Information on Sociopathic Friends,Rumors and How to Deal with it all

    • Information on Sociopathic Friends,Rumors and How to Deal with it all

      We all claim to never listen to hear say, but hear say can come from the mouth of anyone, and if that mouth be your closest friend, you believe it no matter what. But whom can we trust if even the hear say spoken from your friend's mouth be lies and utter rumor? Is this rumor the project of their creative imagination? Or could this be the creative imagination of the one who had told them? Either way, the one who listens to rumors cannot be trusted, and the ones who create them can only be trusted in creating another rumor.


      Who creates a rumor? you may ask this question a thousand times. The truth is, anyone can create a rumor, but only few actually make the effort to do so. Why would they create a rumor? There are many different reasons why someone would create a rumor. Whether it be for attention,revenge,out of pure hatred, just for the hell of it, or because they possess some kind of mental illness that they are more likely to be unaware of but in some cases completely aware of and take advantage of their own mental illness in order to construct and create a manipulative plot to destroy lives around them out of pleasure and without sympathy.



      In many cases, people who come up with lies,constantly lie, and involuntarily create rumors are called Pathological liars. This is a mental illness where people have an involuntary habit of lying and in most cases do not realize it, and if they do realize it, they usually try to get help. Pathological liars may cause destruction involuntarily but are not the harmful ones in the realm of mental illness as compared to the Sociopath. The Sociopath will lie,manipulate,deceive, and betray voluntarily and with full knowledge of the damage they are doing. They do not fear the consequences, nor do they ever have regret and remorse for what ever they do. Even after killing another human being, they'd still only feel sorry for themselves and never any sympathy for the man or woman who they've just killed or their family and friends.



      These people seem absolutely horrible, especially if you have lived or been around someone who is a Sociopath. In some cases they can be helped if they are willing to, but its especially hard for them because they have no remorse for anything they do. If you're concerned that your friend is a sociopath consider the following first:

      1. Have you caught your friend in a lie, have had proof, and they still deny they had lied?
      2. Do they get more sensitive then the normal person when bringing up a matter calmly about a time they have lied?
      3. Do they victimize them self in order to get sympathy from you or another party?
      4. Have they ever fully convinced you that they were telling the truth showing complete emotion and later found out it was a lie?
      5. Do they crave attention?(If you cannot decipher whether they do or not think of this: Do they seem more self righteous in their projects or works then the normal person? Do they seem to brag and boast quite often how they should have won that competition with 1st prize even though the project or work may have not been that great? Or do they constantly ask for your opinion on their project or work and if you respond negatively, get sensitive and seem to become enraged?)
      6. Have you been getting angry comments from people, dirty looks, or strange text messages lately yelling at you about something you haven't done?
      7. If so, have you ever found your friend to be behind it?
      8. Think of all the people you may not like. If you liked them before, has your friend contributed to much of the changed opinion about them?
      9. Does this friend tend to have a lot of friends?
      10. If so, do these people adore your friend like its their religion? For example; If you were to discuss any faults of this person with any one of them, they automatically hate you or become sensitive with the subject with you?

      11. Have you ever seen your friend act completely fine with you and then later find out that shes been saying nasty things about you?

      12. Does your friend constantly bring up subjects of matter that are sensitive with you and try to provoke fights even while using a calm matter?
      13. If per say you haven't told your friend that you know they are behind a certain situation, do they bring up the situation in conversations and hint that they are behind it by mentioning something about it that you haven't told them and have no idea where they would know that information?
      14. Do they seem to criticize people on a daily basis but still try to put on an air like they are just joking or "being honest"?

      15. Most importantly, do they seem to make everyone else at fault for any pickles they get in and the only one that seems to come out smelling like a rose is them self and they believe they are completely innocent?



      If most of these questions apply to your friend, more then likely they are a sociopath.



      So now that you know your friend is a sociopath, how do you deal with them? Well, in a lot of cases it is really hard to deal with a sociopath for they are extremely good at manipulating and twisting emotion. Sociopaths are not to be dealt with and if your friend has quite a few warning signs that they are a sociopath it is best to get out of the relationship as soon as you can and without hassle. The problem with Sociopaths is that they do not stop for nothing and will try to manipulate people to become friends with them again so they can enjoy their sickening pleasure of destroying their lives, repeatedly. Sociopaths can also be really smart, and use technology to their ultimate gain. It is best to cut all ties with this person whenever it is convenient to do so. This means to block this person from facebook or any other communicating website that you are both a part of. Also if possible, block their number from your phone and if attending the same work place or school, avoid interaction with them at all costs and try your hardest to avoid them.



      What if its really hard to stay away from a Sociopath? (For example: if they are working with you on a project in class,in the same class and approaches you, or approaches you at work) If they approach you in class or work, the best way to deal with this is to ignore them. It may be hard if you do not like ignoring people, but its necessary in order to keep them away. But if you truly can't find it in your heart to ignore them, do not be nasty to them but say hello. If they start to engage you into a conversation about someone, do not say anything back about the subject. Instead respond with "oh really? I didn't know that" and then change the subject to something more favorable or try to end the conversation completely by making an excuse as to why you have to stop talking. If they are working with you on a project in class, do your best to create an "all work and no play" type of project where there is little time for talking and focus purely on the work and only talk to them about the project, nothing else.



      What if they never go away? Everyone gives up at some point. This person may talk smack behind your back still even if you don't talk to them anymore, but if you don't talk to them or shut them out of your life completely, after a while (and its a very long time) they will stop talking about you and will not try anything else with you. Also if you want to settle the score once and for all, it is best to get authority involved. For example, talking to your guidance counselor or school psychologist. If it takes place at work, find a psychologist you can talk to about this problem and they might be able to help you out. Tell friends, as many as you can. These people are sure to support you and may have connections with people who can ultimately help you.




      Overall, if you find yourself in complete turmoil with friends or people you don't even know, fully analyze the situation carefully. Sociopaths are not always detected right away, but you can find out who they are in time. Once you find out the culprit behind all the lies about you and the disaster in your life, try your absolute best to get rid of this person from your life. If you don't, they will continue to take advantage of you without remorse or sympathy. Check your source at all times. Even closest friends can turn out to be a sociopath and it could take years to notice. Always believe what you can prove is true and never believe the word of mouth. Deceit is everywhere and Sociopaths are not uncommon. Protect yourself from these people at all costs and do not be naive.