Sean2001 wrote:
He/his.
But I am also not going to go through this exercise with everyone I meet for the first time. If you look male I will use male pronouns and if you look female I will use female pronouns. If that isn't what you want, tell me and I will use whatever you prefer but the onus is on people to tell me, not me to ask the vast majority of people who are content with the obvious choice.
There is a bit of overcompensation with these things. The vast majority of people prefer the pronouns one would assume. I have no issue with someone sharing theirs in an online bio or creating an optional field for it on a form, but it shouldn't be a requirement. The exception doesn't need to set the rule.