Oooh just dont say anything bad about other just say things like "Ok" or whateva dont say u agree or disagree jst be civilised.


Mind u im a bit of a gossiper myself. ;]

Haha, you know what I do?
When I'm with my friends, I don't like talking about
other people either. So when they start, I just change
the topic completely.

Example:
Friend: "OMG Did you hear that so and so are going out?! Like EWW, YUCKK, BLAHHH!"
Me: "HOLY SHIIIIT A PENCIL EATER ! GIVE ME BACK MY PENCIL!"
Friend: "Wth? Your so weirdd!" *laughs*
Me: "Yeahhhh... But your weirder!"

BAM! Hehe, change in subject :]

Hehehehh >:]

I definitely know what you mean. You know what I like to do? If any of my friends start gossiping about other people, I leave the group and just hang out with other group of friends. I don't like gossip sometimes either, and I hate inserting myself in the problem, so I just leave; and by leaving - that just shows that the whole "gossip" crap isn't worth my time. Perhaps you should take yourself out and just do your own thing for a while. Talking to your friend is also a possibility. You can tell her that you don't like gossiping and you much rather not get caught up in this "he said she said" crap. Be honest with her and if she's a friend, she'll respect that.

But yes, I know what you mean.

Good luck!
Support Leader,

armyforthebroken

I would definitely try talking to her. Explain to her that you don't like gossiping about other people. If she doesn't understand, give her an example. What if someone was gossiping about her? Would she like it? Ask her that if she doesn't understand.

Good luck. =)

Support Leader,
~James

Gossiping is a waste of time....and it hurts.... why do people have to be so mean to each other?

if your friend starts doing it, try to change the topic... but don't be obvious. just make sure you don't run out of interesting topics that can last the entire time you're together.

When I was still in my younger years, yeah, i gossip a lot. and I admit it. i think it is somewhat apart of girl's teen life. now, duh.. i don't know why I hate talking about other people's lives. May be I'm old too.. Haha

Gossiping friends can be really annoying. I recently went through a huge big thing with my group of friends, where I ended up choosing to not be as close with many of them because I couldn't deal with the gossip. The problem is that friends who gossip about others behind their backs when you're around may well likely be doing the same about you when you're not around. You have to just make a choice about whether this is the sort of person you want to be with, knowing that your choice of friends says a lot about you and will influence who you are. With my, my friends made me into a person I didn't like, and it took a long time for me to realize that.

That said, if you DO decide you want to keep working on the friendship then I can't stress the subject changing enough. It won't work right away, but after you KEEP doing it over and over, it'll slowly train them to just not talk about that stuff with you. (They might still talk about YOU, but you have to just be okay with that.) If they call you on changing the subject, just say lightly (in a non-accusatory way) that you don't really see the fun in gossiping, oh hey, did you see that show on Friday blah blah blah.

The important thing is to not apologize for not wanting to hear gossip. It's a good thing. You don't have to act superior, just don't ever feel like it's a failing on your part.

I know what you mean. I'm still good friends with my friends but I did make it clear to them when they used to gossip a lot that I didn't want to be part of it. They pretty much stopped gossiping around me, not sure what they do when I'm not there.

true, but it is a part of life. without gossips there are no trills. no trills no life. when i was a little younger i just can't enough of it especially when im with friends. life changes especially if your getting older. your life focuses on reality more than anything else.:)

There are plenty of ways to get thrills in life NOT at the expense of others.

This is what you should do.