I haven't had full sex (penetration) but I have had sexual experiences (handjobs and blowjobs). However, for a while now I haven't been able to have these handjobs and blowjobs.
I understand the urge for more and feeling masturbation doesn't really satisfy you fully.
I agree with @Sean2001 that it's not an issue of orgasm quality. With good technique, ample time and stimulating thoughts and fantasies, a wank can produce an equally mind-blowing orgasm.
But there are other differences between sexual activity with another and wanking.
1 - The sensations before orgasm
I find the feelings my body but particularly cock feels before cumming aren't quite as amazing. I can't comment on how a pussy or arse feels to be in as I haven't had that. But a mouth is certainly different to my hand.
Similarly, someone else's hand feels different. Not just because their hand may be softer or different in shape. But also because there's less predictability to their next stroke.
You can narrow the gap on this issue, though. I've bought myself toys and lube which recreate some of the textures.
2 - "Vicarious Satisfaction"
I feel this is a point that's been missed that I find to be a great difference.
My experiences often involved reciprocation. Not necessarily 69s, but I would give blowjobs as well as receive and handjobs would be mutual masturbation at the same time. So a great part of the enjoyment would be seeing how great I made that person feel. Hearing their moans, seeing their facial expressions, hearing the words they say.
Yes those things can be experienced with porn but you can't genuinely lie there and feel "wow. *I* made that person moan like that/cum like that". That sense of satisfaction at a 'job well done' can't be achieved alone.
Even when on the receiving end, it's nice to know either you have or will later be reciprocating. Also, it's nice to know that someone else GAINS PLEASURE from making YOU feel good. The feeling of seeing someone's smile as they suck you off and seeing how they genuinely enjoy doing that for you.
3 - Emotional Closeness
It's not always the case. And sometimes (as I discovered) it can be a bit one-sided.
But part of experiences with someone else is the emotional connection. The romance. There's a slight overlap with point 2.
But it's the feeling that the blowjob is more than a mere mechanism to cum. Instead, it might represent a sense of love and affection.
All of these 3 factors can't be replaced fully by masturbation. Point 1 can to some extent with toys and method experimentation. 2 and 3 require someone else.
I don't know if that's what you meant. I'd argue that it's maybe more than "urges" I feel. Maybe more of a longing. A romantic longing. But that is the reasoning behind why I don't find masturbation completely plugs the gap.
I understand the urge for more and feeling masturbation doesn't really satisfy you fully.
I agree with @Sean2001 that it's not an issue of orgasm quality. With good technique, ample time and stimulating thoughts and fantasies, a wank can produce an equally mind-blowing orgasm.
But there are other differences between sexual activity with another and wanking.
1 - The sensations before orgasm
I find the feelings my body but particularly cock feels before cumming aren't quite as amazing. I can't comment on how a pussy or arse feels to be in as I haven't had that. But a mouth is certainly different to my hand.
Similarly, someone else's hand feels different. Not just because their hand may be softer or different in shape. But also because there's less predictability to their next stroke.
You can narrow the gap on this issue, though. I've bought myself toys and lube which recreate some of the textures.
2 - "Vicarious Satisfaction"
I feel this is a point that's been missed that I find to be a great difference.
My experiences often involved reciprocation. Not necessarily 69s, but I would give blowjobs as well as receive and handjobs would be mutual masturbation at the same time. So a great part of the enjoyment would be seeing how great I made that person feel. Hearing their moans, seeing their facial expressions, hearing the words they say.
Yes those things can be experienced with porn but you can't genuinely lie there and feel "wow. *I* made that person moan like that/cum like that". That sense of satisfaction at a 'job well done' can't be achieved alone.
Even when on the receiving end, it's nice to know either you have or will later be reciprocating. Also, it's nice to know that someone else GAINS PLEASURE from making YOU feel good. The feeling of seeing someone's smile as they suck you off and seeing how they genuinely enjoy doing that for you.
3 - Emotional Closeness
It's not always the case. And sometimes (as I discovered) it can be a bit one-sided.
But part of experiences with someone else is the emotional connection. The romance. There's a slight overlap with point 2.
But it's the feeling that the blowjob is more than a mere mechanism to cum. Instead, it might represent a sense of love and affection.
All of these 3 factors can't be replaced fully by masturbation. Point 1 can to some extent with toys and method experimentation. 2 and 3 require someone else.
I don't know if that's what you meant. I'd argue that it's maybe more than "urges" I feel. Maybe more of a longing. A romantic longing. But that is the reasoning behind why I don't find masturbation completely plugs the gap.
