Weird...?

.Jake · Mar 17th 2009, 5:33pm

Okay...

I've finally got a girlfriend, after 3 years of being single. I was talking to her yesterday, and she mentioned sex. Both of us are virgins, neither have gone past a kiss with the opposite sex. She said she wants to have sex with me, but not yet. I don't know why, but I just don't really like the idea of sex. I'd prefer to just hold her/kiss her forever...

Is this natural? Sex just doesn't really appeal to me. It used to, when I watched porn all day long... but now I actually have a girlfriend...

(my girlfriend agreed with me on this)

(we're both 13)

(we've been together 4 days... almost the longest relationship I've ever held)

(she says she certainly won't dump me... I assured her the same)

(we both feel we love the other completely)

(4 days might not be long, but hopefully it'll multiply itself many times... before we break up (which won't be until the day one of us dies, I think)).

Tabzi · Mar 17th 2009, 5:37pm

Hmm, Its a hard decision to make when you havn't known someone for a long time, If i were in your position i wouldn't know what to do either, Normally its the boy who wants the sex and the girl is hesitating most of the time..

From what you said, I think your love life is going to be full of sex, because just 4 days isn't long enough to know how much you like the person and if your willing to give your virginity to them.

I say you wait a few more days, Maybe weeks, See how your relationship goes.. and then decide.

.Jake · Mar 17th 2009, 5:37pm

Thanks a lot. We said we'd wait until we were ready, anyway, but thanks for the good luck. And yes, it's her who'll get the gift of my virginity. Also, I've known her for about a year now.

Tabzi · Mar 17th 2009, 5:42pm

No problemo, If you've known her for a year that should tell you what you want easily.. What was she like before? Slutty, Cool, Normal or similar to what she is now?

It all depends on what she was like.. and only you can decide what you want to do now..

Goodluck once again

Bella · Mar 17th 2009, 6:52pm

Wait until your ready, plus.. you shouldn't fret to much about her leaving you for because you won't have sex, afterall.. you're both 13 and haven't been dating for a while.

.Jake · Mar 17th 2009, 9:09pm

Tabzi wrote:

No problemo, If you've known her for a year that should tell you what you want easily.. What was she like before? Slutty, Cool, Normal or similar to what she is now?

It all depends on what she was like.. and only you can decide what you want to do now..

Goodluck once again

She certainly isn't/hasn't been slutty. I guess you could say she's cool. But she's damn beautiful.

Faucet · Mar 17th 2009, 9:47pm

Definitely wait for as long as possible. You don't want to end up regretting it later.
Well, who the fuck am I kidding, really. For guys losing your virginity isn't as big of a deal as girls usually, but it would be equally bad for her to regret you after wards. The first time isn't a thing you do for fun, like it might be when you're older, it should be a loving expression to each other.

Cuba15 · Mar 18th 2009, 1:33am

You guys should wait =] Personally I don't think 4 days is long enough but that's just me.I think you should wait atleast 3 months or longer because what happens if it doesn't work out and you ended up having sex because you thought you were love,but wern't really.It's up to you and never feel pressured to do anything.When your ready you will know it.I hope I helped! =]

StillInBed · Mar 18th 2009, 2:22am

1 year isnt long for me XD

Firewall · Mar 18th 2009, 9:13am

Yeah, I'm an asshole.

Let's break this down:

-Four days
-13 y.o.
-"love"
-

.Jake wrote:

before we break up (which won't be until the day one of us dies, I think)).

>> closer

.Jake wrote:

(which won't be until the day one of us dies, I think)).

>>Closer

.Jake wrote:

the day one of us dies, I think)).

>>There it is HAHA!

.Jake wrote:

I think)).

jonathan69 · Mar 18th 2009, 9:43am

I'd say wait. It's good that you both agree that you'll wait until you're ready. But you're only 13, and how would you really know you're ready? After 4 days, that's not long enough to know.

Leigh · Mar 18th 2009, 9:44am

You're both 13 years old, NO.

LOLFag · Mar 18th 2009, 1:16pm

4 days? My relationships usually last over a year, and I thought they were a bit short sometimes.

Quill · Mar 18th 2009, 1:32pm

Firewall wrote:

Yeah, I'm an asshole.

Let's break this down:

-Four days
-13 y.o.
-"love"
-

>> closer
>>Closer
>>There it is HAHA!

pretty much nailed what i couldnt be bothered to type out

Faucet · Mar 18th 2009, 3:36pm

Firewall wrote:

Yeah, I'm an asshole.

Let's break this down:

-Four days
-13 y.o.
-"love"
-

>> closer
>>Closer
>>There it is HAHA!

Love you posters that say what everyone else is thinking.

+rep

.Jake · Mar 18th 2009, 7:31pm

Firewall wrote:

Yeah, I'm an asshole.

Let's break this down:

-Four days
-13 y.o.
-"love"
-

>> closer
>>Closer
>>There it is HAHA!

Yeah, you're an asshole.

And at people who actually act over 8 years old, we weren't planning on having sex for at least 4-6 months.

_Frank_ · Mar 19th 2009, 9:42am

Stats: 13 "In love" four days

LOL NO

jazzr93 · Mar 19th 2009, 10:36am

What is it with you preteens and your so called 'love'.
Broo youve been with her for 4 days.
Slow down
Geez

tyciol · Mar 19th 2009, 11:40am

.Jake wrote:

Okay...I've finally got a girlfriend, after 3 years of being single. I was talking to her yesterday, and she mentioned sex. Both of us are virgins, neither have gone past a kiss with the opposite sex. She said she wants to have sex with me, but not yet. I don't know why, but I just don't really like the idea of sex. I'd prefer to just hold her/kiss her forever...

Make sure you make that clear to her then, if she eventually wants it you might have a problem if you don't want to do it too.

.Jake wrote:

Is this natural? Sex just doesn't really appeal to me. It used to, when I watched porn all day long... but now I actually have a girlfriend...

Anything that exists is 'natural'. You exist, so everything about you is natural. It's not normal though, but it's not like you NEED to be normal. Normal changes, just go with what you want and what is moral (and I've never seen an argument for abstinence being immoral)

.Jake wrote:

(my girlfriend agreed with me on this)(we're both 13)(we've been together 4 days... almost the longest relationship I've ever held)(she says she certainly won't dump me... I assured her the same)(we both feel we love the other completely)(4 days might not be long, but hopefully it'll multiply itself many times... before we break up (which won't be until the day one of us dies, I think)).

Um... wait... why are you guys making promises like this when you've only been together 4 days? Honestly, I think making promises like 'I won't dump you' is kinda silly.

LOLFag · Mar 19th 2009, 12:05pm

Listen, 4 days for me is like a fling or a one night stand. Honestly, 4 days is nothing. Wait until you pass the half year mark before beginning to think about sex. And sex for 13 year olds is just weird. I mean, how long is it? 4 inches? No offense, but 13 year olds weren't made to have sex yet, physically and mentally.

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