Hi there everyone,
Just a little background to my family history here. Two months ago, (11th October 08), my father passed away after two weeks of struggling in hospital with the cancer he had for 6 years.
He was an intelligent, respected man, and it's so hard to come to terms with the family's loss, because he kept us all together in more ways than one. He prevented the arguments between my mother and I, because we have very short tempers between ourselves. He also did all of the bills etc. In addition to this, he sorted out all of the household paperwork etc, which has left my mother completely stranded now, as she hasn't a clue what to do with anything.
My 32 y/o sister is now living with us, helping us out, but Mum's taking her stress out on us both, and it's not fair. She doesn't seem to be able to comprehend the fact that it hurts just as much for us as it does for her, just in a different way. I understand her pain, but it doesn't give her the right to crucify us for doing the smallest things wrong when we are stressed ourselves.
Any ideas how to calm her down? Because I've been trying for long enough now and I'm getting to the end of my tether, much as I love her to bits.
Jamie.
Just a little background to my family history here. Two months ago, (11th October 08), my father passed away after two weeks of struggling in hospital with the cancer he had for 6 years.
He was an intelligent, respected man, and it's so hard to come to terms with the family's loss, because he kept us all together in more ways than one. He prevented the arguments between my mother and I, because we have very short tempers between ourselves. He also did all of the bills etc. In addition to this, he sorted out all of the household paperwork etc, which has left my mother completely stranded now, as she hasn't a clue what to do with anything.
My 32 y/o sister is now living with us, helping us out, but Mum's taking her stress out on us both, and it's not fair. She doesn't seem to be able to comprehend the fact that it hurts just as much for us as it does for her, just in a different way. I understand her pain, but it doesn't give her the right to crucify us for doing the smallest things wrong when we are stressed ourselves.
Any ideas how to calm her down? Because I've been trying for long enough now and I'm getting to the end of my tether, much as I love her to bits.
Jamie.