Okay, I'm just going to lay this all flat out. Two months ago I asked this girl out and the response was "I'm just not emotionally ready for a relationship right now. I'll still go on a date with you if you want but just as friends." So this confused some of my friends because of things she said about me (i.e. she found me cute, etc.) and the fact that she asked out a guy the next week (so obviously she was lying). So I tried something different last week and just avoided/ignored her because I don't want to like her or think of her anymore. Soon she noticed and asked a friend, the wrong one to ask btw, and he yelled to her face "HE HATES YOU BECAUSE YOU REJECTED HIM". She asked me about it and I lied and said nothing's wrong.
Last night, I was sitting on my porch in an area secluded from the driveway. The same girl and one of my good friends were waiting for me and were talking. He brought up the topic to her of why did she reject me and she thinks that I hate her for not going out with me, but I'm just feigning a smile and pretending to still be her friend. She said that she doesn't want to date me because she got tired of her last two boyfriends because there was nothing new to know about them, and she thinks the same will go for me (she was using that "there was a spark at first when we met, but not really anymore" metaphor). This explains why she asked two separate guys to Military Ball and Prom that she doesn't even know anything about except for their respective names. Slyfully I hopped my fence and came out the front door of the porch to where they could see me. They still don't know that I overheard their conversation.
I know I rambled on and probably bored you to death (srry :D) but I need opinions and different possible routes that I can go about this. Should I just avoid her and discontinue being friends, keep feigning a grin and pretend nothings wrong, confront her about it, etc? Btw I'm also asking this because since i'm a close friend of hers, she talks to me sometimes about asking these guys out and I just get ticked off because that unintentionally states to me "You're not good enough, but that random guy walking down the street is". Thanks for listening, I probably just needed to vent my feelings.
Last night, I was sitting on my porch in an area secluded from the driveway. The same girl and one of my good friends were waiting for me and were talking. He brought up the topic to her of why did she reject me and she thinks that I hate her for not going out with me, but I'm just feigning a smile and pretending to still be her friend. She said that she doesn't want to date me because she got tired of her last two boyfriends because there was nothing new to know about them, and she thinks the same will go for me (she was using that "there was a spark at first when we met, but not really anymore" metaphor). This explains why she asked two separate guys to Military Ball and Prom that she doesn't even know anything about except for their respective names. Slyfully I hopped my fence and came out the front door of the porch to where they could see me. They still don't know that I overheard their conversation.
I know I rambled on and probably bored you to death (srry :D) but I need opinions and different possible routes that I can go about this. Should I just avoid her and discontinue being friends, keep feigning a grin and pretend nothings wrong, confront her about it, etc? Btw I'm also asking this because since i'm a close friend of hers, she talks to me sometimes about asking these guys out and I just get ticked off because that unintentionally states to me "You're not good enough, but that random guy walking down the street is". Thanks for listening, I probably just needed to vent my feelings.
