So, I asked my mom why I don't get any privileges. She said the only reason my brother has privileges is because he has a job so he shows responsibility. Well, alright. I show her plenty of repsonsibilty..and this is exactly what I told her...I get A's and B's in school, I don't go party, I clean house and help take care of my 2 year old brother, I show plenty of responsibilty. And as far as a job, i'm 17, i've tried to get a job, i've applied pretty much everywhere and then to find out she doesn't want me to have a job senior year. She gives me no credit for how responsible I am right now and wont give me a chance to show her any further responsibility.

Then she said....it's because you're a girl. IT'S BECAUSE i'M A GiRL. That is SEXIST,and what's sad is against her own sex. So, basically, no matter how responsible I am I can't go out anywhere or do anything, no privileges at all because i'm a girl. She said the world is mean and if I go out and something were to happen then I can't stand up for myself and guys can take care of themselves better. I asked her if she really thought that was fair and she said, yes, that's the way it is. She said I need to get into reality. She's afraid of the world so she holds me back. I don't know what to do, I can't talk to her b/c she thinks what she wants to think. I feel there is nothing I can do to make her feel any different. Does anyone have any suggestions?

I do try to see things from their point of view, but she never tries to understand me in return. Sure, I understand that bad things an happen, like you said a guy could start messing with me. Things like this will always happen, and it's no reason for me to hide out, because that's life. She has to let go sooner or later. My dad definetely wont get involved because my parents are divorced and I havn't seen him in years.

I don't think it's right that girls are considered defenseless, but I guess that's just the way it is. I've done everything I can to show her how responsible I am, it seems nothing is enough. Another issue is she simply doesn't trust me, i've given her no reason for her to believe that she can't trust me. I think she's just going to have to overtime.

Ohh, she can. She's very spiteful. But about this in particular, she's just very overprotective, and she doesn't understand that's it's unfair to me, and she doesn't care because in her mind it's very fair.

I tried to talk to her about it. I always try to talk to her about the way I feel but she blows me off. Yesterday I tried and she told me to f*ck off and that I don't know when to shut up. She says i'm "nuts" in the head and need help. I don't understand why she just wont talk to me. She says that she already knows she won't agree with anything I say and that she's not willing to compromise.