My relationship has had quite the turmoil in the last few, well...months, but it's mainly come to head in the past week.
There is really too much to explain to give anyone a full idea on what's going on, so for most this will serve more as a blog, a way for me to share my thoughts, so I apologize if this seems confusing.
-I'm afraid to be alone
-I feel awkward at parties and in crowds (two things that he enjoys...although he never pushes it on me.
-He is respectful, and I know he'd never do anything to hurt me
-I feel generally depressed (and this makes me think "why would anyone want to be with someone like me?")
We haven't talked in-depth, but basically the gist is this so far:
-He doesn't think we're right for each other (I agree, but that doesn't mean that I don't enjoy the time we spend together as a couple!)
-He thinks I "deserve someone that can give [me] more than [he] can" (whatever THAT means)
-He thinks there have been "incidents building up" (not sure what these are though, as I'm not sure how these incidents made him feel)
-He thinks there are "many things that in the long run that [he wants] that don't"
I just wish that I knew what was going on, with both of us. I feel so lost myself. I really don't want to break up, even though I agree that we aren't totally right for each other. It's just scary, knowing that there's no one else for me right now, and I'm afraid to be alone. But is that really a reason to stay in a relationship? I doubt it. It's a few days before Christmas though, I just want to be happy with him. I want everything to work out, but I'm afraid that we have both already given up.
Things that have lead me to doubt our relationship in the past:
-Our serious lack of a sex life (it was amazing at first, but now I feel like he just has no interest in me sexually).
-Me feeling down. I feel like I'm pushing him away.
I guess that's it. A lot of it is just feelings, but not reasons, so it's a very hard thing for me to understand. I just want to cry, and I want to be held, but I don't have anyone here to hold me.
Thanks for listening.
There is really too much to explain to give anyone a full idea on what's going on, so for most this will serve more as a blog, a way for me to share my thoughts, so I apologize if this seems confusing.
-I'm afraid to be alone
-I feel awkward at parties and in crowds (two things that he enjoys...although he never pushes it on me.
-He is respectful, and I know he'd never do anything to hurt me
-I feel generally depressed (and this makes me think "why would anyone want to be with someone like me?")
We haven't talked in-depth, but basically the gist is this so far:
-He doesn't think we're right for each other (I agree, but that doesn't mean that I don't enjoy the time we spend together as a couple!)
-He thinks I "deserve someone that can give [me] more than [he] can" (whatever THAT means)
-He thinks there have been "incidents building up" (not sure what these are though, as I'm not sure how these incidents made him feel)
-He thinks there are "many things that in the long run that [he wants] that don't"
I just wish that I knew what was going on, with both of us. I feel so lost myself. I really don't want to break up, even though I agree that we aren't totally right for each other. It's just scary, knowing that there's no one else for me right now, and I'm afraid to be alone. But is that really a reason to stay in a relationship? I doubt it. It's a few days before Christmas though, I just want to be happy with him. I want everything to work out, but I'm afraid that we have both already given up.
Things that have lead me to doubt our relationship in the past:
-Our serious lack of a sex life (it was amazing at first, but now I feel like he just has no interest in me sexually).
-Me feeling down. I feel like I'm pushing him away.
I guess that's it. A lot of it is just feelings, but not reasons, so it's a very hard thing for me to understand. I just want to cry, and I want to be held, but I don't have anyone here to hold me.
Thanks for listening.