LonelyMaleTeen wrote:
Q1: You insist she remembers when I kind of asked her out, and also that I should ask her to hang out as friends first before asking her out, but isn't asking her to hang out with no strings attached majorly implying I'm in it for nothing more than friendship? I mean if she thinks that I wanted/want to go out with her still, but then ask her to hang out as friends, isn't she going to think that I just want to be her friend? Which would in turn confuse her majorly when I asked her out? She would think "So, you really were not just in it for friendship." What do you think?
Well, let me reverse the question... ARE you just in it because you want to go out with her? Or would you want to be friends with her regardless of whether or not you have a chance at a relationship with her. You seem to think that she has abruptly forgotten your attempt to ask her out, most people don't forget things like that, and as much as you would like to just put that out of your mind forever, it's not going to happen. If a girl asked you out and you turned her down, do you honestly think that the there won't be that little voice in the back of you mind EVERY time you see her that doesn't say "This is ....., and she wanted to go out with me once." But the thing that you have going for you is that she doesn't care that much, she has set that awkwardness aside and moved on, I don't think you ever have.
You think that ANY attempt to hang out with her is going to be seen as an attempt to get together with her. Seriously.... what do you think is SUPPOSED to happen in this kind of situation. When my best friend asked me out when we were just ending out sophomore year of high school, did I forever after see any attempt by him to spend time with me as a covert plan to trick me into going out with him? Of course not, that would be ridiculous. Stop thinking about it and just do it, I'm going to echo what someone else has already said; you think too damned much. It's bad to jump into a situation without thinking about it, it's equally bad to think too much about it.
LonelyMaleTeen wrote:
Q2: The first question was the only one I really needed and anwser to, but I thought I'd throw this one in anyway, I don't really know what it is we should do if she decides we can hang out together. I mean, she isn't like me and my friends where we can play VG's and other guy stuff, so what should a guy and a girl who are just friends do when they're hanging out? Watch TV together? It just sounds kind of awkward to me, I'm up for whatever she wants to do (if she accepts), but I think If I'm the one asking her to hang out, I have to make the first suggestion as to what we should do obviously.
I mean I could just say "I don't know, what do you want to do?" But I don't know, what do you think?
Why don't you tell me. You have been friends with her for a long time now, what does she do for fun? What are her interested. Think about this for a while, we have plenty of time, you won't get another chance until monday anyway.