my whole family is super christian and conservative, im gay, ive been watching all my friends getting girlfriends and taking them home to their family and having a fun time and having their parents full support, and i know that ill never be able to take a guy home and introduce him as my boyfriend or have that kind of moment, how am i even supposed to have a dating life like this???
Conservative family anxiety
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move out
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I can't even relate to keeping THAT big of a secret from my family. That said we all keep secrets from our family. I wish I could advise you to be honest and come out to them asap and promise you they'd accept you. But I can't make that promise so I won't make that suggestion. Come out when you're 18 and if they don't accept you, move out. In the meantime maybe drop very subtle hints. Just discuss little things like tolerance and acceptance and stuff and see how they take the bait.
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What a great idea... He's 15 yo
BlackParadePixie wrote:
move out
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Do you know what they think about gay people ?
nov.007 wrote:
my whole family is super christian and conservative, im gay, ive been watching all my friends getting girlfriends and taking them home to their family and having a fun time and having their parents full support, and i know that ill' never be able to take a guy home and introduce him as my boyfriend or have that kind of moment, how am i even supposed to have a dating life like this???
Just tell them feelings is not something we can control so if a guy has feelings for another guy it's not his fault. Plus you dont harm anyone, and it's probably better to date a guy you love, than date a girl you dont just to "do like every body"
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You are in a tough situation. As others have said, you may have to wait until you move out. But I hope not.
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Agree with above and you are in a really tough spot. I'm lucky in my situation and everything went well, but my parents are accepting and tolerant. That's all you can hope for I reckon, but man ... I'm not sure how I would handle it myself. Have they ever talked about gay people. Just because someone is conservative and Christian doesn't mean they take issues with gay people from what I know. Maybe just the region I live in is tolerant and I'm clueless though. But man ... tough spot to be in and I feel for ya.
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your family doesn't need to know everything about your life. If they really love you, they should want you to be happy and hopefully in time can respect who you are. In the mean time, do your own thing and be happy yourself.
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