Hi folks. I'll keep the formalities short. I'm 15, male, sophomore in high school.
Recently I've been feeling up and down about life. One day I won't worry of what someone might think of me; the next I feel insignificant or worthless. Now then, I wouldn't kill myself; there are some things in life I do enjoy. But all the other stuff is just heck.
I really don't like my body. Asides from my face which I think is alright, the rest is bleh. I'm pretty tall. but I have very little muscle, fat where there could be muscle, and Im incredibly weak. I figure I brought this on myself having never been into any sports or exercise, opting for the oh-so intense workout of typing and moving a mouse. I've been going to the gym for a month now though, and Im seeing some improvements I guess. But overall I'm still f-ing weak and not good looking.
I'm also so unconfident and introverted. I hate it. I dont know what the heck it is, but I f-ing suck at socializing. I can't seem to carry a good conversation. I mean what the heck do you say? Like to someone who you've been an acquaintance with for a while but never said anything else besides Hey or the answer to some math problem. I'm what you'd call a ***** too; no backbone. I don't really take a stand, I just get so f-ing down about myself that it sort of makes a continuous loop of attempting to do something then thinking that it doesn't matter. Again, I dont know why the heck I'm so poor in confidence and self-esteem.
And then, that girl. You know the one. She's BEAUTIFUL (not hot but just downright stunningly gorgeous), friendly, funny, smart, and probably very kind. And yet, at least with me, I'll probably never have a chance with her. I can't even muster up a f-ing "hello", I mean how bloody pathetic is that?! I want to know her more, I want to go out with her. She seems like a truly nice person, and yet I doubt I'll ever have a chance.
Of course, whats a hurricane of emotions without jealousy or envy? It's those folks who have it made that really get to me. Good lucks, athletic, pretty smart, and very outgoing/social. I'm sure they have their problems as well, but when I see them I don't see some weak coward like me, I see a pretty good person with the inherent "nobodys perfect" flaws. Lucky folks.
So what the heck to do? I want to feel more confident about my self-image, about myself. I want to be able to talk to "that girl" (I can talk to girls fine, its just that one girl I mentioned). I want to know lots of people. I want to do well in school (I'm perfectly capable of it, but its kind of hard when you're doubting yourself all the time). I want to be the one that others see as a model for life. A leader, not a follower.
Also, please dont suggest the pop a pill solution. I was on an anti-depressant for 2 years, and while it did work I've been clean for about a year. It's only recently that I've started feeling down. I don't doubt their effectiveness, but I don't want to rely on a chalky object as the source of happiness for the rest of my life. I want to solve my problems through thinking and discussion, not swallowing some Zoloft and calling it a day.
To anyone who read this: thank you.
Recently I've been feeling up and down about life. One day I won't worry of what someone might think of me; the next I feel insignificant or worthless. Now then, I wouldn't kill myself; there are some things in life I do enjoy. But all the other stuff is just heck.
I really don't like my body. Asides from my face which I think is alright, the rest is bleh. I'm pretty tall. but I have very little muscle, fat where there could be muscle, and Im incredibly weak. I figure I brought this on myself having never been into any sports or exercise, opting for the oh-so intense workout of typing and moving a mouse. I've been going to the gym for a month now though, and Im seeing some improvements I guess. But overall I'm still f-ing weak and not good looking.
I'm also so unconfident and introverted. I hate it. I dont know what the heck it is, but I f-ing suck at socializing. I can't seem to carry a good conversation. I mean what the heck do you say? Like to someone who you've been an acquaintance with for a while but never said anything else besides Hey or the answer to some math problem. I'm what you'd call a ***** too; no backbone. I don't really take a stand, I just get so f-ing down about myself that it sort of makes a continuous loop of attempting to do something then thinking that it doesn't matter. Again, I dont know why the heck I'm so poor in confidence and self-esteem.
And then, that girl. You know the one. She's BEAUTIFUL (not hot but just downright stunningly gorgeous), friendly, funny, smart, and probably very kind. And yet, at least with me, I'll probably never have a chance with her. I can't even muster up a f-ing "hello", I mean how bloody pathetic is that?! I want to know her more, I want to go out with her. She seems like a truly nice person, and yet I doubt I'll ever have a chance.
Of course, whats a hurricane of emotions without jealousy or envy? It's those folks who have it made that really get to me. Good lucks, athletic, pretty smart, and very outgoing/social. I'm sure they have their problems as well, but when I see them I don't see some weak coward like me, I see a pretty good person with the inherent "nobodys perfect" flaws. Lucky folks.
So what the heck to do? I want to feel more confident about my self-image, about myself. I want to be able to talk to "that girl" (I can talk to girls fine, its just that one girl I mentioned). I want to know lots of people. I want to do well in school (I'm perfectly capable of it, but its kind of hard when you're doubting yourself all the time). I want to be the one that others see as a model for life. A leader, not a follower.
Also, please dont suggest the pop a pill solution. I was on an anti-depressant for 2 years, and while it did work I've been clean for about a year. It's only recently that I've started feeling down. I don't doubt their effectiveness, but I don't want to rely on a chalky object as the source of happiness for the rest of my life. I want to solve my problems through thinking and discussion, not swallowing some Zoloft and calling it a day.
To anyone who read this: thank you.