i hate how no one wants a relationship anymore, just sex. especially the girls i seem to go towards; they use me, fuck me, then fuck me over. and im too sweet to do or say jack shit. i want someone who lets me cuddle them and take them on dates, not someone who just wants material and sexual crap. i like sex just as much as any girl but come on, its not everything. id rather have love over sex anyday, but i guess thats just me nowadays.
Why does no one want a real relationship?
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Certainly not the case for every girl
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I feel the same way, my bf can't stop thinking about sex for a minute, and it drives me crazy, he dosent even love me or have feelings for me:(
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staylifted1771 wrote:
i hate how no one wants a relationship anymore, just sex. especially the girls i seem to go towards; they use me, fuck me, then fuck me over. and im too sweet to do or say jack shit. i want someone who lets me cuddle them and take them on dates, not someone who just wants material and sexual crap. i like sex just as much as any girl but come on, its not everything. id rather have love over sex anyday, but i guess thats just me nowadays.
It is funny that you say this. I moved to USA, specifically Milwaukee, Wisconsin, a couple of years ago (3) and have found this all too true. I had no problem back home finding a wonderful girl who loved spending time with me, but since moving to Wisconsin I have found nothing of the sorts. If I don't bed the girl after 3 dates she leaves me, which has happened several occasions, hence my search continues. -
that's just women these days.
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This is why I like this Asian girl in my grade the most. She's pretty and I know anything I'll have with her would be meaningful. Most of the attractive white girls in my school are all like "I'll get into a relationship with you if you'll help my social status," smh...
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You say it like you have sex with them first, then want all the cuddly, romantic stuff after. How about you start with the romantic part instead of jumping straight to sex? Not all girls are like that either.
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Well I can honestly say that I, nor most of my friends, have encountered this issue.
But let's just be real: if all of your relationships are failing to provide you with what you want, there is one common denominator in the situation: you. Maybe you're doing something wrong, maybe you're not approaching the situation correctly, maybe you're coming on too strong. Who knows. But take some time for self reflection to figure out how you can help yourself get what you want. -
It's because TV makes them think they have to be like that.
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Eminemaniac wrote:
Fixed.
I was speaking ironically because it's something men get an unfair amount of stick for, but no biggie
Anyway I think relationships aren't lasting longer because people feel more comfortable leaving something they're uncomfortable in and because casual relationships are seen as nothing bad any more. The people haven't changed but attitudes to relationships have, is my opinion. -
If they just use you, why dont you just dump them and find someone else who does? jesus...
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A lot of people long for real relationships but they're hard work and not easy to find. People who resort to just sex usually don't bother with relationships any more because they've had bad experiences in them before.
If these girls want just sex from you, don't give it to them. Show them you're a gentleman who wants a relationship and it may either repel them or entice them to come to you for a proper relationship, thinking you may be able to offer them a real nice relationship.
I think you'd be surprised at how many people love and want a real relationship.
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sweetie123 wrote:
I feel the same way, my bf can't stop thinking about sex for a minute, and it drives me crazy, he dosent even love me or have feelings for me
He's just using you for sex then. It's not a relationship if one person doesn't love the other. You should break up with him. -
I find it unfortunate that so many of you have trouble finding affectionate partners.
I hope it helps if you know that the sweet and cuddly guys do exist (I'm one of them), but we're generally very shy and won't come to... you'll have to fetch us.
I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. We've only even discussed sex a few times.. heck, I've never even kissed her; we'd rather just cuddle. Of course, even with 50 matchmakers constantly pestering us, it took 9 months before we considered ourselves a couple, at at our current pace it may take years (Worst case scenario, a decade) for us to consider sexual relations.
I'm just saying that if you have any sort of sex drive, you'd best be a little careful what you wish for. A lot of cuddly guys have lower sex drives than most...The smartest people often do the stupidest of things. -
Well keep looking."As in heaven as on Earth, we've been dead since our birth" -Hollywood Undead
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It probably sounds weird, but if you're finding that all the girls are just after material crap and sex, try not buying them anything and saying no when they try to go down on you the first time. Anyone that's left is worth keeping.
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staylifted1771 wrote:
i hate how no one wants a relationship anymore, just sex. especially the girls i seem to go towards; they use me, fuck me, then fuck me over. and im too sweet to do or say jack shit. i want someone who lets me cuddle them and take them on dates, not someone who just wants material and sexual crap. i like sex just as much as any girl but come on, its not everything. id rather have love over sex anyday, but i guess thats just me nowadays.
REAL girls don't like sex that much. I think you are a troll. -
Because at 17 and around it is difficult that somebody think about a real longterm relationship. Too hard; and too much fun lost (that's what is commonly believed)
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I personally love snuggling although I can be very horny so,not every girl is that way. Make them invest in you before sex, even though that will not garuntee anything at all, at least you migth weed out a few sluts.
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