So my friend and I have been texting and he has been hinting that he wants to experiment. I never had sex ed and never had "the talk." I really know little to nothing about sex let alone gay sex. Like what do two guys do? I definetely have thought about kissing him but he wants more. I've never had any sort of sexual encounter but he on the other hand claims to be very experienced. What do I do? Any advice, tips, a "how to", or websites? I really am the most inexperienced 16 year old guy on the planet. Help!
Gay Sex?
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1. Anal sex - Use water-based lubricants and a condom...ALWAYS! Go slowly, because it can be a pit painful at first. The person receiving has to be completely relaxed. Don't force the penis in, push it in slowly. It is best to use sex toys first (or your fingers with a latex glove) to lesson up the anus.
I was going to post a picture from SAW to describe the sort of reaction the bottom will get if you don't do it properly, but I think I may scare you.
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Aw, what the hell.
Yes, your experience will be similar to the above picture.
2. Oral sex - Self explanitory. Use a condom to be extra careful. Also, be careful with your teeth. It can be a real turn off.
3. Frottage - This sexual act is often overlooked and ignored, and I never really understood why. It is perhaps the most erotic form of homosexual sex which exists today. The act of frottage is pretty simple, you rub both your penises together (with a bit of lubricant to make it much smoother). This is great because it leaves a lot of run for touching, hugging, kissing, grabbing ass, whatever you want.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frot
4. Mutual masturbation - Also self explanatory (it is pretty much the main sex act most bi-curious teens want to do). Masturbate together or lend a helping hand.
These are only the basics. Sexuality is so complex, there are a ton of things you can do together.
Here is a site where you can read up on --> Gay Teens Sex for the First Time - Information for Gay Teens on Having Sex for the First Time
This is really shocking. I'm still a virgin and I know all this stuff. The internet has clearly warped my mind!! :o
Reply to my post or PM me if you want more info.
If you need more advice about oral sex, contact RMG. He is more experienced than most of us.
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There's also 5. Docking.I give cam shows every now and then, but I MUST know you and be comfortable with you before I will do them for you! If interested, contact me and get to know me!
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Tombgeek wrote:
1. Anal sex - Use water-based lubricants and a condom...ALWAYS! Go slowly, because it can be a pit painful at first. The person receiving has to be completely relaxed. Don't force the penis in, push it in slowly. It is best to use sex toys first (or your fingers with a latex glove) to lesson up the anus.
I was going to post a picture from SAW to describe the sort of reaction the bottom will get if you don't do it properly, but I think I may scare you.
.
.
.
Aw, what the hell.
Yes, your experience will be similar to the above picture.
2. Oral sex - Self explanitory. Use a condom to be extra careful. Also, be careful with your teeth. It can be a real turn off.
3. Frottage - This sexual act is often overlooked and ignored, and I never really understood why. It is perhaps the most erotic form of homosexual sex which exists today. The act of frottage is pretty simple, you rub both your penises together (with a bit of lubricant to make it much smoother). This is great because it leaves a lot of run for touching, hugging, kissing, grabbing ass, whatever you want.
4. Mutual masturbation - Also self explanatory (it is pretty much the main sex act most bi-curious teens want to do). Masturbate together or lend a helping hand.
These are only the basics. Sexuality is so complex, there are a ton of things you can do together.
This is really shocking. I'm still a virgin and I know all this stuff. The internet has clearly warped my mind!! :o
Reply to my post or PM me if you want more info.
If you need more advice about oral sex, contact RMG. He is more experienced than most of us.
So I'm just gonna say that I don't even know what some of those things are. But this is where I feel comforable. If there is a name for what I'm describing please tell me so I can tell him. I have no problem kissing him. That's no biggie. I'm more nervous when it comes to the stuff that needs "protection." I'm not ready for him to touch my "stuff" and I'm not ready to touch his. I'm fine with him touching me anywhere else. I also don't want him (sorry, 'I really don't know what I'm saying so please excuse me horrible descriptions) putting his thing in me." I'm not comfortable with that. So what can I tell him I'm ok with?? -
Connor.Hummel wrote:
So I'm just gonna say that I don't even know what some of those things are. But this is where I feel comforable. If there is a name for what I'm describing please tell me so I can tell him. I have no problem kissing him. That's no biggie. I'm more nervous when it comes to the stuff that needs "protection." I'm not ready for him to touch my "stuff" and I'm not ready to touch his. I'm fine with him touching me anywhere else. I also don't want him (sorry, 'I really don't know what I'm saying so please excuse me horrible descriptions) putting his thing in me." I'm not comfortable with that. So what can I tell him I'm ok with??
