I know this is going to sound really lame, however I am 19 and and going on my first date Tuesday.
It's not so much that I couldn't get a girlfriend as much as I wasn't really interested, until I met this girl that is.
I have a couple of questions for those that have time.
Controlling parents
First of all my parents are extremely controlling (yes I live at home because I'm attending a community college, with no freedoms). I have been told on multiple occasions that they "Dont give a damn about my opinion or what I have to say". The thing I'm worried most about is them making fun of me, asking 100s of questions, or trying to control what I do. You might say this is ridiculous but you haven't met my parents. Their the type that interrogates me when I get off the phone. Call's me up at friends houses and tells me how long I should stay. They know I went and met this girl the other day. They have already started with "Is she your girlfriend?" "what did you two do?" "did you like her?". They like to make fun of me for anything. Oh I met this girl for the first time a couple days ago. Shes starting college and wanted to know someone else out there, so I said I would go meet her and we could be friends. After meeting up I realized she doesn't really have friends and has wanted to go to the movies for a while, so I told her if she wants to go with me that would be awesome. I know she considers this a date because I asked her if she did
1) How should I tell my parents I'm going? Should I say its just a movie with a friend? Should I tell them I am just going to hang out with her?
About the date
This will be our first date together, actually my first date ever, and after talking to her she has only had one boyfriend and he started of as a friend so she said shes never been on a real date. Were planning on seeing the movie, then going to get something to eat after. I can honestly say I am not nervous when I'm around her at all. This is the first time I have met someone that I can truly be honest and be myself around. However I am nervous about the date. I want to show her that I really am into her, but I don't want to be too harsh. College starts in 10 days and she is nice, caring, friendly, honest, beautiful, etc. So I kinda feel I need to get her close before school starts and someone else gets her. Now the questions.
Should I kiss her on the first date?
Should I hold her hand, or is that a kiddy thing?
If I kiss her where should I kiss her at?
When should I kiss her? (when we see a certain thing on screen, when I see her, when she stares, or what)
She is kinda shy and I am trying to get her to open up to me atleast. I know that I am definitely into her. I have talked to her online and usually I only talk a couple of mins wityh other people, however with her we usually get on at 11pm and talk to about 1am or 3am. Again I can be completly honest with her and she says the same about me. She says she really enjoys talking to me, and I may be the first person she can be truly honest about everything with. I guess I have just finally met someone that shares the same interests and opinions as me.
My main concern is I want to make sure and make this really enjoyable for her, and I'm afraid I'll mess it up. I'm also worried it may be a good time to kiss her and I don't, or it's not a good time and I try to. I want to show her that I am seiously into her and not remain just a friend.
Oh that raises another question, how long do we have to date before I can consider her a girlfriend?
Any advice is really appreciated!
I didn't realize I was as freaked about this until after I wrote this. :o
It's not so much that I couldn't get a girlfriend as much as I wasn't really interested, until I met this girl that is.
I have a couple of questions for those that have time.
Controlling parents
First of all my parents are extremely controlling (yes I live at home because I'm attending a community college, with no freedoms). I have been told on multiple occasions that they "Dont give a damn about my opinion or what I have to say". The thing I'm worried most about is them making fun of me, asking 100s of questions, or trying to control what I do. You might say this is ridiculous but you haven't met my parents. Their the type that interrogates me when I get off the phone. Call's me up at friends houses and tells me how long I should stay. They know I went and met this girl the other day. They have already started with "Is she your girlfriend?" "what did you two do?" "did you like her?". They like to make fun of me for anything. Oh I met this girl for the first time a couple days ago. Shes starting college and wanted to know someone else out there, so I said I would go meet her and we could be friends. After meeting up I realized she doesn't really have friends and has wanted to go to the movies for a while, so I told her if she wants to go with me that would be awesome. I know she considers this a date because I asked her if she did
1) How should I tell my parents I'm going? Should I say its just a movie with a friend? Should I tell them I am just going to hang out with her?
About the date
This will be our first date together, actually my first date ever, and after talking to her she has only had one boyfriend and he started of as a friend so she said shes never been on a real date. Were planning on seeing the movie, then going to get something to eat after. I can honestly say I am not nervous when I'm around her at all. This is the first time I have met someone that I can truly be honest and be myself around. However I am nervous about the date. I want to show her that I really am into her, but I don't want to be too harsh. College starts in 10 days and she is nice, caring, friendly, honest, beautiful, etc. So I kinda feel I need to get her close before school starts and someone else gets her. Now the questions.
Should I kiss her on the first date?
Should I hold her hand, or is that a kiddy thing?
If I kiss her where should I kiss her at?
When should I kiss her? (when we see a certain thing on screen, when I see her, when she stares, or what)
She is kinda shy and I am trying to get her to open up to me atleast. I know that I am definitely into her. I have talked to her online and usually I only talk a couple of mins wityh other people, however with her we usually get on at 11pm and talk to about 1am or 3am. Again I can be completly honest with her and she says the same about me. She says she really enjoys talking to me, and I may be the first person she can be truly honest about everything with. I guess I have just finally met someone that shares the same interests and opinions as me.
My main concern is I want to make sure and make this really enjoyable for her, and I'm afraid I'll mess it up. I'm also worried it may be a good time to kiss her and I don't, or it's not a good time and I try to. I want to show her that I am seiously into her and not remain just a friend.
Oh that raises another question, how long do we have to date before I can consider her a girlfriend?
Any advice is really appreciated!
I didn't realize I was as freaked about this until after I wrote this. :o
