Well I always hope what I post is life changing advice:wink:.

If it helps you at all, I used to be just like that in middle school. Always self conscious and I'd be damned if I ever really talked to girls. But when I hit high school something changed. Some people are just late bloomers, but there's always a chance to change and to bloom before schedule. People can and will change at a certain point, and it sounds to me like you're at that point. And you also sound like you really want a change, nobody wants to go through high school alone. My best advice is to try your very hardest to open up to people. You can talk about anything, even just ranting to people. Interject yourself into the conversation, allow yourself to be noticed.

What I found is that a vast majority of people are easy to talk to. It just takes a little opening up. When it comes to what to say to people, it's really hard to say what changed for me. I started reading more, and learned a bit more about the world. Pay attention to current events, as they're a great conversation starter. Even celebrity gossip<--- that one could be good with the ladies. They love talking about whos dating who and all that silly stuff. Just try and know what you're talking about. Also, just find a table of friendly looking people and ask if you can eat with them. I know it sounds really difficult, but you could make some really good friends.

Good luck!

seriously, just cause u go to somewhere doesnt mean u have to socialize, u dont have to feel forced to talk or something, besides, probably, its full of people that u may not like as friends

Well you aren't forced to talk, but socializing is an important way to build character and your social skills. These will carry on later when you have to work with new people at your career. Socializing is actually pretty important.

yeah but socializing demands that people be more friendly, and open, and people are not like that

Somebody once said that the most important thing you can ever learn about conversation is how to listen, and I agree. So, rather than rack your brain trying to think of something to say, why not just start to listen really intently to those around you? If there isn't anyone around you, get close enough to hear a conversation in progress. And, especially when dealing with girls, you need to listen sincerely, that is, try to be sincerely interested in what they have to say. I know it feels good when a guy--any guy--seems to be interested in what I am saying. Anyway, if you practice this listening for a while, you are bound to eventually hear something you want to comment on, and when you do, go ahead and join the conversation. Try to contribute something, though, and not just speak for the sake of speaking. And if you can't think of anything to say, just keep listening. The time will come of its own accord.

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