3 months - i dont really do it very often
I am very friendly, very curious, Just want to chill out most of time
Ryanschmo wrote:
...we just don't crave real sex, consensual or not, the way we used to...
Ryanschmo wrote:
...It's become a very powerful addiction...
Gabraham247 wrote:
@Sean2001 don't all or most doctors and ppsychologists consider sexual addiction a clinical diagnosis? If so, are you calling them wrong?
Sean2001 wrote:
I think on interpretation of script we will have to agree to disagree because people tend to interepret them from their own perspective.
But, between this, your second point, and the third one, it seems like you want it both ways. On the one hand you argue that we need the sex drive to be unfulfilled by masturbation so it provides the motivation to find a partner, marry and procreate and yet, in claiming masturbation is an addiction rather than a manifestation of the sex drive, you also say that we don't need to respond to our sex drive and can simply ignore it at those points in our life when marriage and procreation would not be sensible. Or are you? Are you claiming we should all marry and start a family as soon as we start to feel horny?Ryanschmo wrote:
...we just don't crave real sex, consensual or not, the way we used to...
The idea that procreation is the only allowable outlet for the sex drive is also firmly a religious idea and one that is a problem in the modern world because we we really could do with not continuing to grow the population of the world. So, if some people choose not to marry and have children, far from being a problem, that is a good thing as long as they don't feel driven to that decision by poverty in a failing country.
I don't accept that at all because masturbation does not fit the pattern for what we usually consider to be an addiction.Ryanschmo wrote:
...It's become a very powerful addiction...
You mention alcoholism, lets consider smoking. Let's say John is studying at university and takes a summer job in the kitchen at a restaurant. At the restaurant, just about everyone smokes and so peer pressure makes him do the same. The summer comes to an end and returns to his studies and, at the university, almost no-one smokes so he decides he should give it up. At this point he finds it really hard. The peer pressure that made him start has gone but now his brain has adapted to the nicotine and protests if it is withdrawn.
So the characteristics of a typical addiction are that:
Sex and masturbation don't fit any of those.
- It is harmful.
- The trigger to start it is external to the body.
- The inability to give it up is due to the body (including brain) having become accustomed to whatever the substance is.
Yes, orgasm increases dopamine as do other activities but, while masturbation is indeed very pleasurable, there is more to the drive to do it than that. If an increase in dopamine caused compulsive behaviour we would also see people "addicted" to exercise. Some people do very much enjoy exercise, and take up opportunities to do things but that's hardly surprising - people do things that result in pleasure, but it stops short of compulsion.
- It is not harmful.
- The trigger is internal to the body and is the increase in sex hormones at puberty, i.e. for guys it is testosterone. This is the chemical mechanism behind the sex drive.
- The continued drive to do it is also nothing to do with the body having adapted to an external substance but due to the fact that our sex hormone levels remain high.
If we want to split those activities that increase our dopamine levels, and which we consequently enjoy, into good and bad we should do so based on whether our pleasure is at the expense of someone else's suffering.
Aspen wrote:
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If an adult is always late for work/gets fired because they can’t not take care of business before they leave and it takes too long… clearly that’s an addiction
collin13 wrote:
I am no physician but I found this reference on the MSDS which is the bible for psychiatric diagnosis. Sex Addiction is definitely a thing and excessive masturbation ...
Diagnoses that could refer to compulsive sexual behavior have been included in the DSM and ICD for years and can now be diagnosed legitimately in the United States using both DSM- 5 and the recently mandated ICD-10 diagnostic coding. Compulsive sexual behavior disorder is being considered for ICD-11
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criteria for sex addiction diagnosis:
Time consumed by sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors repetitively interferes with other important (non-sexual) goals, activities and obligations. Repetitively engaging in sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors in response to dysphoric mood states (e.g., anxiety, depression, boredom, irritability).
sbpepe wrote:
2 days
dragom24 wrote:
I did No Nut November last year and it actually got easier to not do it at the end. I will say that i cheated though and did jerk off but just didn't let myself cum. My load on 1 Dec was massive!
sbpepe wrote:
you are an asceticdragom24 wrote:
I did No Nut November last year and it actually got easier to not do it at the end. I will say that i cheated though and did jerk off but just didn't let myself cum. My load on 1 Dec was massive!
dragom24 wrote:
I did No Nut November last year and it actually got easier to not do it at the end. I will say that i cheated though and did jerk off but just didn't let myself cum. My load on 1 Dec was massive!
AndreaABC wrote:
But in the USA they don't masturbate (or pretend to not masturbate). Is it to save on laundry expenses?