Hey everyone, sorry I am worried what I am going to say might be offensive and I know I wouldn't say this irl and I know I am hiding behind a screen. But I genuinely feel really confused about this and feel I am missing something. I am a bisexual girl. I feel confused about the concept of gender and transness and I feel like there shouldn't be a reason to change your gender, at least in an idealistic society. I think that it shouldn't matter what gender you are and it shouldn't dictate how you live your life and if you don't conform to the characteristics typically associated by your gender then that's great and not something that you should need to change your gender for and people should just do what feels natural and love whoever you want and do whatever you want and be friends with whoever you want and like what you like regardless of whether it is behaviour typically associated with your gender and I think gender shouldn't be important. I think that in an idealistic society then this wouldn't be important and people wouldn't care about your gender and wouldn't treat you differently. I recognise that we aren't in that society atm but I think we should be trying to get society towards that point and I think that normalising people changing their gender is actually reinforcing gender stereotypes and is making it harder to get to that point. I also think that people should just do what is natural regardless of gender and that there is a lot of content especially aimed at transwomen teaching them to be more feminine and its like you shouldn't have to look at that and you should just act like however you want regardless of your gender or sex. Also I know some trans people say they have a female brain when their sex is male or vice versa and what is a female brain and I find it a little bit sexist that people think that a female brain is different and I think transness has become quite accepting of this as gender norms are so engrained in our society and we should be working to get rid of gender norms and expectations. I know most people who disagree with this are religious people and they seem to think trans people should change their personality to suit the characteristics expected of their sex and it feels like trans people are changing their gender to meet their personality and I completely disagree with those religious people and think that is much worse and I am confused why everyone on the left wing seems to be completely ok with this.
Also lots of trans people feel a lot of hatred to their bodies and I feel really confused by people saying things like they were born in the wrong body and I don't even know what that even means and why should your body dictate who you are. I know that trans people themselves do not always conform to gender norms and say that your gender shouldn't matter and that they are trans because they hate their body and know their body is wrong. I know one trans girl at school who is really clever and she has a bit of a breakdown everytime she goes to the toilet and sees her penis. But firstly I feel like most people are accepting of transpeople because gender norms are so engrained in them and if it weren't for this people would be a lot more confused like I am. Secondly I feel like if they where born on an island with only people their who had literally no reference to gender and nothing at all to do with gender norms or anything then I don't think they would feel like that and I still think it is caused by gender norms in society. Also I know most trans people say imagine you were in a body of the opposite sex and tbh I think about this and I honestly wouldn't really care. Obviously it would be a bit weird at first but I would try and do life basically as normal and I think I'd get used to it and wouldn't change who I am. I don't understand why someone would have a huge hatred of their penis. I know also that I don't conform to all of the characteristics of a girl and I have short hair and I know some of my hobbies and interests are typically masculine and sometimes I have had nasty comments on this and sometimes people have asked me if I am trans because of that and I don't understand that and I think that is quite sexist.
Also if someone is having a hatred of their body then I feel like you should try and help them feel more confident in their body rather than change it. I feel like transpeople will always find something however much of their body that they change that will be different from other people of the sex usually related to their gender and this will continue to upset them. I also think that if someone had similar hatred towards their body for something else then people would think this was bad. For example if someone hated their nose and wanted to get a nosejob and said they didn't feel comfortable being themselves with that nose then this would be considered unhealthy and people would try to encourage them that their body is great and to make them more confident like that. Or if anyone had any body image issues or had an eating disorder caused by body dysmorphia they wouldn't have their belief that they should be 10lbs lighter when they were already under a healthy weight affirmed. Or if someone felt they couldn't leave the house without a full face of makeup. Yet if a trans person gets plastic surgery then this is empowering and I feel slightly confused about the difference. Also imagine if someone was 'trans racial' and was convinced they were a different race and were born in the wrong body that way. I think most people would think this was racist and offensive and they would certainly not affirm that person's beliefs. Yet I don't see how this is any different. Obviously your race shouldn't dicate how you live your life but I don't think your gender should either and I don't see how it really is different
Sorry I have probably misunderstood something so tell me what I am wrong about and why and I am sorry for anyone I have triggered or offended as I am probably wrong but I honestly don't understand and I know also I am hiding behind a screen and wouldn't say this irl which is bad. But the more I think about it the more I think I am right which really confuses me
Also lots of trans people feel a lot of hatred to their bodies and I feel really confused by people saying things like they were born in the wrong body and I don't even know what that even means and why should your body dictate who you are. I know that trans people themselves do not always conform to gender norms and say that your gender shouldn't matter and that they are trans because they hate their body and know their body is wrong. I know one trans girl at school who is really clever and she has a bit of a breakdown everytime she goes to the toilet and sees her penis. But firstly I feel like most people are accepting of transpeople because gender norms are so engrained in them and if it weren't for this people would be a lot more confused like I am. Secondly I feel like if they where born on an island with only people their who had literally no reference to gender and nothing at all to do with gender norms or anything then I don't think they would feel like that and I still think it is caused by gender norms in society. Also I know most trans people say imagine you were in a body of the opposite sex and tbh I think about this and I honestly wouldn't really care. Obviously it would be a bit weird at first but I would try and do life basically as normal and I think I'd get used to it and wouldn't change who I am. I don't understand why someone would have a huge hatred of their penis. I know also that I don't conform to all of the characteristics of a girl and I have short hair and I know some of my hobbies and interests are typically masculine and sometimes I have had nasty comments on this and sometimes people have asked me if I am trans because of that and I don't understand that and I think that is quite sexist.
Also if someone is having a hatred of their body then I feel like you should try and help them feel more confident in their body rather than change it. I feel like transpeople will always find something however much of their body that they change that will be different from other people of the sex usually related to their gender and this will continue to upset them. I also think that if someone had similar hatred towards their body for something else then people would think this was bad. For example if someone hated their nose and wanted to get a nosejob and said they didn't feel comfortable being themselves with that nose then this would be considered unhealthy and people would try to encourage them that their body is great and to make them more confident like that. Or if anyone had any body image issues or had an eating disorder caused by body dysmorphia they wouldn't have their belief that they should be 10lbs lighter when they were already under a healthy weight affirmed. Or if someone felt they couldn't leave the house without a full face of makeup. Yet if a trans person gets plastic surgery then this is empowering and I feel slightly confused about the difference. Also imagine if someone was 'trans racial' and was convinced they were a different race and were born in the wrong body that way. I think most people would think this was racist and offensive and they would certainly not affirm that person's beliefs. Yet I don't see how this is any different. Obviously your race shouldn't dicate how you live your life but I don't think your gender should either and I don't see how it really is different
Sorry I have probably misunderstood something so tell me what I am wrong about and why and I am sorry for anyone I have triggered or offended as I am probably wrong but I honestly don't understand and I know also I am hiding behind a screen and wouldn't say this irl which is bad. But the more I think about it the more I think I am right which really confuses me