A video ruined my life + Bullies

  • A video ruined my life + Bullies

    have you ever tried to commit scuicide? 53
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      yes (21) 40%
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      no (32) 60%
    Okay right it all started when i went out with this boy, we had quite an intamate relationship although we never actually went all the way.
    There was one time when he gave me a bit of vodka and took me upstairs.
    He took the video camera and told me to strip.
    So i did thinking it would be ok, he was my boyfriend and i trusted him.
    He filmed the whole thing and then fingered me.

    The next day i couldnt really remember much.
    But i got a phonecall from one of my mates a few days later saying they had just seen this horrible video of me.
    I was like WTF and it was starting to come back to me what had happened that night.

    I called my boyfriend as i hadent seen him since that night, no answer, tried to talk to him on msn, no answer. so i havnt spoken to him since.
    My friends didnt react too well to it.
    And i got shouted after really nastily in school.
    It drove me to self harm and i tried to commit scuicide a few times but chickened out.

    Most of my mates have come round now and supported me but even after 3 months i still get shouted after in school and im worried its going to lead me to scuicide again.


    Any advice to beat the bullies??


    Sorry for the essay but i really needed to get all that out.

    Thanks x
    Louisee x

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    Attempted 7 times, failed 6 times, but once after an overdose of pills my heart stopped, thankfully paradmedis resussetated me. I am forever gratefull and no i live my life to the full.
    Your boyfriend sounds like a total idiottttt to be honest, I can see your in a realllllly bad situation. I dont really know how i can advise you but it just goes to show you can do anything when your drunk.
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    I've never tried to kill myself and never will, I have too much to live for.

    There's nothing you can really do about the video, what happened happened and hopefully you'll learn from your mistakes.
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    tried to > didn't work > made everything worse

    Bullies are just so eugh. Tell your parents, tell your school. Embarrassed about what happened? When they get dragged to the front of the school, they wont have the guts to say why they're picking on you (even the 'hardest' of people fall).

    I cant say much but a friend told me that no matter where you go in life, what you do and who you talk to, there will be people ready to take you down but you have to stand up to them and show you aren't afraid.

    Telling my parents about bullies made them stop completely and school is so much nicer. Ignoring them won't make it go away. Nobody has the right to make anyone else feel shit so you have to take a stand and do something about it. Dont try kill yourself, it'll make you feel worse and it will show everyone how weak you are. xx

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    [ Sam ];921196 wrote:

    Attempted 7 times, failed 6 times, but once after an overdose of pills my heart stopped, thankfully paradmedis resussetated me. I am forever gratefull and no i live my life to the full.
    Your boyfriend sounds like a total idiottttt to be honest, I can see your in a realllllly bad situation. I dont really know how i can advise you but it just goes to show you can do anything when your drunk.


    I am glad that you learned your lesson?

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    Look. Guys are always going to be typical perverted assholes i know because i've went through the stage too im not gonna lie to you. Its just the way life is (not all guys, But anyway) This is just a moment in your life where you did something then have to pay for it the next day. But then again its a learning experiance. Just push through it, Never think about Suicide as an option because it makes your whole life a living hell. I've been there too kept trying but never succeeded for some reason. Yeah guess thats all i have to say, Theres people out there that care for you and will do anything to see you happy. And them alone are the reason you have to fight through it. Dont let one douchebag ruin your life. And I, Aswell as MANY other people at TH would be happy to help you through it, feel free to message me if you ever feel down. Goodluck,

    -Jake

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    Glitzz wrote:

    Okay right it all started when i went out with this boy, we had quite an intamate relationship although we never actually went all the way.
    There was one time when he gave me a bit of vodka and took me upstairs.
    He took the video camera and told me to strip.
    So i did thinking it would be ok, he was my boyfriend and i trusted him.
    He filmed the whole thing and then fingered me.

    The next day i couldnt really remember much.
    But i got a phonecall from one of my mates a few days later saying they had just seen this horrible video of me.
    I was like WTF and it was starting to come back to me what had happened that night.

    I called my boyfriend as i hadent seen him since that night, no answer, tried to talk to him on msn, no answer. so i havnt spoken to him since.
    My friends didnt react too well to it.
    And i got shouted after really nastily in school.
    It drove me to self harm and i tried to commit scuicide a few times but chickened out.

    Most of my mates have come round now and supported me but even after 3 months i still get shouted after in school and im worried its going to lead me to scuicide again.


    Any advice to beat the bullies??


    Sorry for the essay but i really needed to get all that out.

    Thanks x
    Louisee x



    Wow that is horrible. People are sick bastards. I have some stories of my own if you would like to talk im me on msn.

    -mimi

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    Okay, i'll tell you my thoughts on this. Yes, people are bound to take the mickey out of it, unfortunately, and yes, it was wrong to do that. However when you feel you're under pressure by people you love you sometimes just make that mistake of giving in to them, because you think that if you dont they wont speak to you or something.

    Yeah maybe tell someone if you feel it is getting too much for you to cope with though. But i'd say one thing, never let any guy (even the man you love) try pressuring you to do something like that, i know its difficult to say no, but a genuine person will understand.

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    Just remember this guy is the sick one. F'n pr*ck. I'm new here and this is the first thread I read and it just really made me angry. I guess if there's one thing you can count on it's that people like this ALWAYS get what's coming to them. It may take time but I guarantee you that he's going to be the one who ultimately ends up suffering for this. You can't betray people like that and not have it come back and bite you eventually. You'll see. He'll get his.

    Keep your head up!

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    People make mistakes, that was just one of yours.

    But he shouldn't have done what he did, and your friends should have stood by you through no that no matter what happened - that's what friends do.

    Don't turn to self harm, it doesn't solve the problems it just makes them bigger.

    x

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    first of all don't ever let yourself get tempted into making a video, especially porn, even when your drunk, try to not get yourself talked into it. Next up is to just ignore what everyones saying, I know it's hard, but showing them that you actually care, only drives them to hunt you down more and say more hurtful things to you. Don't let them get into your head.

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    I'm really sorry your boyfriend did that to you. No respectable guy would do something so cruel. I really hope he doesn't get away with something like that.

    You sound like a good person. The Bullies may bother you now, but you can't give in. If you ignore them, they may stop. But if they don't, you should go to an adult. You may be embarassed to talk to an adult about all this, especially one you know, but it's better to do that instead of being alone and feeling suicidal.

    Feel free to PM me on here or add me to MSN and we can talk.

    Good luck. =)
    Need help or just want to talk? PM me. :)
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    Tried once, failed once.

    Never let someone do that to you, even if they're the one you truly love. Being forced into doing something usually has a lot of bad effects for a lot of people.

    Trust me, if he loved you, he wouldn't have done that.

    after i read that i was wondering who would give you that bad rep on your file..
    that is wise and well said... hears some +rep to even the -rep out :hugs:
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    I can obviously see that he hurt you really bad and I don't know why, as of what i can see your really hot! he ruined something good that he had for reasons i do not know.

    as for the bullies just ignore them or tell the principal / parents about them, i know it may be hard to get ur parents or any adult involved but sometimes its the only way.

    I don't normally condone fighting but its up to u ;)