Sean2001 wrote:
On the first part, the only thing I have a definite age for is starting to ejaculate which was about 11y9m. I had discovered masturbation a few weeks before that and had started having dry orgasms. Like musicalguy above, I first had an instinctive urge to hump, which felt good and led to the wonderful feeling of orgasm. Then I learned that other guys used their hands and switched to doing it that way.musicalguy wrote:
I have no idea what the second part is on about but to answer the first, I first started masturbating with my hand(s) around 12/13 but ive been having purposeful orgasms as long as I remember as in I used to hump in a certain way and all I knew was that it felt good.
As for "realising it is not a regular activity" perhaps John can offer more explanation on this but I wonder if he means realising the connection with sex. If, as happenned for me, masturbation starts with an urge from within and not because of something you've learned and especially if you've not had the talk or covered it in sex-ed, it seems quite natural that one might not make the connection with sex - it is just something that feels great.
Once you start to ejaculate it seems much more likely you would make the connection. By the time most guys start to ejaculate we should have learned enough to know that babies are made by the male transferring his sperm into the female to meet her egg and that the process of doing that is "having sex". Once you are ejaculating you surely must realise that this liquid is how the sperm get transferred from us to the girl/woman and that therefore masturbating must be generating sensations that are sufficiently similar to sex that our bodies respond the same way, i.e. by triggering orgasm and ejaculation.
None of that suggests anything about masturbating being anything other than normal and certainly nothing about how regularly we do it. The connection to sex doesn't make it some abnormal or nasty activity because sex is normal too. Essentially, once we're able to ejaculate it is normal to do so regularly, at first through masturbation and maybe also wet dreams, then later via blow jobs and/or actual sex too.
Sean2001 wrote:
On the first part, the only thing I have a definite age for is starting to ejaculate which was about 11y9m. I had discovered masturbation a few weeks before that and had started having dry orgasms. Like musicalguy above, I first had an instinctive urge to hump, which felt good and led to the wonderful feeling of orgasm. Then I learned that other guys used their hands and switched to doing it that way.musicalguy wrote:
I have no idea what the second part is on about but to answer the first, I first started masturbating with my hand(s) around 12/13 but ive been having purposeful orgasms as long as I remember as in I used to hump in a certain way and all I knew was that it felt good.
As for "realising it is not a regular activity" perhaps John can offer more explanation on this but I wonder if he means realising the connection with sex. If, as happenned for me, masturbation starts with an urge from within and not because of something you've learned and especially if you've not had the talk or covered it in sex-ed, it seems quite natural that one might not make the connection with sex - it is just something that feels great.
Once you start to ejaculate it seems much more likely you would make the connection. By the time most guys start to ejaculate we should have learned enough to know that babies are made by the male transferring his sperm into the female to meet her egg and that the process of doing that is "having sex". Once you are ejaculating you surely must realise that this liquid is how the sperm get transferred from us to the girl/woman and that therefore masturbating must be generating sensations that are sufficiently similar to sex that our bodies respond the same way, i.e. by triggering orgasm and ejaculation.
None of that suggests anything about masturbating being anything other than normal and certainly nothing about how regularly we do it. The connection to sex doesn't make it some abnormal or nasty activity because sex is normal too. Essentially, once we're able to ejaculate it is normal to do so regularly, at first through masturbation and maybe also wet dreams, then later via blow jobs and/or actual sex too.
Sean2001 wrote:
On the first part, the only thing I have a definite age for is starting to ejaculate which was about 11y9m. I had discovered masturbation a few weeks before that and had started having dry orgasms. Like musicalguy above, I first had an instinctive urge to hump, which felt good and led to the wonderful feeling of orgasm. Then I learned that other guys used their hands and switched to doing it that way.musicalguy wrote:
I have no idea what the second part is on about but to answer the first, I first started masturbating with my hand(s) around 12/13 but ive been having purposeful orgasms as long as I remember as in I used to hump in a certain way and all I knew was that it felt good.
As for "realising it is not a regular activity" perhaps John can offer more explanation on this but I wonder if he means realising the connection with sex. If, as happenned for me, masturbation starts with an urge from within and not because of something you've learned and especially if you've not had the talk or covered it in sex-ed, it seems quite natural that one might not make the connection with sex - it is just something that feels great.
Once you start to ejaculate it seems much more likely you would make the connection. By the time most guys start to ejaculate we should have learned enough to know that babies are made by the male transferring his sperm into the female to meet her egg and that the process of doing that is "having sex". Once you are ejaculating you surely must realise that this liquid is how the sperm get transferred from us to the girl/woman and that therefore masturbating must be generating sensations that are sufficiently similar to sex that our bodies respond the same way, i.e. by triggering orgasm and ejaculation.
None of that suggests anything about masturbating being anything other than normal and certainly nothing about how regularly we do it. The connection to sex doesn't make it some abnormal or nasty activity because sex is normal too. Essentially, once we're able to ejaculate it is normal to do so regularly, at first through masturbation and maybe also wet dreams, then later via blow jobs and/or actual sex too.