I'm 17. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, and we've started having sex just a month ago. My mom has told me several times that I was not to bring my bf home when my parents aren't home.
I bring my boyfriend home during our free periods when my parents are at work to have sex. We are cautious to not leave any evidence behind. We take the used condoms, etc and put them in a plastic bag and dispose of it in a garbage can outside my house.
Today we did the same and put all the 'used stuff' in a plastic bag to dispose. But for some reason, both of us did not remember to take it outside. So when my mom came home from work today she saw... yup.
It wasn't like she never suspected that I am doing those things with my bf. But its just that she's the type of parent that respects her child's space and wont go investigating whenever she thinks something is wrong. So to throw something like that in her face would be shocking to her, not to mention traumatizing.
She also told me to reevaluate whether or not I should be having sex with him as 'you know that there isn't a future in your relationship". I realized something - should I even be having sex with him? We both know we love each other and want to continue our relationship when we separate for college, but I too had my doubts on whether or not my relationship will last.
I have realized how stupid I was to even put the trust between my mom and i and my bf and my mom in jeopardy by bringing my boyfriend home to have sex when my mom said i was not supposed to. Before this I could sense that there was trust between my mom and my boyfriend. Now its all gone.
I feel absolutely horrible now.
I don't know how I can ever make my mother trust me or have her trust my boyfriend.
Sorry, I just needed somewhere to vent. Any opinions welcome.
I know, I deserved it.
I bring my boyfriend home during our free periods when my parents are at work to have sex. We are cautious to not leave any evidence behind. We take the used condoms, etc and put them in a plastic bag and dispose of it in a garbage can outside my house.
Today we did the same and put all the 'used stuff' in a plastic bag to dispose. But for some reason, both of us did not remember to take it outside. So when my mom came home from work today she saw... yup.
It wasn't like she never suspected that I am doing those things with my bf. But its just that she's the type of parent that respects her child's space and wont go investigating whenever she thinks something is wrong. So to throw something like that in her face would be shocking to her, not to mention traumatizing.
She also told me to reevaluate whether or not I should be having sex with him as 'you know that there isn't a future in your relationship". I realized something - should I even be having sex with him? We both know we love each other and want to continue our relationship when we separate for college, but I too had my doubts on whether or not my relationship will last.
I have realized how stupid I was to even put the trust between my mom and i and my bf and my mom in jeopardy by bringing my boyfriend home to have sex when my mom said i was not supposed to. Before this I could sense that there was trust between my mom and my boyfriend. Now its all gone.
I feel absolutely horrible now.
I don't know how I can ever make my mother trust me or have her trust my boyfriend.
Sorry, I just needed somewhere to vent. Any opinions welcome.
I know, I deserved it.