I just got into an argument about being weak and doing what my partners want. Is it wrong to do whatever my partners want during sex or if they tell me to do something to pleasure them.
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not if it's something demeaning or makes you uncomfortable
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Sometimes some people think, the only way to prove you are sane and true to yourself is to have fights with the partner.
And if you never had a fight with your partner, you are weak. Mind you, I'm not under this impression. It's somewhat false.
But I guess, that was the kind of guy you had the argument with. Therefore you should think none of it.
As long as you are happy (without fights) everything is fine"Comedy is like sex. If they haven't made a noise in a while, change what you're doing" - Sara Pascoe -
Nothing is really wrong if both people are in full agreement and consent to it (and it's legal with ages and stuff like that)
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If you're into it then it's fine.
It's only a problem if you are doing things you don't like or are being coerced or forced to do something.
I totally get doing something you are kind of meh on because your partner is super into it. And the line there can get a bit fuzzy. And if sometimes you do it because you want them to be happy and other times you aren't into it and say no that's ok too!
Do what makes you happy and do it because you want to.K.
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BlackParadePixie wrote:
not if it's something demeaning or makes you uncomfortable
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Isn't the thing to remember that sexual activity, whether penetration of something else, is supposed to be fun for both of you? Hopefully there are things you both enjoy? A little bit of give and take is also fine but if it seems rather one sided, i.e. you're doing lots of things that don't turn you on just because it turns him on, but he isn't doing things you are turned on by and enjoy, then it's probably time to be more assertive, unless submission itself is your turn on.
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Sean2001 wrote:
Isn't the thing to remember that sexual activity, whether penetration of something else, is supposed to be fun for both of you? Hopefully there are things you both enjoy? A little bit of give and take is also fine but if it seems rather one sided, i.e. you're doing lots of things that don't turn you on just because it turns him on, but he isn't doing things you are turned on by and enjoy, then it's probably time to be more assertive, unless submission itself is your turn on.
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As long as you both consent to it there is nothing wrong with it
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if my mate says get naked and blow him I well. It's called a relationship.
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I've always been pretty submissive with my boyfriends. If he told me he wanted something sexual or otherwise, I'd do it.
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as long as you consent there is nothing wrong with it
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If you both are into it, it's cool. If not, it's not.
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I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with what you're doing. I wouldn't say I'm submissive myself, but a lot of the time I do let my boyfriend be the one to "take charge," so to speak. when it comes to being intimate. In some ways, I suppose it's because I'm older and physically bigger than he is, so a part of me has always been worried that people might think I'm forcing him or otherwise taking advantage of him if I'm take the initiative too much (I was 15 and he was 13 when we became a couple). This isn't to say that I never initiate anything sexual, but I'm always careful about it and make sure it's stuff he likes to do (and I've always made sure that he knows that I know that "No" means "No").
As others have said, if both of you like it and understand and respect the appropriate boundaries, who are we to say otherwise? -
my bf and I cater to each other regardless of who the top is
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If you and your partner are happy that's all that counts.
For me and my bf, we let the horniest one set the pace
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