Me and my girl have been going out for a while now, and we fool around maybe twice a week, for a couple months now. Problem is, I can't get her to orgasm, ever. Shes never been with another guy(apart from kissing) and this is our first relationship. She doesn't know what she likes(other than things I've done) because she doesn't masturbate, hell I showed HER where her clit was. She says it doesn't matter and that it feels really good anyway, but I know she just doesn't want me to feel bad, and I REALLY want to do this for her. I can tell by the way she sounds that she is almost there, but I can never push her over the top. Last time after plenty of making out and feeling around n' such, I was down there for 35min atleast, and it still didn't happen. Any suggestions?

I have no access to vibrators, not to mention I would much rather be able to do it with myself as the only "stimulator". Thanks anyways though.

Fingering, oral, both at the same time.

Pasăre wrote:

I'm one of those women who can't seem to have an orgasm, no matter what. Its like I almost get there, freak out, and tell myself no hahha. No, kidding.

My problem I think is that I always have a lot of tension in that area. See if you can get her to relax. Massage her, try it in a hot bath, play classical music....something like that.

Alright, that sounds good, ill try out a nice long massage. But do you mean to go straight from that to oral? Because that seems like it would be weird. But if i started it with a makeout and led up to it, she'd get turned on and wouldn't be relaxed. Or does it just matter beforehand? I've talked to her about it(not orgasming) and maybe thats putting pressure on her to do it? So should I back off talking about it for a while and not worry about it?