gay player I would not mind at all, I would treat him like an equal as long as he was a respectable guy, ya know.. As much as I believe it's wrong no one has the right to judge someone else and tell them what they can and cannot do.

You can never get the kind of love from a man that you can get from a woman. It's human nature. It's natural.

It's never too late to convert to being straight!

It's a fact in my mind that there is no such thing as a gay man. You can be 80 years old and if your still gay your just a 80 year old boy to me. When you do the right thing you are a man in my book. These are just my opinions please do not take offense or get angry.

Hope this helps.

it wouldn't bother me one bit i have quite a few gay friends but then again im a nice guy lol
also i agree with you being manly my friends don't act like women either.

There is nothing "manly" about liking other men.

Anyone who would break your friendship b/c you're gay isn't a true friend; and isn't worth it in the first place.

I think that what i've found is that some people are more accepting than they let on to believe. I personally found out that a senior last year actually was curious even though he never would have told anyone; we just had a really strong, open friendship. Saying that, however, I'm not sure I would tell the team...

I played alot of sports (now just tennis) and I think that if I would have told some of my team-mates, even ones that were my best friends, they would have distanced themselves at least. Not that I'm fully gay; but bi... mmm, perhaps. lol But I live in the the U.S South, so homosexuality isn't the easiest subject to talk about, at least in high school; though things are changing. I guess I could say alot more, but I'll finish by saying that if you do want to tell someone, tell your best friend first and see how he reacts. If you want to talk more, feel totally free to message me or something.

Well you live in Canada so there is no public or private discrimination against gays there. So why not come out then?