is it wrong for a girl to do this?

ThatChickKaty · Sep 23rd 2009, 9:35pm

I wanted to know if it was wrong for a girl to make the first move.
Like ask for the guys number instead of him asking her.
Or for her to invite him on a movie date instead of him asking her.

Because I realllllly like this kid in my tennis group but I don't want to make a move on him if I shouldn't.

OH and if I shouldn't make a move, what's somethings I could do to help him out a little. Make him know that I like him without actually telling him or being clingy.

Thanks

Lynnywinny · Sep 23rd 2009, 9:58pm

I don't think it's wrong. I'd go for it

ConfusedDan · Sep 23rd 2009, 10:00pm

Well, theres no rule that only guys can ask the girl out. Ive had a 1 or 2 girls ask me out and I happily accepted.

Go for it, and good luck.

The Wolf · Sep 23rd 2009, 10:42pm

ThatChickKaty wrote:

I wanted to know if it was wrong for a girl to make the first move.
Like ask for the guys number instead of him asking her.
Or for her to invite him on a movie date instead of him asking her.

Because I realllllly like this kid in my tennis group but I don't want to make a move on him if I shouldn't.

OH and if I shouldn't make a move, what's somethings I could do to help him out a little. Make him know that I like him without actually telling him or being clingy.

Thanks

I don't think it's wrong for a girl to make a move. There are some shy guys out there who are petrified of making the first move, so if you're interested in someone like that why would it be wrong to help him out a bit? :p

I have actually never heard a guy say that he hates when women make the first move. Times are changing, and along with that I think the whole "men should make the first move" thing is gone. Some women actually propose to men now, so asking for a simple number or a date is nothing. Good luck.

Amy. · Sep 23rd 2009, 10:43pm

not at all. go for it!

Buck · Sep 24th 2009, 12:48am

Well I personally think there is. However there is nothing wrong with giving strong hints.

ComplicatedMind · Sep 24th 2009, 5:33am

I love it when ladies make the first moves! From kissing to etc, it makes us feel like we mean something to you as much as you mean to us.

emi · Sep 24th 2009, 7:26am

Definitely go for it if you have the confidence, methinks.
I'd ask guys out but I'm quite shy

plax77 · Sep 24th 2009, 7:29am

i wish girls would go for it more

it would make life soooooo much easier

ATR · Sep 24th 2009, 9:58am

Go for it, and if he says yes... You know that he's a coward and didnt make the first move.

marryroy · Sep 24th 2009, 10:10am

Hey there ....i read your post......as i have seen and heard girls never make first move because they feel totally insecure to make first move.....but it is the case when she don't like the guy and guy is making the first move....but in your case if you like the guy from the bottom of your heart it is okay to make first move....because you want to go in relationship with that guy....nobody else is going to come.......

Brighteyes · Sep 24th 2009, 10:45am

The Wolf wrote:

I don't think it's wrong for a girl to make a move. There are some shy guys out there who are petrified of making the first move, so if you're interested in someone like that why would it be wrong to help him out a bit? :p

I have actually never heard a guy say that he hates when women make the first move. Times are changing, and along with that I think the whole "men should make the first move" thing is gone. Some women actually propose to men now, so asking for a simple number or a date is nothing. Good luck.

Perfect answer.

Go for it, and good luck.

loveisallyouneed · Sep 24th 2009, 12:35pm

I'm pretty shy and have waited as long as possible (even forever) for some girls to ask me out...I regret waiting now though

Grymlocke · Sep 24th 2009, 1:25pm

loveisallyouneed wrote:

I'm pretty shy and have waited as long as possible (even forever) for some girls to ask me out...I regret waiting now though

Same here, I had this one girl asked me out and ever since then, I expected more to do it. Nu-uh, it never happened again.

So, to the thread leader. Go for it. Make his day. I bet he'll be ecstatic.

the_magician · Sep 24th 2009, 5:42pm

There is absolutely nothing wrong with that! My ex-girlfriend made the first move. (that, by the way, is not the reason for the "ex"). If you want to be a little more subtle to get him to make the first move, just casually complain to him "ugh, I have nobody to hang out with this weekend" or if you are very close, "I wish someone like you would ask me out." I know some of this sounds stupid, but just act casual about it and it should work wonders. Finally, "accidentally" drop your racket near him and slowly reach for it, letting him catch up and either have your hand "accidentally" collide with his which will cause a slightly awkward moment, but he won't be able to stop thinking about you afterwards or let him beat you to it and smile at him as he stands back up, then thank him and find an excuse to walk away. Again, he won't be able to stop thinking about you. Don't worry if he doesn't pick it up, if he notices at all, he will hit himself for not reacting more quickly. Good luck!

ptt1404 · Sep 25th 2009, 8:01am

the girl have to do the first move, that's rule of love ! it makes the boy more self confident haha

ATR · Sep 26th 2009, 4:13pm

ptt1404 wrote:

the girl have to do the first move, that's rule of love ! it makes the boy more self confident haha

Err no...
Guys have to generally make the first move. Girls want a guy who is already self assured and has the guts to go up to them and ask them out.

hollwoodmoviestar42 · Sep 27th 2009, 4:11am

Its not wrong at all.

ptt1404 · Sep 27th 2009, 8:35am

ATR wrote:

Err no...
Guys have to generally make the first move. Girls want a guy who is already self assured and has the guts to go up to them and ask them out.

I just remeber the last times that I did the first move and that bitch treat me likes a poor monster, if we're do the first move she won't interested us anymore. Trust me guy !

Liam1993 · Sep 27th 2009, 8:41am

Nope it's not wrong

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