The Unnoticeable Gay.

adamEcstacy · Mar 21st 2009, 11:07pm

You know the type. The guy who fits the "standard" for heterosexual males.

Talks normal, acts normal, dresses normal...

The gay kid you don't know about until he just flat-out tells you.

My friends basically told me that's what I am. I believe it too, but man, it sucks. First off, as the 'unnoticeable gay,' I have a hard time, you know, attracting the attention of other gay teenagers. Which sucks, because I want to get to know some of them at my school. Also, if my case is true, I know there's a possibility for other 'UGs' at my school, making it even more impossibly harder...

Well, haha, I don't know what I'm getting at. It just sucks. Ha.

Saradactyl · Mar 21st 2009, 11:10pm

I feel ya.
I am completely untraceable on the gaydar. Even lesbians can't tell I am gay.. it isn't til I say it.
=/

adamEcstacy · Mar 21st 2009, 11:11pm

Yeah. My gaydar sucks so bad.

There is one guy I'm seriously hoping is gay, haha.

But, meh, I can't tell.

Tieko · Mar 21st 2009, 11:13pm

>.> Tip for any guy who wants to be more noticeable: stop playing sports.
I've had people I just met ask if I was gay simply because I told them I hate sports.

Tsunkatse · Mar 21st 2009, 11:16pm

People have asked me this as well, but it's not like I'm a 'UG'. I'm not out yet, but I'm sure it won't be a big surprise once I tell people.

I think my gaydar is dead. It's mostly wishful thinking. I can only spot the obvious.

adamEcstacy · Mar 21st 2009, 11:17pm

I never get crap because I show slight interest in Track and Cross-Country, but I've yet to join in any of it...

Owen wrote:

I think my gaydar is dead. It's mostly wishful thinking. I can only spot the obvious.

Same, but the obvious isn't the type I really want. I want another UG. :[

Cirrax Lankart · Mar 23rd 2009, 1:47pm

I understand completely, though when I'm hyper I can turn a little steriotype.

kite114 · Mar 23rd 2009, 8:34pm

I try so hard to get away from the stereotype. Sometimes i stop having fun and forget that I'm gay and I should have more fun. I think that if your gay great, Just don't flaunt it and make others around you feel uncomfortable. I am in no way saying don't be you just remember to have respect for those around you.

tinhead · Mar 23rd 2009, 8:54pm

I'm the opposite.

Loads of people think I'm gay when I'm not.

Meh. It doesn't really matter to me. The person who matters knows the truth.

allanfpowers · Mar 24th 2009, 7:08pm

just cuz ur gay doesnt mean u have to walk around with a limp wrist and talk with a lisp.

and just cuz ur straight doesn mean u are "normal"

but yeah, know what u mean. i know tons of people who i had no idea they were gay and people who i could swear were gay but arent. it is what it is i guess

Alucard 117 · Mar 25th 2009, 1:04am

That basically describes me, to some extent. One of my friends had his suspicions, but didn't know for sure until I told him over MySpace. I also know how you feel when it comes to getting other UGs. I don't (for the most part) enjoy the gay stereotype.

adamEcstacy · Mar 25th 2009, 6:06pm

Alucard 117 wrote:

That basically describes me, to some extent. One of my friends had his suspicions, but didn't know for sure until I told him over MySpace. I also know how you feel when it comes to getting other UGs. I don't (for the most part) enjoy the gay stereotype.

I don't really like the gay stereotype either. It seems that's the only thing that is shown often, on TV, in the news, etc. It really messes with everyone's general view on homosexuality, and causes the gay people who are unlike the generalization to suffer.

xc_diver12 · Mar 25th 2009, 6:27pm

i'm another one of those who slip under the radar. but i'm bi. does that really count?

Cirrax Lankart · Mar 26th 2009, 3:13pm

sometimes steriotypes cant actually help it ya know. their sick of being repressed so they act free'er than other people, this freedom looks ostentatious to most people. they dont do it with the purpose of annoying people.

coolcrab · Apr 19th 2009, 8:57pm

I fit the standards for the Unnoticeable Gay/Bi. My Gay friend never even had a clue until I told him.

asukara · Apr 20th 2009, 3:55am

Haha my friends would never guess..I'm an Unnoticeable Bi and nobody would guess that I am what I am.

So what do you do if you're an UB/UG and you want to attract the attention of other UGs/UBs?

Clear_Midnight · Apr 20th 2009, 4:01am

why do people say femine men are gay? That's not really true at all, same with lesbians, most are undetectable

Tsunkatse · Apr 20th 2009, 4:06am

Clear_Midnight wrote:

why do people say femine men are gay? That's not really true at all, same with lesbians, most are undetectable

It's just a stereotype.

batfeet · Apr 20th 2009, 4:38am

Nobody is really shocked when I tell them that I am gay even though I wear dresses & have long hair.

**I don't really tell people I am gay, but when it comes up in conversation and they find out - they aren't suprised

dh226 · Apr 22nd 2009, 3:53am

ugh. its not that way for me.
everyone talks about me behind my back about how gay i am.
only i havent come out yet. which makes me kind of reluctant to come out.
im so bad at hiding it. but i guess thats because in recent months ive become comfortable enough with my sexuality that i dont really care as much about hiding it anymore.

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