So let me get this right:
1. You don't want to touch his penis.
2. You don't want him to touch your penis.
3. You do not want his penis on you.
Soooooooo....well, frottage does not need protection, because it's non-penetrative, but you said you don't want his penis on you.
So you just want to hug, grope, and kiss/make out? -
if you're not ready for sex then don't have sex.
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Tombgeek wrote:
Provided one of the participants is not circumcised.
I was actually joking sorta. Because it's so rare to find someone uncircumcised and isn't well known so probably no one does it.I give cam shows every now and then, but I MUST know you and be comfortable with you before I will do them for you! If interested, contact me and get to know me! -
Aleksandr wrote:
I was actually joking sorta. Because it's so rare to find someone uncircumcised and isn't well known so probably no one does it.
Well congratulations, you have met someone who is uncircumcised.
It depends on which country you live in. Israel obviously must have the highest rates of circumcision. America is another country with high rates.
Circumcision here in South Africa is rare among the white guys, but because it is custom in African culture to get circumcised at 13 or 14, most black guys are circumcised. -
You come here asking us how to have sex without neither side using their penis.
All you can do is make out if your limits are so strict, but I'm pretty sure that your friend is expecting a bit more than that. -
If you don't wanna do it, then don't. If you do wanna do it, but just don't know how, it honestly comes natural. And to be completely honest, the reason why I'm so good at what I do is because I watch A SHIT LOAD of porn.
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Hitopopamus wrote:
You come here asking us how to have sex without neither side using their penis.
All you can do is make out if your limits are so strict, but I'm pretty sure that your friend is expecting a bit more than that.
All I really care about at the moment is that there is no (I hope this is the right word) intercourse. Forget what I said above about the whole penis thing. I'm fine with him using his penis as long as it doesn't end up inside of me. I understand that this may not be qualified as sex but that's my question. What can I tell him I DO feel comfortable doing? Please tell me if I'm phrasing this right. I'm really trying to understand all this. I don't mean to be dumb. I really have a lot of questions and am just getting to understand all this and be comforable. -
Connor.Hummel wrote:
All I really care about at the moment is that there is no (I hope this is the right word) intercourse. Forget what I said above about the whole penis thing. I'm fine with him using his penis as long as it doesn't end up inside of me. I understand that this may not be qualified as sex but that's my question. What can I tell him I DO feel comfortable doing? Please tell me if I'm phrasing this right. I'm really trying to understand all this. I don't mean to be dumb. I really have a lot of questions and am just getting to understand all this and be comforable.
Tell him you're okay with mutual masturbation and Frottage, then. Just let it flow from there if you feel like it. -
Connor.Hummel wrote:
All I really care about at the moment is that there is no (I hope this is the right word) intercourse. Forget what I said above about the whole penis thing. I'm fine with him using his penis as long as it doesn't end up inside of me. I understand that this may not be qualified as sex but that's my question. What can I tell him I DO feel comfortable doing? Please tell me if I'm phrasing this right. I'm really trying to understand all this. I don't mean to be dumb. I really have a lot of questions and am just getting to understand all this and be comforable.
Connor.Hummel wrote:
I'm sorry I'm not making any sense. I really had no ideas what two guys do. It's not so much the touching (cause with more time I'll probably get over that) but it's the (I hope this is the right word) penetrative part. I'm really not comfortable with that right now.
Ooohhhh...so you just don't want the whole penetration thing.
No big, I shall narrow your list down for you.
1. Frottage
2. Mutual masturbation (where you watch each other masturbate and there is no touching)
3. Mutual masturbation (where you are masturbating him and he is masturbating you (in other words, you're giving each other handjobs)).
