Gotta crush- don’t know what to do

Catlover1 · Nov 18th 2021, 4:19pm

I don’t know whether this should be on this section or the LGBTQ section but I’m gonna try on here.

I have a crush on one of my best friends. She is beautiful (though that’s in the eye of the beholder, me) and I really like her. I don’t know how to ask her out and she (and my parents) don’t know I’m les. What do I do?

ChrisC05 · Nov 18th 2021, 4:44pm

First you need to ask yourself how will you feel.if she is not interested in you. Will you feel devastated . Will she feel.uncomfortable, just be confident in yourself and let her know you have feelings for her

Catlover1 · Nov 18th 2021, 4:52pm

Thx @ChrisC05 :thumbsup:

Stamford · Nov 18th 2021, 5:01pm

Remember at our age lots of girls and boys can have feelings towards the same sex. But it doesn't necessarily mean you are gay as many people grow out of it.

I wouldn't just jump in and tell her you have feelings for her. Try and do it gradually and see how she responds.

naturelover-VT · Nov 18th 2021, 6:04pm

do it harmlessly and ask she if she will go with you to cinema, cafe, ice cream ....
maybe then ask if she is angry when you say that you like her and would like to spend more time with her

joannainthemiddle · Nov 20th 2021, 3:01pm

Hi Georgia May Catlover, how is it going, welcome to Teenhut! How have things gone on with this? My thoughts are if she doesn't know you are les, and you don't know if she is attracted to other girls, maybe you should tell her in a general way you are attracted to girls first. Then see how she reacts to this and if she's quite enthusiastic, THEN you can tell her its HER you are attracted to and ask her out. Good luck!

Vi_jette · Nov 21st 2021, 4:39pm

joannainthemiddle wrote:

Hi Georgia May Catlover, how is it going, welcome to Teenhut! How have things gone on with this? My thoughts are if she doesn't know you are les, and you don't know if she is attracted to other girls, maybe you should tell her in a general way you are attracted to girls first. Then see how she reacts to this and if she's quite enthusiastic, THEN you can tell her its HER you are attracted to and ask her out. Good luck!

I agree with this only to ad. If she doesn't act super into it or unsure at first don't worry. She may need time to process and figure things out herself.

You maybe need to spread out the outing and the asking over some time.

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