I'm scared....I might be gay. :[

    • I'm scared....I might be gay. :[

      Okay so I'm 15, I lost my virginity August 20. I did it twice that same day. The first time hurt the second time hurt like HELLLLL! It wasn't with my boyfriend[don't judge me]. I didn't have one, but two weeks later I did. He fingered me and that did not feel good! I've also tried fingering myself but no luck. So I recently had sex again about a week ago with the same guy I lost my virginity to and instead of it hurting I couldn't feel ANYTHING i felt him going in me but again it didn't feel good. All my friends say it might be because he's small...but no he def wasn't! I don't know what the problem is... :[ I think I'm sexually challenged. Help :/
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    • Re: I'm scared....I might be gay. :[

      Not feeling anything is defiantly not a sign of being gay and it hurting isn't either.

      I suggest seeing your doctor about it if you are worried. But it defiantly does not sound like you are gay. Being gay is a choice. It's a feeling. You know when you're gay.

      So I suggest seeing your doctor if you are really worried about it.

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      James Bluntus wrote:

      Not feeling anything is defiantly not a sign of being gay and it hurting isn't either.

      I suggest seeing your doctor about it if you are worried. But it defiantly does not sound like you are gay. Being gay is a choice. It's a feeling. You know when you're gay.

      So I suggest seeing your doctor if you are really worried about it.


      Being gay is not a choice. There's nothing wrong with you, maybe it's the chemistry between you and him, maybe he's not inserting himself as he should be, you need to explore your own body, find out what works and what doesn't. The first time I had sex with a girl I was aroused inside her and was nothing feeling anything either came to discover it was my nerves that was preventing me from enjoying it. Never happened again :wink:
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      Die Afrikaaner wrote:

      Being gay is not a choice.

      Nicely said :D I was about to post this myself.

      But yeh, seriously... not feeling anything during sex definitely isn't a sign of being gay. Perhaps you're stressing and not settling into the moment.
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      Tootsie wrote:

      Okay so I'm 15, I lost my virginity August 20. I did it twice that same day. The first time hurt the second time hurt like HELLLLL! It wasn't with my boyfriend[don't judge me]. I didn't have one, but two weeks later I did. He fingered me and that did not feel good! I've also tried fingering myself but no luck. So I recently had sex again about a week ago with the same guy I lost my virginity to and instead of it hurting I couldn't feel ANYTHING i felt him going in me but again it didn't feel good. All my friends say it might be because he's small...but no he def wasn't! I don't know what the problem is... :[ I think I'm sexually challenged. Help :/


      I think the guy you were with is small. And maybe he was being too rough. Kids these days wanna act like porn stars, so they do what porn actors are paid to do. But even if you are :gay:, it is okay hon. Nothing better than 2 good looking women in love.

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      Die Afrikaaner wrote:

      Being gay is not a choice. There's nothing wrong with you, maybe it's the chemistry between you and him, maybe he's not inserting himself as he should be, you need to explore your own body, find out what works and what doesn't. The first time I had sex with a girl I was aroused inside her and was nothing feeling anything either came to discover it was my nerves that was preventing me from enjoying it. Never happened again :wink:


      I was about to say that, yo.

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      James Bluntus wrote:

      Not feeling anything is defiantly not a sign of being gay and it hurting isn't either.

      I suggest seeing your doctor about it if you are worried. But it defiantly does not sound like you are gay. Being gay is a choice. It's a feeling. You know when you're gay.

      So I suggest seeing your doctor if you are really worried about it.


      Im sorry but being gay isnt a choice as i deff wouldnt choose it in life:gay: but you can't help it unless it doesnt feel right =/

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      the fact that when you masturbate it doesnt feel good, proves entirely that this is nothing to do with guys or girls at all, its all to do with you.

      So really, you need to figure yourself out before you start doing stuff with others.

      You need to explore yourself more and learn techniques that get you going etc

      If you dont know how to get yourself off then nobody else is going to be able too

      I would try that first, and see how that goes.
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      Tootsie wrote:

      Okay so I'm 15, I lost my virginity August 20. I did it twice that same day. The first time hurt the second time hurt like HELLLLL! It wasn't with my boyfriend[don't judge me]. I didn't have one, but two weeks later I did. He fingered me and that did not feel good! I've also tried fingering myself but no luck. So I recently had sex again about a week ago with the same guy I lost my virginity to and instead of it hurting I couldn't feel ANYTHING i felt him going in me but again it didn't feel good. All my friends say it might be because he's small...but no he def wasn't! I don't know what the problem is... :[ I think I'm sexually challenged. Help :/

      Sounds like you are very confused about everything, you're only 15 after all.

      it doesn't matter if you're gay or straight or whatever, you're a kid, you have plenty of time to develop.

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      okay, well i just recently lost my virginity..actually yesterday.
      and before i did, i was scared that i was gay too..
      when, we first started it didnt feel too good, and then it
      started to feel good...sometimes it will take a while for you to feel good.
      but, do not start thinking your gay yet :).
      - hope this helped :)).

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      Kevmo7 wrote:

      the fact that when you masturbate it doesnt feel good, proves entirely that this is nothing to do with guys or girls at all, its all to do with you.

      So really, you need to figure yourself out before you start doing stuff with others.

      You need to explore yourself more and learn techniques that get you going etc

      If you dont know how to get yourself off then nobody else is going to be able too

      I would try that first, and see how that goes.



      +1 to that, knowing yourself or not knowing yourself will make a big difference when it comes to sex...