4. Intercrural sex - Where you thrust your penis between your partner's thighs.
5. Axillary intercourse - where you insert and thrust your penis in your partner's armpit.
Non-penetrative sex - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Dude, I get the feeling you're not ready for something like this. Are you sure you want to do this? There is nothing forcing you if you don't want to. If you are not ready for sex you are not ready. -
Tombgeek wrote:
Well congratulations, you have met someone who is uncircumcised.
It depends on which country you live in. Israel obviously must have the highest rates of circumcision. America is another country with high rates.
Circumcision here in South Africa is rare among the white guys, but because it is custom in African culture to get circumcised at 13 or 14, most black guys are circumcised.
Not necesarrily I'm African and white and circumcised, depends where in SA you are and your ethnic background not so much your skin colour.[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Proudly Support [SIZE=3]Leukemia Awareness[/SIZE] -
Die Afrikaaner wrote:
Not necesarrily I'm African and white and circumcised, depends where in SA you are and your ethnic background not so much your skin colour.
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i dont think theres anything wrong with gay sex over straight sex its all natural to me. However, if you do not feel you are ready to start having sex then you are probably not. It is something that is very important and once you loose it you can never get it back, so don't feel pressured into doing something your not ready for ever.
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Here are my suggestions:
-You said you didn't want any sort of penetration. Just tell or text him that you don't want him putting his penis in your or anything, but besides that, you're willing to experiment.
-If you still want to experiment with him, set up a sleepover date. But keep these in mind, for both of you: do your parents often check on you when you have friends over? Are the walls thin? Is your room far enough from your parents' room as well as siblings/relatives/etc.? Does your door have a lock? Talk these things through and see which one of your houses would be safer to experiment at.
-In my opinion, I think it would be better for you to wait until night to experiment, of course. Would you rather the lights were on, or off?
-There are two ways you could go about the experimenting, at least two ways I see. Would you rather do the mutual masturbation thing, or would you rather do the kissing/making out thing? The kissing and making out, if you find out you like it, can turn you on pretty quickly. If you don't want to do anything penetrative , then you'll probably end up dry humping each other and stuff (though, after a couple of experiments, that might change). I've never done the mutual masturbation thing, but of course, remember some form of lubrication. Ahead of time, plan out whether you'll want to watch porn while you're doing it or if you'd rather not. If you would want porn, decide what type, etc.
Honestly, you shouldn't worry about experience when it comes to experimenting. If you're really getting the feel of it when you experiment, what to do will pretty much come naturally to you. Of course, there will be awkward moments here and there, but the experience will be rewarding.
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adamEcstacy wrote:
Here are my suggestions:
-You said you didn't want any sort of penetration. Just tell or text him that you don't want him putting his penis in your or anything, but besides that, you're willing to experiment.
-If you still want to experiment with him, set up a sleepover date. But keep these in mind, for both of you: do your parents often check on you when you have friends over? Are the walls thin? Is your room far enough from your parents' room as well as siblings/relatives/etc.? Does your door have a lock? Talk these things through and see which one of your houses would be safer to experiment at.
-In my opinion, I think it would be better for you to wait until night to experiment, of course. Would you rather the lights were on, or off?
-There are two ways you could go about the experimenting, at least two ways I see. Would you rather do the mutual masturbation thing, or would you rather do the kissing/making out thing? The kissing and making out, if you find out you like it, can turn you on pretty quickly. If you don't want to do anything penetrative , then you'll probably end up dry humping each other and stuff (though, after a couple of experiments, that might change). I've never done the mutual masturbation thing, but of course, remember some form of lubrication. Ahead of time, plan out whether you'll want to watch porn while you're doing it or if you'd rather not. If you would want porn, decide what type, etc.
Honestly, you shouldn't worry about experience when it comes to experimenting. If you're really getting the feel of it when you experiment, what to do will pretty much come naturally to you. Of course, there will be awkward moments here and there, but the experience will be rewarding.
If you have any questions to ask me about any or all of this, feel free to ask away!
Thank you sooo much. This sums up exactly how I feel. I have more confidence going into this now.
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