Can people usually tell? im a lil bit zesty so most people can figure it out on their own. im not closeted at all, so its not a secret but most people will assume i'm at least bi.
Can people tell you're gay/bi?
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Someone might think someone is gay if they are always complementing guys on how they dress or saying stuff like did you see that guys abs , but that in itself doesn't mean a guy is gay
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I mean if you're a guy and VERY flamboyant...then yeah, most people are probably going to guess you're gay.
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id say im like... 65% flamboyant xD
BlackParadePixie wrote:
I mean if you're a guy and VERY flamboyant...then yeah, most people are probably going to guess you're gay.
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most of my friends were not surprised when i came out but im not openly flamboyant, whtevr that means
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as @BlackParadePixie says, if you're flamboyant about it everyone will know. Otherwise there aren't many "tells" that gives away a persons sexuality that I've seen. My close friends and family knew I had a sexual attraction to boys, but really no one at school had any idea based on what they've told me.
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There's probably ways someone acts and dress that are more stereotypically gay. But not all people who act that way are gay, and not all gay people fit those stereotypes
Also teens have enough trouble working out there own sexuality
not alone others
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Yes. I have bi face.
Just kidding. I don’t think anyone assumed I was bi until I made comments about finding guys attractive. In most ways, I just seem like any other guy. -
I dont think I have any obvious signs of being gay now, but I did for a long time go out of my way to make sure I acted straight. I dont try to hide being gay now but most wouldn't think I am either. I'm not a big social person either so that probably plays a part too. I think as Jade put it, I dont really fit into the typical stereotypes of a gay person. I started a new school this year and I dont think anyone thinks/knows I'm gay...yet
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I am like 70% straight but do need as my GF says boy time. I don't hide that I like boys , but I don't go around being flamboyant about it either.
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I do not consider myself a stereotypical lesbian at all... except maybe staring at boobs??
Anywho...... Bingo anyone??? xD
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Honestly i'm Pansexual but people can't really tell i'm queer they always just think I'm straight until I say something about it.
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i think its kind of easy to tell if i am gay , as i am a bit feminine and my close friends are girls and we all talk about guys and my hair is kind a bit long and curly and everyone in my class at school does know i am gay , Cathy my best friend says its my eyes that says it all ( can u tell if someone is gay from there eyes ? )
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I'm not actually sure if people know I am gay or not. I'm quite introverted. I'm not flamboyant or the stereotypical gay person, if there even is such a thing. My closest friends all know, my soccer teammates know, but they are mostly my circle of close friends. I don't deny if asked. I figure it isn't anyone's business anyway!
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Sometimes I'd say it's pretty obvious. Flamboyant personality + unique haircut + unique clothing style is a tip off (think Sam Smith for example). But unless a person says they're gay or wears a shirt that says they're gay then you're still only making assumptions. And assumptions are never 100%. Bi is even harder to figure out than gay. But take Sam Smith. Even tho I first thought he was gay (is he bi? Idk?) I wasn't positive until he said so. As bad as it is, sometimes Brit guys can come off as gay even if they're straight af lol. Hope that doesn't offend any Brits here. Im sure you've heard that before. It's just our American ignorance lol.
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I'm not sure what Sam Smith would even be
Gabraham247 wrote:
Sometimes I'd say it's pretty obvious. Flamboyant personality + unique haircut + unique clothing style is a tip off (think Sam Smith for example). But unless a person says they're gay or wears a shirt that says they're gay then you're still only making assumptions. And assumptions are never 100%. Bi is even harder to figure out than gay. But take Sam Smith. Even tho I first thought he was gay (is he bi? Idk?) I wasn't positive until he said so. As bad as it is, sometimes Brit guys can come off as gay even if they're straight af lol. Hope that doesn't offend any Brits here. Im sure you've heard that before. It's just our American ignorance lol.
he's non-binary so isn't male or female, so being bi is easy to define. But would he be gay, if he doesn't identify as male?
I'm also not sure how Brits come off as gay (apart from most that you probably see are musicians or actors who actually are gay ) if anything most Americans I see have flamboyant personality and style
Definitely more flamboyant than
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Flamboyant or just ridiculous looking? I'd argue that they just look ridiculous. Agreed also on the notion that Brits come off as gay. How does that even stand to reason? Because of the accent? In that case, I must be obviously gay cos well I am and I have an accent that differs from everyone else here. I've never thought as Brits as being flamboyant or swishy or what ever the stereotype may be.
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Sometimes you can tell that someone is gay. Then, and I am sure it's a stereotype, the saying that gays can always tell if someone else is gay. It's called gaydar. Personally I have nothing against gay or bis. But our school tends to be homophobic and that tends to inhibit people from identifying as gay or bi. Again, I don't agree with that type of behavior and just saying what the atmosphere is.
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@BJadeand @collin13 idk how to explain the Brit thing. I just know I'm not the only American who gets that wrong vibe. I knew it would piss or irk some none Americans off but it's the truth. I guess the same over-generalizing stereotypes people have about Southern Americans being dumb and into incest (except there's bad issues about being dumb and into incest but absolutely nothing wrong with being gay). And yes anyone can find random photos to make any point. I totally agree that NBA players dress wack (of course not all NBA players are American, which I think you were trying to make a point about Americans, but whatever). And I had no idea Sam Smith was non-binary. Or I knew but forgot. Good to know though, I probably won't forget that now. Thanks for the info. I guess my main point was that I knew he wasn't 100% straight and I guess I was right about that.
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Well, for what it is worth ... I don't have the foggiest idea who Sam Smith is, nor do I care what he/she/they/them identifies as! I'm still trying to figure out how a stereotype exists that Brits somehow fit a gay stereotype. What is it about a Brit that makes this so? Unless you are referring to Elton John, who most definitely is flamboyant and gay! My theme in life is you do you. Just don't identify as a cat, cos urban legend dictates that it may be a fight to get a litter box put in the school bathroom!
Gabraham247 wrote:
@BJadeand @collin13 idk how to explain the Brit thing. I just know I'm not the only American who gets that wrong vibe. I knew it would piss or irk some none Americans off but it's the truth. I guess the same over-generalizing stereotypes people have about Southern Americans being dumb and into incest (except there's bad issues about being dumb and into incest but absolutely nothing wrong with being gay). And yes anyone can find random photos to make any point. I totally agree that NBA players dress wack (of course not all NBA players are American, which I think you were trying to make a point about Americans, but whatever). And I had no idea Sam Smith was non-binary. Or I knew but forgot. Good to know though, I probably won't forget that now. Thanks for the info. I guess my main point was that I knew he wasn't 100% straight and I guess I was right about that.