Would it be called rape?

JennyColada · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:33am

Tricking or coercing someone into sexual contact (especially at that age) is definitely a from of molestation.

Whether or not you want to go to the authorites about it, well, that's up to you. Many cases of rape and molestation go unreported, and that's really something you need to decide. Especially with issues regarding family and close friends, it really isn't worth it to press charges. If you feel that you need to go to the authorites for closure for this situation, then more power to you. But that is by no means something that you HAVE to do.

Banana · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:47am

He can be charged with having non penatrative sex with a minor... Which I think can be classed as rape...

JustScott · Dec 2nd 2008, 8:44am

but then still everyone would find out

JennyColada · Dec 2nd 2008, 8:48am

That is something that you need to decide if it's worth it or not. For many people, taking these matters to higher legal authority really isn't worth it, and they either try to push it aside or confront it themselves (like by talking to the person that did this to them in person).

If you don't want people to find out and thus do not feel comfortable escalating this matter then that is your choice, and one that suits many people. These situations don't have a one-size-fits all answer, so you need to decide what route is best for you.

juicyjoanna · Dec 2nd 2008, 12:43pm

It was not forced and you were both minors a long time ago. It certainly is not rape. He was very young too and maye just did not see it as wrong at the time, kids growing up can do very peculiar things while their belief systems are forming. He may be devestated at the memory of what happened as well.

I would suggest you try talking to him quietly and see if he regrets it or not. Also make sure that he knows you are keeping an eye on him. If he is not remorseful and seems to have enjoyed it, then make sure he knows you will keep an eye on his realtionships with children in the future and blow the whistle on him if you suspect anything.

JustScott · Dec 2nd 2008, 5:05pm

well yeah he must have enjoyed it somehow when he was a teenager. he says he is sorry now and wishes i would stop being so mad about it. his buddy thinks its killer funny and laughs and teases me about doing it

AEBerg · Dec 2nd 2008, 6:33pm

..Wow.

I'm so sorry.

JustScott · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:16pm

is it incest?

wild foamy · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:18pm

i think thats what he meant.

i suppose technically it is, sexual interaction between two members of the same family, but its not full intercourse so im not 100% sure...

either way, sorry to hear something like that would ever happen to someone like you so young, now he has grown up he may have finally realised the wrong he did and regret it.

AEBerg · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:25pm

wild foamy wrote:

i think thats what he meant.

i suppose technically it is, sexual interaction between two members of the same family, but its not full intercourse so im not 100% sure...

either way, sorry to hear something like that would ever happen to someone like you so young, now he has grown up he may have finally realised the wrong he did and regret it.

It's between two brothers, so yes, it is.

But he was being an asshole nonetheless.

Or insensitive, at the least.

juicyjoanna · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:31pm

His mate is a f****** moron.

JustScott wrote:

well yeah he must have enjoyed it somehow when he was a teenager. he says he is sorry now and wishes i would stop being so mad about it. his buddy thinks its killer funny and laughs and teases me about doing it

wild foamy · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:32pm

^ Agree

JustScott · Dec 2nd 2008, 7:42pm

thanks y'all,,, u seem kewl

blackfalcon · Dec 2nd 2008, 9:01pm

It would not be called rape, but as you were too young to know what you were doing, it probably would be something.

JennyColada · Dec 3rd 2008, 5:57pm

juicyjoanna wrote:

It was not forced and you were both minors a long time ago.

If concent is given through deception, fear, violence, ignorance, or anything not from a straight and clear mind, then it doesn't count.

It kind of saddens me how little people seem to understand the concept of forced sexual contact.

Alan_Woods · Dec 3rd 2008, 6:15pm

if they were 14 they did KNOW exactly what they were doing to you. IMO confront him about it and tell him what the hell is wrong with him.

Dime_A_Whiskey · Dec 3rd 2008, 7:07pm

Alan_Woods wrote:

if they were 14 they did KNOW exactly what they were doing to you. IMO confront him about it and tell him what the hell is wrong with him.

You could argue that a teen is not completely developed mentally until past 20 and possibly 30. The frontal lobe controls your decision making, judgment and, impulse control.

Back on topic an easy charge in these cases to make is molestation. On top of Jenny's list in the USA intoxication rules out your ability to give consent.

Scott it would always be up to you what you would do it seems like your brother regrets it. You could talk to the friend and tell him to knock it off or talk to your brother about it and see if he could stop him.

JustScott · Dec 4th 2008, 4:51pm

my brother does tell him to knock it off and he usually does, but he still thinks its funny they did it and makes sure i know it

Bella · Dec 4th 2008, 5:10pm

I think it would be classified at Physical or sexual assult. Most people get trialed for Rape when they put force on someone, like holding them down or something. But you said they tricked you. . so you pretty much did it free will. Not that it was ok for them to do it, it wasn't. If you were to trail them you can go for rape, and see what happens.
Good luck

JustScott · Dec 4th 2008, 5:15pm

i just dont think i could ever do that cause then all my friends and everyone at school would find out

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