I currently have a boyfriend, he’s amazing and I think I love him. He’s 3 years older, met my parents, we are in a very serious relationship (I lost my virginity to him) and dating for 10 months.
A few months before me and my boyfriend (call him Alex) started dating I had a different boyfriend (Tom), Tom was a bit of a douche to everyone else but he treated me really well, we had an intense relationship but it ended badly (he moved away and completely ignored me until we decided to split).
I havnt seen him in 11 months (since an awkward run in when he was staying at a friends near my house), but lately we have started talking again, which was really nice as we used to be super close friends. He keeps saying we should hang out because he misses me and everything. When I said I didn't have the money to get there, or anywhere to stay, he offered to pay if I stay for longer than 2 days and said I could stay at his place. Ive never cheated on a guy and don't think I'm going to, but I'm worried that Tom could get me liking him again, and it took me so long to get over him completely. I don't think I could deal going through that again. But I miss him and would like to be friends again. Alex knows that I'm still in touch with Tom, and it bothers him a little but he trusts me completely. Tom is calling me kind of insistently to get me to make a decision, he has told me over and over that he isn't trying to get back together with me. I just genuinely don't know what to do. What do you think?
A few months before me and my boyfriend (call him Alex) started dating I had a different boyfriend (Tom), Tom was a bit of a douche to everyone else but he treated me really well, we had an intense relationship but it ended badly (he moved away and completely ignored me until we decided to split).
I havnt seen him in 11 months (since an awkward run in when he was staying at a friends near my house), but lately we have started talking again, which was really nice as we used to be super close friends. He keeps saying we should hang out because he misses me and everything. When I said I didn't have the money to get there, or anywhere to stay, he offered to pay if I stay for longer than 2 days and said I could stay at his place. Ive never cheated on a guy and don't think I'm going to, but I'm worried that Tom could get me liking him again, and it took me so long to get over him completely. I don't think I could deal going through that again. But I miss him and would like to be friends again. Alex knows that I'm still in touch with Tom, and it bothers him a little but he trusts me completely. Tom is calling me kind of insistently to get me to make a decision, he has told me over and over that he isn't trying to get back together with me. I just genuinely don't know what to do. What do you think?