Hey,

I know how you feel, because my parents split up when I was pretty young. I was about 8 years old when it happened and I remember how it went down. My dad came home and my mom and him had a fight, verbal and physical. I remember crying and I remember my dad telling me that he'll always be with me, and then I remember him packing up his bags, and then he left for the door. I was in tears, because I thought everything will always be good and that I'll have both my parents together. It didn't quite work out that way, but I still keep in touch with my dad although both my parents cannot stand each other. Sometimes, divorce is for the best if your parents aren't getting along really well. It's not fair that they didn't consult you about it either, but maybe if you sat down with each one of them individually, got to know their situation, you might learn about it and you might understand. Your dad is a grown man, so he has to do what he has to do. As long as he talks to you often and as long as he's a support system for you, then things won't be so bad after all. However, to answer your question: Your reaction was a little bit unfair. Don't automatically assume the worst, try to talk to your dad about it if it's bothering you.

Hope this helped!
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armyforthebroken

Hey Wispa,

I read your original post, too. And, I think how you are reacting right now, is perfectly normal and your own personal way to a sad situation. No one wants to see a parent leave thier other, it's heartbreaking and sad - unfortunately though, it happens. It's happend to me, and I can relate to how you're feeling.

It adds insult to injury for really bad things to happen this time of year. But, the best you can do is look forward, and not back. Your dad is still your dad, and always will be, that will never change. You and your mum sound strong, and close, and thats brilliant. Keep your head up and try to enjoy your Christmas. As for your dad leaving your mum; it's sad, but the list you made said everything - maybe it is for the best? Maybe you don't want to see it that way now, and that's expected. Give yourself some time to digest whats going on, and soon, you will accept whats going on and try to work with it best you can.

Good luck, Merry Christmas

Support Leader,
SimpleGirl*

I fear I will share the inevitable and similar experience very soon.

But...no one here can tell you how to react.
And judging from your initial reaction you will be 100% fine. I am not one-bit worried about you. I am actually a little proud of you because you did not freak out.
Of course this will take a little adjustment but it will work out in the end.

Divorces are so common these days it's not funny. But these things happen. My parents broke up when I was 13, and yes it was just before Christmas, I think it happens this time of year because people realise that they want to move on the next year. You can feel bad, but don't be angry at your parents neither your mum or dad. The thing is, your parents don't sound like the hate each other and they both love you very much so you'll find it won't be so bad, you'll probs all get along in future. Now, I actually enjoy living with just my mum because it simpler and she's a lot happier and when dad comes up to visit there no work or anything in the way and end up spending more time together.

You have every right to feel sad, and you probably just wanted to talk to about it, so I hope this made you feel a bit better :o You should be there to support your parents too, there going through I really hard time, you probably can't imagine how they feel. Remember it isn't anybodies fault.

You'll find you'll move on, and life will continue.

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Maddi

That's good that you finally understand your dad's decision. You'll always have your family, so it's nice to hear that it worked out for you.

Always the best,

armyforthebroken

That's rough and I'm sooo sorry.
I say you're reactting pretty well.
you have all right to be angry, but eventually the shock I guess you could say will set in and maybe you'll get upset maybe not, I don't know you so yeah it really depends on you.

so, I think after you cool down you should talk to your dad about all this, tell him that you're angry and why.

hope I helped. good luck! :]

I'm in the same boat as you... My parents have been married for 18 years and were the perfect couple. They're splitting up for my mom's health issues mainly and lack of energy wanting to do anything ever etc. Going to Christmas with my grandparents without her was weird... You'll get through it, if you need anything just message me.

I am so so sorry. I know what's it like. My parents divorced sometime after I was 6 and then my mom got cancer and we kept on moving all the time. It was really hard on me. If you ever need to talk about it or whatever just message me.

It hurt really bad when mine split up...

talk to them about it...