Breaking up a relationship

collin13 · Nov 5th 2022, 12:21pm

So after quite a fight with my bf on Thursday night that had him storm off, we called it completely quits last night. I'm numb and can't focus and am constantly crying. He's the only relationship I've ever had and this is the most painful thing I've ever experienced. I felt like a little kid last night who needed his mum. How long does it take to get over this? I didn't even sleep last night and I feel terrible today still. :cries:

BJade · Nov 5th 2022, 2:17pm

it's kinda hard to tell how long

if you do things to distract yourself that can help. Over time it'll get better, but that could be days, weeks or months. And even years later there can still be occasional things that remind you of them (hopefully in a good way

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maseb · Nov 6th 2022, 1:16pm

collin13 wrote:

So after quite a fight with my bf on Thursday night that had him storm off, we called it completely quits last night. I'm numb and can't focus and am constantly crying. He's the only relationship I've ever had and this is the most painful thing I've ever experienced. I felt like a little kid last night who needed his mum. How long does it take to get over this? I didn't even sleep last night and I feel terrible today still.

Sorry to say every break up is different. As @BJade says try doing things to take your mind off it. Good luck!

tfkbuggy · Nov 6th 2022, 1:46pm

It's sad, you never know how long it will take you to get over it. Whatever we say, we may not be able to alleviate your pain, but we are with you! :freehugs:

collin13 · Nov 6th 2022, 2:10pm

Thank you. Its just brutal.

tfkbuggy · Nov 6th 2022, 2:14pm

collin13 wrote:

Thank you. Its just brutal.

I've been through it too, I don't know a "cure" for it, either he'll come back to you (I wish that), or my not-evil suggestion: find another bf.

pahern0317 · Nov 7th 2022, 1:18am

I hope it's not to stressful for you.

ChrisC05 · Nov 7th 2022, 2:11pm

I am sorry to hear you had a fight, we all can say things we don't mean at times, but I feel that the fights are what test the bonds of the relationship, give it a little while and see if you 2 can reconcile your differences , in the mean time try focusing on thing you like to do to keep your mind occupied and remember we are all here to talk or listen if needed. :freehugs:

laurasophie1408 · Jan 10th 2023, 2:17pm

Hey, there is not a time span where you will get over it.
I broke up with my boyfriend three years ago. The pain is mostly gone but I still think about him a lot.
But every breakup is different and maybe it was not quite the end of your relationship. Fights are often there to test your relationship.

collin13 · Jan 12th 2023, 12:19pm

laurasophie1408 wrote:

Hey, there is not a time span where you will get over it.
I broke up with my boyfriend three years ago. The pain is mostly gone but I still think about him a lot.
But every breakup is different and maybe it was not quite the end of your relationship. Fights are often there to test your relationship.

Thanks it took some time but my family and close friends encouraged me to get out there and find someone new and that's what I've done. I'm been working on a new relationship with a boy who I met in the club at school in early december and things have been going well for us. I still think about my first boyfriend a lot but think about the positives only and not what happened which is still pretty painful to think about but you guys were right and thanks for that!

laurasophie1408 · Jan 20th 2023, 8:28pm

I‘m so glad that you got mostly through it and that you found a new person which who make you happy!
I wish you guys only the best

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