OK the title says it all. Basically I'm asian and I go to a college that's predominantly white, yet I don't have that many white friends. I do have some white friends, but its not like I can fit into their social circles or if they could fit into mine. Basically it seems to be this way with most of my friends as well. It seems like most of my fellow asian friends only get along among themselves. Does anyone have any idea why? Am I just unconsciously uncomfortable with another ethnic group?
i have no white friends! =(
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This is a very common thing, having social groups that are based off of races. It's because you have things in common with other asians because you yourself are an asian.
The best way to break the racial barrier is to just talk to other people. Talk to some white people, see if you can find someone with the same interests as you.
Friendship is blind; race doesn't matter as long as you are actually friends. Good luck. =)
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I suggest you stay close to your ethnic group while chilling about finding a white friend, no fretting about it. I'm foreign and live away from my country, and don't feel like I'm fitting in, either. But let's allow time to work its way in our lives because that's when the friends we are meant to have, will come to us.
I knew a guy who hated cats. But one came to him, and stayed til it died 16 years later. Similarly, friends approach us and hopefully when they do, they'll be mates with us for a long time to come. I'm sorry I can't offer you anything else. But just let things go along with you every day, and not worry too much. 
Sometimes the best memories people make, are new ones.
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A friends a friend, forget about picking friends by race.
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I'm gonna agree with Liam. cuz we're all humans at the end of the day. we're all the same.
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^ I thought the whole point of this thread was to find to inherit differences between Whites and Asians? So what you said was just meaningless.
YoChess wrote:
OK the title says it all. Basically I'm asian and I go to a college that's predominantly white, yet I don't have that many white friends. I do have some white friends, but its not like I can fit into their social circles or if they could fit into mine. Basically it seems to be this way with most of my friends as well. It seems like most of my fellow asian friends only get along among themselves. Does anyone have any idea why? Am I just unconsciously uncomfortable with another ethnic group?
I can't tell if you actually 'want' to make White friends. Maybe you realized all your Asian friends tend to not have any White friends, and you wanted to do something about it?
Well, I guess it's a pretty good morality to want to try to make more friends with multiple races, or try to want to make more friends with multiple races.
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Friends are friends whether they're black or white - as long as they are real friends that's all that matters.
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im going to have to agree with Liam. (Y);)
Liam wrote:
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Oh man, xxXRawrHelloKittyxxX's thread in the "similar threads" feature made me lo.
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I'm asian, and I notice this too. I think what other people said is true. We feel more comfortable with people of our own race and its not easy to overcome because its subconcious since we've GROWN UP with people like us. If you were adopted by an Italian family from birth, I would say that you would feel more comfortable with them than with Asians. Its hard to just pick up how to act like them or what they're interested in, which causes anxiety. I wouldn't worry about it too much as long as you have friends you can count on. Try to join clubs and activities outside of your comfort zone until it becomes comfortable for you.
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ur human, we are humans, just see them as humans, interact with humans.
fuck racial differences or skin color -
i dont know if you're scared or what.
maybe some thoughts are in your mind
that somehow make you anxious in dealing with them.
just try to mingle with them.
i think white people are nice and cool
and easy to deal with.
just try...who knows you'll love to be friends with them.
a friend is like love it knows no bounderies.
maybe in time you can get through that feelings.
I am an asian too.
I love to be here in TH
nice to meet you here!
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im indian and no offense 2 the white dudes out there that are social but i find that there are bigger percentages of antisocial whites than there are of ne other race(mayb it seems that way because there r a lot more white ppl)...in my school all the indians except one or two(not me) are seen at all the parties and stuff and while there r only a couple chinese, they rnt the kinds that sit at home all weekend...i used to hang out with white kids until i realized all they wanted 2 do is go over 2 each others house and play call of duty...now me and my other indian friend hang out with a few black kids and mayb one white dude(not being racist or nething to whites cuz its only the white guys that r like that not the girls)
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parth6593 wrote:
im indian and no offense 2 the white dudes out there that are social but i find that there are bigger percentages of antisocial whites than there are of ne other race(mayb it seems that way because there r a lot more white ppl)...in my school all the indians except one or two(not me) are seen at all the parties and stuff and while there r only a couple chinese, they rnt the kinds that sit at home all weekend...i used to hang out with white kids until i realized all they wanted 2 do is go over 2 each others house and play call of duty...now me and my other indian friend hang out with a few black kids and mayb one white dude(not being racist or nething to whites cuz its only the white guys that r like that not the girls)
Damn I don't know where you are but here white people love to party just as much as anyone else lol! -
Don't worry about it too much, its just natural to feel like hanging out with others of the same race. As long as you just be yourself and reach out (socially) it won't really make much difference what race your are, you can still get along with people.
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im brown, and white freinds are the best lol, there always down to chill.Not a jealous man, but females lie, But I guess that's just what you do, How could it ever be just us two?
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If your going to get along with someone, you will do weather they are asian or not! Look past there race and just make friends with who they are, not what they are!
Good luck
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i've noticed this in my year at school it's really strange all the foreign people hang around in one big group + their from different countries i.e malaysia, Philippines, India, china, japan. They seem really nice people though but we don't seem to mix only in lessons.
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